Race can be very limiting, but I think the underlying issue is culture rather than the color of your skin or background.

I am talking to a Colombian girl right now and for me, her culture and upbringing really enjoys partying/dancing, etc. Different lifestyle from what I was brought up in, but I'm not going to let that hold me back. I like to have fun, and I'm sure I could definitely keep up, but my preferable lifestyle may not match hers, and that can be an issue down the road.

You should know what you want, thats what being a man is all about. You can't always tell her what she wants to hear just to be with her, she will soon realize you have no backbone.

If your objective is just to get laid on the other hand, then play the game bro, be interesting and build the attraction just like anyone else would have to do.

I love living in So Cal as well...I'm in no way trying to paint it in a negative light, just trying to shed some light on a topic that rarely get brought up. Oh, and by the way...you kinda proved my point about race being a factor when you said "Pretty much any resistance based on race, speaking from both my and my friends' experiences now, comes from the parents if it's a very traditional family". Lol.

dear mr amazing, and you are amazing

I was not aware about Indian girls dating White guys exclusively, when I lived in NYC it was sort of rare.

Anyways thanks for all of your advice but I notice that I do not have an Indian accent but I have an accent. People describe it as "Americanized immigrant accent" or whatever.

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so more about southern california, what are some cons of living there?

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There are 2 main cons:

1. Higher cost of living than most areas. (But if you live in NYC, then this won't be a big deal.)

2. Too many hot girls. Who to approach first! Just kidding.

Some races are more desired than others, and some are the least desired, unfortunately, you happen to belong to the one that's least desired. Just deal with it, you will have success sure, but a lot more failures and a lot of rejections just based on your race before you have some taste of success, anyone who says so otherwise is someone who isn't the same race as you and so can't relate to what you feel or face when it comes to dating.

Sorry I just wanted to be honest.

source: Lots of lots of knowledge, information, experiences of friends, etc etc.

are you North Indian or South Indian?

Are you an FOB or Americanized Indian?

do go on

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Were you asking me? Well, I would say I am both, since my mom is from Delhi which is part of North India and my dad is a Kerala Christian, I am both Hindu and Christian as well that way, although I am not very religious and I neither go to a temple nor to a church, and agnostic in the overall sense.

Regarding my upbringing, I was born in the USA when my dad was a research scientist at UIUC, he wanted to go back and start a center in India back in the 80s itself, so I was back to India when I was 4 years old and did all my schooling there in Bangalore. After that, I went to Barcelona, Spain for my Undergrad and worked there for a brief while as an intern, after which came to US and finished my master's here, now I work here, so I don't know what to call myself, I have been in the US for 7 years now, so can't call myself a total FOB but I wasn't brought up in USA, so not a typical American Indian either, I am more multi cultural than either groups I believe as I traveled extensively throughout Europe when I was there.

okay, are you more of a darker looking Indian or the lighter type?

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More of a darker looking Indian, not the typical Bollywood pale skinned hero stuff, I got the richly tanned look however

Sorry race to a degree DOES matter, and yes as you may tell I live in OC. Most of the time it is a cultural thing than anything else. If you don't think race doesn't matter than you never talked to asian girls that come from traditional families then. It is usually not that much of an issue tho as there are loads of mix people here, but this is not to say it can't be one. I do know there are people that only date within their race around here.

Price (can be expensive). Fair amount entitlement attitudes with younger people. A lot of girls or seems a lot of girls are materialistic and/or gold diggers. Thats all I can think of from top of my head.

Nope. May help you actually as while there is an Indian population here (quite of noticeable one) you don't see them on a day to day bases so the whole foreign look thing will work for you here.
Only if you allow such limitations.
They can be. A lot of it has to do with their background/cultural.
Nope.
Um ya, most because a lot of Indians here come from money or have money and a lot of girls here like guys with money.

6. You say if you plan on dating outside your own race and are not White, so are you telling me a White guy can easily get an Indian or Asian girl if he wanted?[/quote]

Absolutely right. that's what I was trying to say. To a few, it matters culturally, because of parents, the way they've been bought up, etc. But at least here, my belief is that 99% of women, regardless of race, don't care about it. Is that one gil you meet in the bar going to be prejudiced? Possibly. But sitting right next to her are probably 10 other gorgeous women her race and others, that aren't, so it's not something I would worry about.

I agree its something one shouldn't worry in the grand scheme of things here. As most of the time it ain't going to be an issue. If it is then go on to the next girl.