Hey guys,

First tell you that I admire all of you, I always had that problem that I become that 'good friend', actually now that I think about it I still do, but at least I can go to a club and get a few phone numbers.

So I met this girl in school this year, she's been in this school since 7 years ago, i've been there 13 years, but she's on a grade lower (however she's only a month younger) and well as we are sharing common room (basically somewhere to hang out in school when we have free periods) my grade and the one below so I met her.

She's fantastic. Sweet, intelligent (already has a scholarship from Stamford or something), funny, and what I find most important I have fun when I'm with her, to the point where I want to be with her always. I finish school this year (by the way I live in Madrid, this is all in Madrid) and I really want to have something with her.

Not the end of the story - there was a party where I really decide I'm going to go talk to her seriously (relationship things - i am not good at that, partly the reason I am writing this) when I see a good friend (not from school) you know going to where we all do with her. He's a good friend, and I always say bro's before girls so I didnt do anything. Next thing I know they're going out, but it doesnt work out, and for help the girl asks me to just help her, what should she do, basically someone to talk to. Of course it was hard, I want her to break up with him, but of course 'him' is a good friend and I have a conscience.

So today I talked with her and she wants to end. To tell you the whole truth, she said she didnt have time for a boyfriend and because he hasnt been what she hoped he would be. He hasnt treated her very well (no violence, just putting that out there in case) just that he hasnt given her the space she needs (apparently) and so she's fed up, but also gave the reason 'i dont have time'.

I wont let that get in my way, but when we talked about this it even felt better cause when she started saying how she would like a boyfriend to be like somebody who would make her feel good, happy, and more stuff - basically what I do when Im in a relationship (never passed a few weeks - until read 'The Game' and now make out once in a while with girls in clubs) but never got the chance to hoop up with someone when she's present, which I think could do the trick.

As you can see, we became quite close in only a few months and I really, really like her. I want to do something about it. It just kills me to see her everyday and not being able to say 'I love you' or just kiss her.

What should I do? I think I've having like IOI's throughout this time, like congratulating me the first for my birthday, or like saying 'its a date', just saying hi all the time, giving me songs, telling she want to watch with me heroes (know that TV show? hehe) and just stuff like that... I just dont know if I can consider them IOI. Ive been negging her a little all the time, but I think i should stop and just gradually walk towards talking.. I don't know about having a realtionship!??

Please, please help me, and sorry for making this so long!

Thanks in advance,
manutdfan

It sounds to me like you're waist deep in the LJBF zone. The only way to find out for sure is to amp up the kino. See what her response is. Just be prepared for whichever response she gives.

OK. Just read a lot about what you have said... god its gonna be tough. I cant even think how hard it'll be to just ignore her for a while. So no heroes for her this week! "yeh... I just have tonnes of work!" and no CD to record it in.. god just to imagine myself saying that hurts.. its just not who I am.. I HELP!!

What should I do if she asks: "Have you done something wrong?" or "Are you OK? Everything OK?" the latter I think i know how to answer (by saying great, right!?"

Cheers!

WHAT? No, I didn't say ignore her. I said the opposite of that. AMP UP THE KINO! In other words get touchy feely with her.

Got it. I thought you did, sorry about that, but this morning it was already difficult, tried to ignore here but she came up, and forgetting for a moment the fact that I like her, I can't just ignore people that are talking to me! But after that I did Kino and stuff, so thats good.

Thank you very much!

Dude, she's 'kino-ing' back! She holds on to me when I'm close, she gets touchy feely when I'm just next to her and she's just working..... haha this is great!

Exactly man. Glad to hear it. Now keep it up.

It seems to me you have one-itis. If she is really special to you you have to stop being "that cute friendly guy" to "that hot manly guy" to do that be alpha and as LA Tripp said kino. Ya try to be C&F whenever ur around her and stuff like that.
What you want to do if you feel like ur in the LJBF is talk about other girls around her and see how she reacts. DHV is important and try not to immortalize her in ur mind. Think of her as just another girl. ya dig?