So there's this HB8 i've been gaming for about 2 weeks now and it wasn't till today did i hit my first road bump. It's the same girl from my last FR. Note: last night when i was on the phone with her she sounded...... odd. Like she was upset about something but didn't want to say it. Which is weird because this girl is very vocal about how she feels whenever she's talking to me.


Anyways heres what went down:

10:00 AM

HB8: Katon i gotta tell you something.....

Katon: ...........?

HB8: We both know your a great guy, your probably the nicest i've ever met & don't take it the wrong way, I like you, I really do. But for right now me and *Ex-bf* need to work things out, maybe for the better or maybe just for closure, we've been together to long n we love each other so much. I just need to figure out what i want right now, I'm sorry if i hurt you. It breaks my heart doing this.

Katon: Hurt me? Naww girl, I'm all good. But i understand what you mean... I like you too and i can ensure you my intentions are ture. But if this is what you gotta do by all means, do it. I'm still here whenever you wanna talk, I hope it all works out for you though.

HB8: Thank you for understanding, you honestly have the biggest heart. Just don't plan revenge & break my heart (I told her I have a very elaborate plan to break a former crushes heart for toying with me, jokingly of course........ )

Katon: ahaha jeez i'll consider, I'm already half way done the planning


I'm confused as shit right now, I don't plan on talking to her until she engages me but, i feel so AFC right now. What should i do now?

- Katon

Ya, you got friend zoned. It sounds like you guys got too familiar and you made yourself too available. Don't feel bad if you see her kicking it with some other guy that's not her ex. Shit happens. Move on.

Katon,

Relax and give yourself some credit. You've handled the situation really well and you were a man about it. Maybe she does need to handle things with her ex, and that she's not ready for you right now because her emotions and thoughts are conflicting with each other. Appreciate the fact that she was honest with you because that means she really cares about you and does not want to hurt you because to her you're a great guy. She doesn't want to continue on with you without settling her past, she doesn't want to keep things hanging on the back of her mind. She wants to face it, deal with it, and see what happens. You gotta respect her for that man, because women don't even need to do that for guys whom they don't respect or care about. With that said, I think you should just keep your cool, don't worry about her right now, worry about how to get yourself out of this mess by simply making a decision to go out, have fun, live your life and meet new people and just basically doing whatever you want. If the world was to end tomorrow would you really spend your last moments thinking about this girl? Do the things that you always wanted to do, and if you really care about this girl, check on how she's doing. Just say hey, how are you doing? Miss me? Just flirt with her and have fun with her, don't even allow her to feel bad or think about what she has done to you because if you allow her to do that, every time she faces you she will feel guilt, and that's not a good feeling to feel whenever you see someone. Don't let her feel guilty, keep it light hearted and laugh and have fun. The more fun you two are having, the more she will think about you at the end of the night. The more fun you can provide her as a man who's confident, engaging, and sexy like you, the more she will desire to spend time with you. If she talks about her ex, just listen and move on to the next subject. Don't be her therapist, lead her into something else, lead her into the moment of just you and her hanging out. If she constantly go back to her ex as a subject, then just say hey, we are hanging out, I want to have fun and just enjoy the moment right now, if you want to talk about your ex then you should talk about it with your girlfriend because I don't want to worry about something that does not really matter to the moment right now. What matters is us having fun, or something like that. Take charge and lead her.



- Nelson

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