Over the past year I’ve began to learn how to build comfort quickly with women. I’ve noticed many things that build comfort with women and wanted to share a few with you.



1. Increasing intimacy. The whole idea behind this is when she shares something personal about herself. You up it a notch and share something slightly more personal about yourself.

2. Matching personal history. This shows her you can relate to what she is or has been through.

3. The way she talks. Lets say she is a very descriptive person and goes into detail, then you should also go into detail.

4. Repeating her words. This shows you are listening to her.

5. Decreasing the distance. You can do this by slowly moving closer to her or you can decrease your volume to make her lean towards you.

6. Trance words. You do this by using words that are special to her but using them in your own stories, etc.

7. Be predictable at times. When someone knows what you are going to do you aren’t really seen as a threat. While this can give away your attraction to a woman so beware using this.

Serj

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Sinceriously,
Serj

If its about a traumatizing experience it doesn't always work.

Sometimes people get really offended that you think you shared the "same" feeling.

lolaskate:
If its about a traumatizing experience it doesn't always work.
Sometimes people get really offended that you think you shared the "same" feeling.

There is this magical thing called common sense.
Of course if its a bad experience it is a kill joy and I wont want to know about it especially if it is a stranger.
Besides I doubt a woman will bring up a traumatizing experience to someone she just met and if you are bringing it up then cut that shit out.
If she is your girl friend she might bring it up but by that point you shouldn't have to worry about building comfort.
And you don't have to say "same"... Try "similar".. Everyone can relate to something in some way.

Serj

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Sinceriously,
Serj

Hello Serj,



I think the best way to build rapport is by simply agreeing and i know it's AFC to simply always agree to the lady as we all know that, The first and most instinctive way to build rapport is finding commonalities "Mirroring"...
You can also tease her about stuff that she likes or her hobby and create tension that leads to attraction..
Your goal is to create rapport and by simply using the line "me too" or "feels like i've known you for years" .. Not necessarily agreeing but providing a connection instead!..


Another great way to build powerful rapport in a very fun way is called conspiracy. This tactic is all about creating something between you that is between just the two of you.
Some fun ideas are making up funny nicknames for each other: "I'm calling you (fill in the blank with funny nick name) for now on"
You can be funny by creating a secret handshake, or inside jokes..



Also Unpredictable is more attractive to women and i disagree on the predictable, they like men that they cannot predict and wich is seem not to be boring and makes you more "mysterious" and will make them know more about you wich is a good thing..


You can also share with her similar stories that you have experienced or encountered and also that creates a connection for the both of you wich she can also relate on an emotional level..



Thanks for Posting this and looking forward to hear more from you..


Your friend,



-TheNaturalPlayboy

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Sometimes when i'm with my chick on the low, I'm a flirt.

not many girls are bring up trauma in a first date/ pickup setting and if they do, I recommend changing your game to run like the effing wind lol

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-DJ_Z

Serj

This is a money post my friend, I love that it's simple effective and not detailed to the point of people over thinking it when using in feild.


My hat's off to you Sir

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"J, I guess yer so amazing in bed you send the girls into a transcendent state where they realize their own mortality and are shaken by the realization that their presence bears little impact on the universe, or they just realized they hate you"
-DJ_Z

Ya.. you dont talk about Trauma with a girl till you know her alot better.. and if she is bringin up trauma on a first date.. RUN LIKE THE WIND!!




I liked this post quite a bit... simple yet would be quite effective in the field..

about common ground.. to AFC's dont force it.. If you dont share that many similarities.. yer not dead in the water.. your differences can be an attraction too.. the fact that you two are complete opposites from different sides of the tracks could make whats right between the two of you...

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