Hi everyone...

EDIT : this is the current situation , yeah it will help if you read the whole message, but I guess it will be enough if you just read what I am about to do now... To shorten it, I meet 1 girl online that I really like, she lives on other continent, but now she is on vacation in country just next to me, 150km away... At start it was all great, then we talked less, and less... I was way too much all over her, I think that was my biggest mistake... Now she didn't reply to me few days already, while she comes online, so I decided I am gonna do my final move, and see what it happens.. I don't want to be a wuss, and send her message each few days without getting response, so it's time to be serious, and see what will happen... Now read the message in the ()...

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She is fighting with her bf now, so I think this is my chance.... What I plan to do is send her 1 long message ( not boring long, but more then 1-2 sentences ) in which I plan to tell her few things :
- remind her that we had really good time
- explain to her how good it would be that we meet together
- tell her that this is my last message to her, yes, I like her, but I don't plan to run after her, I am not that kind of guy
So I got only 1 chance, I need to spark the attraction, be kind to her, but I also need to show her that she is not so important, and I am going away... Goal is that she runs after me after she reads that message...

I hope someone can help me... I really don't want to screw up this one, but I think this is the only way to do it...

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Recently I started chatting on omegle, and I was lucky to find there 1 girl that I really like... She is almost 16 years old, wears glasses, doesn't love to go to clubs, and I think she wants a lot of attention that she wasn't getting till now...
Back then ( few weeks ago ), I didn't knew anything about this stuff, so when she showed me her pic on omegle, I was totally over here, I said to her that she is really, really pretty, and I don't want to lose her so I requested her facebook / email.
She didn't want to give it first, 1 of the reasons was that she had a bf, but I was so stubborn that at end she added me....

So next day we started chatting on facebook, I showed her few of my pictures, and she really liked me.. I was flerting with her more, and more, and we started with sexting, and showing each other different body parts... She was telling me more and more that she really wants me, and that I am over there she would leave her bf immidiatly... For next few days we continued with sexting, and at end she showed me everything she got... Heck, she even sent me poses I requested...
As I realized she didn't do anything like this before, I think she was really surprised someone like her so much... I was flattering her all the time, to really extreme level ( which was a mistake )...

Then 1 day I kinda imagined that I am in love with her so I started expressing her my love... I totally let myself into it, but it was more like a fantasy then a real thing... Don't know how to describe it really... She was also totally into it, and she replied on all my messages... We was kinda sad cause we live so far away, but 1 of things I didn't mention is that she is actually from a country next to me, when she was little they moved to USA.... And in just a few days, she was coming over here for a vacation !

After that our conversation kinda stucked... Our normal conversations don't bring up the attraction ( we talk about really stupid stuff ), she doesn't know really good to talk, and I decided I will not express her love anymore ( cause we agreed we gonna slow down a little ) , and sexting started being boring cause it's all the time same, and same stuff....

While days passed, I was still getting my heart broken reading love messages between her and her bf.... And we was talking less, and less... ( I even tried to take 1 day of pause so that she wants me more, but that didn't really help )

So finally day arrived when she was gonna go to that vacation, just next to my country... We talked before a lot about it, so basically I would take a room in hotel for 3 days where she would visit me... She wanted to do it, only problem was her bf cause she feels sorry for him.... He cheated her before too, but she says she really loves him... She loves me too, but it's different, she knows her bf from when they was little, and they are already year and a half together...

So she flied over to another country where she doesn't have internet acccess really often so it's really hard to talk to her.... I sent her few messages, but she didn't have much time, she didn't reply on my message, but as I realized after she was SPAM with her bf... He sends her all the time messages that he really loves her.. Basically just few days after she was about to leave we didn't talk much.... I tried now teasing her is she scared or what, but I didn't get any response.... I would still really like to meet her, I really like her, and I think about her a lot... Could anyone give me a good suggestion how could I spark again the attraction or is everything lost ? Was I too much all over her, so I am not interesting anymore ?


Thanks.

let her go. She has a boyfriend and doesnt even live in the same country as you. Your being silly dude.

Yeah, that's one of the options, to give up...

Other option is to try something crazy, like this, and get something from it... I think that spending few days with her is worth it...

ok. waste your time

Do you think she wasn't honest when she said she want to meet me ?

But anyway, I don't want this to be judged, topic title says it all.... I want to have something succesfull from online meeting, that is all... This is as far as I got with it till now... Need some help to push it even farther...

Thanks !

Hey guys, I seriously need some help about this...

What I plan to do is send her 1 long message ( not boring long, but more then 1-2 sentences ) in which I plan to tell her few things :
- remind her that we had really good time
- explain to her how good it would be that we meet together
- tell her that this is my last message to her, yes, I like her, but I don't plan to run after her, I am not that kind of guy
So I got only 1 chance, I need to spark the attraction, be kind to her, but I also need to show her that she is not so important, and I am going away...
Goal is that she runs after me after she reads that message...

I hope someone can help me... I really don't want to screw up this one, but I think this is the only way to do it...

