Let me hop in here
First off when I read the word "coy” I laughed, no offense to you its was just funny how you described it.
So lets talk about what TMT wrote
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First of all, don’t think of them dates... think of it as just hanging out with her... just do what you normally do: go to the beach, play monopoly at her house, go to a show, shopping, park... someplace where you she will have the privilege to know you....
This will lead you into a never-ending spiral of the friend’s zone. Hanging out is a good thing for her to think she is going to uncomfortable at first, but is a bad thing for you to actually think. The activates present are all well and good, monopoly is one of my favs, but they all need to lead to escalation and sexual framing if you are looking to get this girl into you sexually.
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also, reframe your mindset... be confident and don’t try to impress her, just be yourself...
As for being yourself, seriously I’m sure you are an awesome guy, especially if you have lots of friends that are girls. The only issue is that they are just friends because you have been yourself, which is the sweet caring sensitive guy that is not peaking the sexually interest of them. This cannot be the case with the new girl who you are trying to date.
Here is my take. For one, no one can tell you the right time to kiss, you need to feel it. The Mystery kiss close is a good one and is great if you’re not sure if it’s a good time, but you want to give it a go. The activity you are going to do (no movies, shows, tv, dinner) is just a filler for you to find out more about her and to spike her interest in you. Keep topics rolling, besides what you are actually doing. Make her qualify herself too you and get her to open up, not by asking, “so what do you do”. Tell her interesting/ funny stories, you can run a few routines on her, ask a couple physiologic questions (strawberry fields, the cube), all while building comfort and a connection. Kino the whole time (light touching) will make the kiss easier and will let her know that you are interested. Have a stronger frame (hoop) such as sticking out your hand to see if she holds it, or other hoops work great to see how your progress is coming. It’s all up to you and your attitude on how the date will go and what the outcome will be.
If none of this sounds familiar, because I pretty much just summed up a certain book, then you need to do some reading before reposting.
Hope this gets you started.
CA