ok me and this girl went on our first date on wednesday last week it went well i kinoed a lot and kiss closed her a few times at the end of the date i asked her did she wanna go out again and she said yes. so i said id ring her the next day and arrange it.

So i rang her the next day and we arranged to meet up at a restraurant on saturday but she then text me on saturday afternoon she couldnt go cause her parents where maken her see her grandma cause they where just back from holiday and hadnt seen her in 2 weeks. Now i know shes just back from holiday so i thought this might be a genuine reason and she wasnt flaken, but to find out i text her straight after saying wanna meet up some day in the week then? and she text back i have plans ill see. Now i defintley thought she was flaken here and this where the text conversation got wierd.

me:its alryt it doesnt matter anymore i get the hint
her: what hint?
me: that u dont wanna go on another date with me i dont care if u dont want to just be honest
her: its not that i just have plans this week
me: ok well u text me when u want to go out then

after this she didnt reply and i havent text her since that and its been 3 days now should i still wait for her to text me back? i have no idea what to do???

any advice is welcomed!!!

Oh dear. That transcript reeked of desperation.

When a girl flakes, you don't call her out on it. Act like it doesn't bother you.
She is trying to test you. A guy who calls a girl out on flaking shows that she is
the only girl he has. That is a difficult position to come back from because she is now
in control.

She will never text you back because after that kind of behaviour, you have shown her that you aren't surrounded by choice (pussy)

Never give a chick the chance to dictate when a date occcurs because they rarely follow through.

Now you are going to have to send her a text like "My friend Sarah just won some tickets to (movie she might like). She is busy that day so maybe you will want to come. Let me know as soon as you can, so if you are busy I can give someone else a chance"

DHV is restored.

indeed, abdul.

for A-team:
i would say, you have to keep in mind the following:

-never try to leave your proposal 'unsealed'. meaning, dont just say "lets meet up in 'one of these days' this week", and leave the 'power' to let yuu know when she has got time in her hands... cuz she wont let yuu know... she's a girl, and they got so much other things on their mind that got her attention. so make sure to always pick a time when yuu propose something.. really makes your life easier. for example DONT DO: "hey lets go to the park in [city-X] one of the upcomming days. let me kno when yuu feel like going"
DO: "hey yuu should come and hang out with me in the park in [city-X] this friday. i will call you tomorrow so we can see where we meet at what time/etc.."

-if she tells you that she has plans this week, dont freak out for flaking.. and dont tell her yuu get the hint... actually dont really respond to it anyway, just accept it and say "alright, i ll contact you next week then, and we ll find a time to hang out then". so give her time, and contact her a week later and propose a meeting for [day-X]. yuu dont come off desperate/pushy/needy this way.

so learn from this, and if by any chance yuu ll make it in restoring your DHV, make the best of it!

Hotaru

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