So when I was a little kid my family and I moved around, VERY OFTEN. Most of the times we would live a place for a little bit and then move so no stable childhood.

When I turned 12 my parents moved to a small deep south town and I do not have high standards but most of the girls here are not dating material. STD rates are high, not much diversity (nearly everyone is Black, not a lot of Whites), and there is really not much of a social outlet here.

My high school had 300 total students in it and most girls were not dating material, like seriously, they didn't even look decent and had very bad attitudes.

Plan was for me to leave this town until I turned 18 but the high school I went to was so bad (my parents are also immigrants who don't know a thing about college admissions) that I ended up going to a local university because I had no guidance what so ever. My first year of college did not go the best so transferring may not be an option, I may be stuck here till I am 22 or 23 (definitely getting out by then).

I am just afraid that in my 20s it is going to be very tough to get ladies and stuff, am I worrying too much?

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Sure, you're worrying too much. Just don't worry about anything. Seriously. Instead, take action. It's summer now, so can you take a vacation somewhere? Are there any other towns nearby that you could drive to? Are all the girls there SO ugly that you really can't imagine yourself having sex with any of them?

Summer vacation is almost over and I took 2 physics classes in the summer.

Dude, yea, most decent looking girls are taken and it is a conservative area so interracial relationships are not that welcomed.

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any comments?

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You find that which you seek.

If you look for reason NOT to date or interact with people you will find those reasons not to.

conversly if you look for reasons to date you will find that too.

You are making excuses and searching for reasons to be virginal. if you took that time and energy that you apply to looking for the bad and for coming up with excuses to not get to know anyone, you will have a very active social and sex life.

There are nice, normal, healthy young females there. If you choose to look the other way and walk down the path of lonelyness and frustration that is your choice.

You also have the options of looking for the good in people and once you open your eyes and start looking for it, you will soon see it.

I think you need to not worry about what other people think. If you find a black girl that you find attractive go for it. That might be easy for me to say living in Minnesota but if things are going to change down there it's going to start with your generation, don't think you want to wait for the next generation to do it.

I grew up on a farm in a place JUST like this, minus the AA folks. I know what you're going through. Most of those girls get married REALLY young, a couple of them in high school were already married, that in a high school of 300 as well.

I don't think Southern culture is helping you either, being laid back, putting women on pedestals, being ultra conservative and the polite and pomp social rules don't lend themselves to picking up women, nor does the overly oppressive social class system which is still in place.

So---what did I do? I left! Go to a university far, far away. Or, join the military, or...get a job in a city. The point is while you're single that place is going to eat you alive. Find somewhere with a lot of people and hold onto it like it's the last chopper out of nam. Then once you meet the girl of your dreams, move back, it's great place to raise kids.

Also, try going to neighboring towns and just start striking up conversations there. It's also hard to believe that even at small universities there aren't some available, attractive women. KEEP AN OPEN MIND. Not everything and everyone is at is appears.

One more thing. Don't use this as an excuse to get your shit together now where you are. Just because you move doesn't mean your problems are solved. If anything they will be worse because you will have no more excuses, JUST YOU.

okay, guys I would date an Alicia Keys or Meagan Good or average looking black girl but in general I am just not attracted to them

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I am trying my best to leave but the options are really not there. Parents are pushing me to finish college and military is just not for me.

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standards too high

5 of you voted player, I thought players developed at a young age

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You are worrying too much, you are still very young, so it will be fine, just move to a bigger and more racially diverse city, perhaps transfer your credits there or find a job in a city like that, it's easier out there.

In bold, the greatest post on this very thread, happening to me somewhat

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