I know this might not fit the topic, but I thought I'd just share the story. We used to be coworkers, and then we became FWBs. I started acting all needy and like we were in a relationship, and it sort of scared her off.

We went on a long roadtrip together (because it was already planned), and yet throughout the trip we were having kino, kissing and holding hands. When we returned I did a mini freeze-out, and she said she was sorry for acting like a bitch and that she was scared off by how serious we were getting. I said she could make it up by going for dinner and buying me a drink.

We did, and on that night we had lots of kino, we were kissing and making out and she was grabbing me through my jeans. Things were getting hot, but we didn't f-close that night because she had to wake up early.

During this whole time I was still dating other girls and hanging out with them, but my mind was mostly still on her. Sort of a semi-oneitis. She came over one Sunday and for one moment while we were heavily making out in bed she said, "I want you too". Later on, I just grabbed her face and said, "I love you.", and she said "I love you too." (possibly AFC?) We didn't f-close either (because she was ragging), but I made her climax twice through dry-humping and she gave me a handjob. She was also saying how she misses how my cock felt inside her.

We then sexted for the next few days and things were getting really hot, like she would be saying "yes, I'm craving your cock. but I'm busy tonight." I thought I'd try my luck and drive an hour to her place, and she was indeed busy and tired. I think this scared her off again.

We had a second argument about me giving her space and about our relationship status. She said she loves me (which I think is just something she's saying to comfort me), but that she couldn't sleep with me anymore because she can't separate emotions from sex (although I have plowed through that with her before). She said she can't have a relationship with me because we wouldn't make it, and that we would be terrible for each other.

That's when I decided to give her space, and hence my freeze-out again right now. Everytime we meet we have pretty hot k-closes though. Before we go on about how I have severe one-itis, I do have girls lined up, but this girl is pretty special, and the sex is amazing. I'd really want to keep her if I can.

anyone has any comments? i know i posted this in another thread but i couldn't delete that one, so sorry if i violated any forum rules

Move on. There are plenty of women in the world. Put her on the backburner...way back. She sounds really confused so any pressure applied by you will only drive her away. In the mean time, live life, have fun. If it happens, it happens, if not, oh well. Her loss.

i know it's hard, but i'm trying really hard to keep her at the back of my head. however i'm going for a concert with her next week (with a group of friends though), so how should i handle that? the tickets are expensive so i'm not going just skip out on it.