NAH MAN FUCK THIS SHIT,
giant waste of time, she doesn't live near you, she has a bf,
just think of the karma, fucking girls with BF's is lame,
its justifiable if she doesn't tell you, but how would you feel if some guy was all try hard behind your back trying to fuck your gf,

just go out and approach real girls, were you live, you sound young by your post, densensitize yourself to approach anxiety now, don't hide behind your computer going on internet chats and using facebook to try to pull girls, go meet girls that are outside of your social circles so you can be as bold as you want and not have to worry about the social reprucussions, think about it like this, if that cute girl was so willing to get sexual with you over the internet just after seeing some pics, think of what happens if a girl is that willing in person, ill tell you what happens, you get head bro, and head feels good,

also being sexual in person with the element of physical contact is much more powerfull then exchanging pictures over the internet, don't waste your time with this shit

I think you lost me at "She lives on another continent."

The feasibility of anything resulting from this is very, very less. Find someone nearer to you.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

But this whole month she is only 150km away...

Just read my message before your post, that is only thing that is important....

Now, I'd read your whole post, but I didn't want to be impolite. I guess that's not an option anymore.

You have delusions of grandeur.

Let's take up the first girl, she lost interest very soon when you become needy and I cannot see any way how you can convince her over the internet no less that you deserve another chance. Are you a changed guy? She doesn't think so and honestly, neither do I. Do you know that when women receive these "long, beautiful" messages they cringe with distaste? This isn't a movie here, she won't come running to you after reading your confession. You (maybe) had a chance, you (definitely) blew it.

On to the second girl, you got her to send you all kinds of pictures and in the poses you demanded too. Well done. But, then..


After that our conversation kinda stucked... Our normal conversations don't bring up the attraction ( we talk about really stupid stuff ), she doesn't know really good to talk, and I decided I will not express her love anymore ( cause we agreed we gonna slow down a little ) , and sexting started being boring cause it's all the time same, and same stuff....


YOU made the decision to stop the whole "expression of love", YOU started thinking that sexting had become boring and YOU thought that she had nothing good to talk about. If you were the one passing all the judgement, then why contradict yourself at the end and say that you want to get the attraction back with this girl. She is obviously still going to stay committed to a guy she can meet everyday. And internet relationships are never going to come into fashion, as to say.

Moving on is the best thing to do at this point. Hard? Sure. But the most sensible.

Good luck ahead.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Ok, thank you for your time...

Eh, too bad I can't take time back then... I was hoping there is some way to reverse all that was done till now...

BTW her bf is even more needy, he basically cries on her facebook wall...
I still want to meet her ( I would even if I wouldn't like her ) because I want to experience something new...

It would be great if someone could give me some tips for that message I am planning to wrotte... It's a challenge, and I will try to win it even I kinda screwed up already... It makes it only more interesting..

Don't write the damn message, kid!

We do not live in a romantic comedy where over the top gestures and dramatic final words suddenly convince people to come to our side. Wake up and go out. Have a life, go to a mall, join a gym, meet a girl who's single and within a 10 mile radius. You're ignoring all of the advice because you are convinced you can pull something off. Well, you can't, and if you refuse to listen to anyone why come to a forum? I mean, the sheer arrogance to think that you can write a paragraph or less that will have her swooning for you is ridiculous! I hope you drive the 150 km to see her and get shot down immediately, because apparently thats teh only way you will move on in life.

I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.

Are you collecting points ?

Seriously, I don't like "give up" answers, that's why I am still going... I have really nothing to lose, so why give up ? What can I lose by sending 1 message ?
And if that's bad idea, well suggest me then what's the other way to get her attention back... I was kinda thinking this will be easy for the "experts"...

On other hand I understand everything that few people tried to say... But what's the point in internet dating anyway then ? You need to take it to another level... And also, distance IS the problem, but it's not unsolvable problem, there is lot of good examples in videos from DeAngelo... So this is the far as I came with internet dating, and she is actually not so far away anymore, we even talk same language.... So yeah I should definitly give up without even trying, why I would want to learn something from this... Let's say I go to her country, pay the hotel, and meet her, and it doesn't work at the end... That's cool, for 1) I am gonna see where I made the mistake, and 2) I am gonna have great time in that paradise cause it's really attractive, and full of stuff to do... Maybe I will meet some another girl over there...

And she is actually first girl I tried to seduce on the internet... I made many mistakes with her... After her I seduced 2 more, and I didn't repeat the same mistake, I actually made them ask me do I like them... 1 of them now wants to come to visit me, and with other I am having dirty talks, cyber on web cam, and similar stuff...

Nobody does and we don't like giving it, but it's the best road for you to take at this point.
The time and effort you'll still be putting in a lost cause
IMO the only reason to do any online thing is to get them to visit you in real life so you can seduce em and actually get something going IRL. And even then I think it's best to hook up someone who is close to you already (150 km isn't).
It's possible to get around distance, but you've already ruined your chance at getting that right, see other posts.
And talking the same language is a unique feature :S I'm sure you'll be able to find more girls closer to you that have that same quality and more
If you read and understood all the posts in this thread you could have already learned a lot from this, without sending the message
Have fun with the cyber and I suggest you come back here when you're ready to face the real world

So in short: you've already ruined it, she has a bf and you're getting needy of her specifically (oneitis): let her go and go out for more girls near you.

Good luck!

Well, if I will go over to her, it's not that I am just gonna chat with her and go home.... She promised me much more...