I planned a date with a girl I know who is staying in my city from Louisiana. She is moving back very soon but may be moving to Los Angeles soon where I'll be living too.

I planned a date with her but now I have found out that this guy who she has been talking with the whole summer from home is coming to visit her for a week... a few days after our date.

is it even worth it to go on this date with her? This might sound really AFC but I'm spending money on this date - Art museum plus nice dinner and although I'm not doing this for an f-close, more for companionship, I still feel like this makes my efforts futile.

Im thinking about toning the dinner back a little( was planning about 70 dollar dinner lol but now I need to find someplace cool and cheap).

I would never pay $70 for a dinner with a girl, let alone one I wasn't in a committed relationship with. Cheap dates can be a lot of fun, whether its a movie theater, bowling alley, hookah bar (my favorite). In fact, my experience with women has been that they are often uncomfortable with expensive dates. That excludes golddiggers but thankfully I've yet to date one. If you already told her you were paying, though, well that puts you in a bit of an awkward moment.

But whether its "worth it" really depends on what you're trying to accomplish. At the end of the day there is a real chance you will never see this girl again. Is it worth ripping a chunk out of your paycheck for one date with a girl? I say no, but that's my opinion. Either way, i will throw in who gives a fuck if another guy is coming. Assume you're a badass for a while and that she won't even want to see him after spending time with you...hell if you're paying that much I'll date ya =P. Competition makes us better, that's the economist in me talking but it applies to things outside of business. You can either worry about him or man up.

never say no to a date, its always good experience.
paying $70 for a dinner, what do you get in return?
why are you worrying about some other guy? you are not dating her and you are getting insecure and jealous already.
both you and her should be simultaneously flirting and going on dates with many different people.

Awesome advice guys! Thanks for keeping me in check. You are both totally right that I need to act like a man and do my own thing, not be jealous already!!

I did not tell her I was paying already although I plan to pay for her musuem entrance but I'll try to find a cheaper place for dinner and do some bar bets game to see whos gonna buy drinks!!

Thanks alot guys, really gave me a confidence boost!

That's a lot of money to spend on a girl especially if you're just going to volunteer for the friend-zone. You're also voluntarily cock-blocking yourself so the other guy can get laid. What's the point?

Cancel this nonsense before you go from an AFC to an ABC (Average Broke Chump).

A Lot of money?

He's just paying for the Museum Fee and maybe, the Dinner.

One night of spending a bit more won't bankrupt him.

Hold your horses, Professor.

Sometimes, grand gestures cross that .. confident grand gestures win over women.

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@ Professor- Thank you for the reply. I sure hope I'm not volunteering for the friend zone! I've already made out with her etc. and broken the attraction phase, plus I plan to gradually escalate kino throughout the night.

This won't make me broke, I partly want to have a good time too. Thanks for the replies all.

Update: Good news: Saved money and gas

Bad News: She cancelled the date due to preparations for her friend coming. Bitches....

A $70 dinner won't make any difference to a chick that's not attracted to you. She'll eat it then give you the same ol' LJBF speech you were getting in the first place, and she'll probably take the doggy bag over to the guy she's banging.

If she is attracted to you, $7 for some tacos will make her love you even more.

Grand gestures are for bad romantic comedies.