when I meet new people, I really don't have nothing to speak about off the top of my dome to initiate conversation topic, my mind gos blank. I'm not a storyteller and I'm not someone who speaks too much about my life too much..what do you usually talk about with chicks when you bring up conversation topics or whatever?

i knw hw u feel im in the same boat sometimes my mind goes blank
and im unable to sustain a convo...hmmm
hw can i build a good convo

Haha, I think we were all there at one point. You see this hot chick, you can't think of anything.

So first thing say hi. if you can't say anything else, at least you said hi.

If it casual, maybe a good morning or good afternoon followed by how are you? And then bam! Tons of stuff to talk about.

Also commenting on the situation, what they wear is a nice start too.

ahhh test syndrome, welcome to the first sticking point i ever had,

here are some things that helped me get over this,

1)open more sets, i find when i first started, first 5-10 sets i would get test syndrome, the more i got the anxiety out of the way, the more i opened up and could think, 1st set stumble through opener, girls respond positively, you just stand there for 2 minutes awkwardly not knowing what to say, they look side to side and leave, you go awww man i fucked up, 20 sets later, you have 0 AA, you are now almost over confident, can think clear and are out of your head

2)don't think about the outcome at first, untill you see interest, have the goal in mind of im going to talk to some people, not im going to go fuck this girl here, HEY CAN I GET YOUR OPINION ON SOMETHING (DAMN LOOK AT THOSE TITTIES AND THIS TIGHT MINI SKIRT) HER:YEAH SURE YOU:(*oh fuck what was i supposed to do again to get laid? step 2? uhhhh.....*) NEVER MIND CANT REMEMBER SEE YOU LATER!!

3) be in a good mood, do something to get into a good mood before you go talk, and think happy thoughts in your head as you approach

4)if all else fails use SO TELL ME ABOUT YOURSELF! as your trump card or just randomly throw out WHAT, HOW, WHY, all over and wing it after those words come out of your mouth

GOOD LUCK, HOPE THIS HELPS

General conversation is easy- especially when meeting a new person. The key is to listen to what they have to say, then ask lots of follow-up questions and share some of your own stories/comments if it relates to what they are saying. Personally I've never had a single awkward silence on a date which might be a problem since most of my dates don't go anywhere.

Now kino/flirting/escalating etc. That is hard!

When im feeling crappy or out of state this happens. It happens when im more focused on myself than everything else. Anxiety created by thinking what do i talk about?!

when you catch yourself doing this, just look around focus on the outside. Easier said than done though.

I don't really do much besides go to school, watch sports/tv shows nd listen to music
during my free time. I don't travel the world or go to clubs/bars like that or have a huge social circle when I can just talk about other people in conversation..I don't know man.

Yes! This is absolutely true. Every time Im talking to someone (kids or adults, guys or girls) and i run out of things to say, i realize that I am actually just trying too hard to make conversation. I cured this by doing what Loompis said, just focus on something else, and a topic or statement will just drift into your head

If you are still stuck, just do the whole 'hook point' thing, by selecting a subject from what the target says. to get them to drop some hooks, use q's like why and how(just take it easy and don't be like, why this, why that, why did...etc)

I personally think the feeling of "I need to talk to her, I need to be a good story teller to impress her, I need to say this to make her feel like I'm not that attracted to her, etc. etc. is utterly bullshit. We don't need to do any of these things for her as much as she doesn't need to do all of these things for us. The girls that we are attracted to, most likely don't worry about what to say, when to say, or what to say next. They're simply speaking their minds and listening to us. They respond from what we say or just grant us space and silence for us to talk. Good conversationalists aren't the one that talk majority of the time; they don't dominate the whole conversation. They know that the other party has something to share, and they know how to inspire that side by listening then respond with a question/comment. How do we talk to our friends? Same thing, we listen to what the other one says, then we throw our own opinion into the conversation. If we don't know, we'll listen to see if he/she emphasize more on the subject or we ask questions about what the heck that thing is. We need to be comfortable with not knowing what to say next or where the conversation is going to lead us. We need to be comfortable with this type of uncertainty and really be in the moment and enjoy wherever it takes us. We can lead the conversation, but that does not mean we should control it. If we can go into any type of conversations with this type of mindset, knowing that whatever happens, happens; I am responsible for my own thoughts, my actions, and what I say. I am not responsible for however she responds or feels about what I say. What I AM responsible for is how to respond with her response. If we have that mindset and enter into any conversations, I think we won't have that much performance anxiety and perform better than we have imagined. Practice listening. Don't worry about what to say. Just listen and stfu, when you feel an urge to really say something or you know you can contribute, do it, but if you feel obligated to say something to impress her or play games with her, don't bother. You're shooting your self and your chances in the head. Just chill, relax, and enjoy the moment. Fuck it, let's do it.



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