Although at this stage in my life due to life events make me slightly depressed and low on confidence, usually I pride my ability to make friends rather quickly, pickup on when someones not feeling their best and make people feel better and motivated.

However, im positive there are MANY people much better at being "likeable" than me. For example, I know I still struggle with opening big groups of people from time to time, and sometimes trying to influence someones perception of me positively simply wont work.

SO, im wondering whether anyone on this forum can honestly say that they get people to love them 99% of the time, not necessarily in a sexual way but just in a "that guy is really cool, I want to be friends with him at least" kind of way.

Im wondering whether its possible to be THAT good, and im questioning how one would get to that stage of being charismatic (if thats the word to use)
What did you practice to get that good?

Im asking because I plan on starting my own cult. No, not really.

But seriously, hit me up if you want to join. Still kidding



edit: also this isnt just about being funny, but about being to easily and consistently dominate conversation in a way which makes you appear very knowledgeable and likeable, if you get what I mean

Take an ideal. Study him. Closely.

Eventually, you will become like him.

Worked for me.

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the problem you have is that the outcome you seek can only be reached by not seeking that outcome

So how would you work towards it??

DO WHAT YOU WANT
DON'T CARE WHAT PEOPLE THINK ABOUT YOU

hmmm...

I had literally everyone I came into contact with me like me in my AFC days. But that actually hurt me, because I was just that super nice, sweet guy everyone could be friends with, and it hurt me with the girls (went through pretty much all of my high school career without having a girlfriend, and never kissed a girl), as well as put a TON of strain on me trying to please everyone.

There are definitely different kinds of being liked by everyone, and just having people like" you doesn't mean anything in this game. Or in other parts of life, either, I've realized. Doing as pumpington says, and just doing as you please won't make you liked by everyone, but it will create that right type of being liked by some, and more importantly you will feel good about yourself.

i don't trust people in general .. if you make too many friends too easily someone is going to stab you in the back ...

i prefer to be anonimous... more like a nomad, i don't feel the need to be popular or nice guy..

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Yeah I was the same in highschool!
But i mean the better kind of like, how you and pumpington have suggested.
Liked in a "Hes cool" rather than "Hes so sweet"

And Lode thats awesome im total opposite in that sense though

I have and have had the personality, just not the game, I can legit say at least 85% of people think "he's cool" but ONLY after they get to know me (5 mins usually). I have the best mindset I think I can have at the moment, I can kino, I can game, I can ask questions, and dammit i think im the hottest thing around. I know deep inside thats not true (at all lol), but when i say it everyone believes it(you did didnt you? for a split second at least). Also the other 15% that dont care about me, I leave them, wtf are they gunna do help me? everyone I hang around loves me, if not gtfo

this is me

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Good stuff Charblad, for you, what helped you get that personality in your opinion?
Not that I think im the best, but what helped me was working at a coffee shop. Forced interaction with people made me want to come across as interested in them/interesting myself