Well, she's holding out on you. Maybe she isn't sure.

Whatever it is, you CANNOT let this situation fester more than it already has. Damage control time.

Tell her, that she means something to you and it's not just sex for you too. (Lie about it, if needed)

Break her barriers through romance, not caveman antics.

If you can convince her to see that you feel strongly about her without coming off as needy and desperate, she will offer herself to you with a bow round her waist.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

I was thinking that after this freeze out, I'll just have fun with the group of friends we're going to the concert with.

I know both her friends pretty ok, we have things in common so that might be a DHV if I get them to like me more (we've only ever met twice). I'll just focus on being the fun guy she used to love and not throw all my attention on her.

At some point I'll pull her to one side and tell her straight. But I am confused: how do I say such things without coming off as needy and desperate?

I also forgot to mention that she's leaving for Maryland in about a month. One reason she was avoiding a relationship was because she didn't want to start any when school gets intensive. Valid reason or just BS?

i'm worried that i will overthink things and screw things up again. i haven't been this out of control and mindfucked by a girl for so long.

it's been about 28 hours since i last texted her. wish me good luck guys, it feels terrible and just like cold turkey but i hope it's all for the better.

Don't worry buddy, I had to freeze out too and I'm over 48 hours now. One more day till she hears from me again. Hopefully the attraction didn't disappear too much.

thanks for the support, it's always good to know that there's someone out there who's going through the same thing. especially someone experienced like you

just out of curiosity, why did you choose to re-initiate contact after 72 hours? why did you choose not to wait for her to re-initiate contact first?

When you go for a freeze out, you don't say anything to the girl to kick it off. When the girl says she needs space, you just say ok. If you're making out with the chick and she stops you from pulling her shirt off, you say alright and then go do something else. It's not supposed to be a ceremony where you give her some last words.

Don't read into facebook, at all. Half the time I click someone's status it just showed up on my feed in the homepage and seemed funny or interesting. At least for me, liking a status doesn't mean much more than "oh hey that made me chuckle." Go do something! If you don't want to count the hours since your last text, go see a movie, start a home poker game with a few buddies, or play a longass video game to occupy your time.

got it, i've been doing my own thing, making music and posting samples of it on FB (hopefully it's a type of DHV). in the past i kept on persisting even though she said no, and i guess it pushed her away.

i need a good distraction though, i've been making music the whole weekend and i need a new activity. she just keeps popping up on my mind: what is she doing, why is she not texting me back. stuff like that. is it normal?

ok dammit, i got weak again and just texted a fake "wrong message" just to test her out. so it went a little like this

Me: no, it's all crowded and packed (referring to a coffeeshop I was going to, a fake wrong message)
HB8: What?
Me: oh sorry, wrong message
HB8: No worries. Anyways, how was your weekend?
Me: Good. Been really busy
HB8: You still going to the concert?
Me: YEah of course. Why would I give up the chance to see [this band] live?
HB8: Ok, because you seemed uncertain before the last time I checked. But ok, sounds good. Also, because [this band] is touring

Then I didn't reply. I'm sorry I keep fucking this up.

Yeah, you should haven't texted her, but oh well, what's done is done. The text wasn't too bad (even though I'm sure she knows your text was bullshit) but I've seen plenty worse during freezeouts so don't sweat it too much.

You really need to do what DJ_Z said above, find yourself something to keep your mind off of her. I see you were making music, but that got old. Go out and find something, anything man!

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Day By Day, Night After Night

I am, trying really hard to do other things. I am currently writing a screenplay for the heck of it just to occupy my mind. Thing is, even if I freeze her out, I will have to meet her on Friday because we are going to a concert.

How would that change things?

Don Draper, I was thinking, how can one pull off "romance
without being needy"?

Look, you don't have to need to "say it", instead you should make her feel it through your actions.

Your actions should convey that you like her, but at the same time you will not change who and what you are for her. You'll be the same guy throughout.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

i will think about what to do next, thanks. does a freezeout mean COMPLETE non-contact? she's flying to maryland and i was wondering if it's just nice/polite to wish her a safe fight.