This is how it went.

In my family restaurant (i never learn, do i?) a new hostess came to work. Pretty cute brunette girl, half asian like me with a face like Kristin Kreuk who happens to already know me.

When we meet she told me that we went to japanesse together, i dont remember her (she must have been ugly or fat at the moment) after a few conversations we realized that we had very similar social circles (she knows many of my friends by fame) so one month later after that metting she again came to work in winter holidays (this and last week) so i invite her a coffe after work.

When we were in the coffe shop we started talking about things like funny exes (my exe´s stories are epic btw ) and about the gossip in the restaurant but then she ask me:
"Do you think they gonna gossip about you and me?"
wich i reply
"duh woman -_- that ship sailed a long time ago"
so we keep having fun, even race to the bus stop. I also show her some salsa moves like spining her and stuff but i got a little AA or whatever and didnt went for the k-close. But i keep the conversation very sexual, playfull and teasing her a lot, like for example:

her- I dont have any money for the coffe, can you pay this once please?
me- I dont know.... lets do this i pay the coffe and you pay the motel

so 2 or 3 days later we were supousse to hang out in a bar that night but she tells me that she was too tired to go that night so instead she proposed me to have dinner in my restaurant after her shift ended (she paid her dinner with her salary this time) but when we meet she was very acelerated because to keep from falling sleep she took 3 caffeine aspirisn and while we dinner she was not in the moment, like distracted or space out.

then she told me that she hated the fact that the other employess were gonna gossip about us. Wich leave me confuse because she was the one who propouse to have dinner in the restaurant.

But i told myself this time i was going to go for the K-close or else fail in to the deadland that is the friend zone but after dinner she was almost running with me to the bus stop so i didnt have time to chat very long so i move her a little away from the bus stop and try to kiss her but she playfully dodge me, so we keep talking about nothing important and we departed.

today i came to work and say hi to her like nothing happened but not going to talk to her much (being friendly but giving her space) and then i saw her talking to a the other hostess girl (wich is overfriendly to me but have lie by omision to me in the past, costing me another girl). I talk to this other hostess girl to see if she told her something about me (like she fell unconfortable arround me or something) and the dialogue went like this:
me- tell me, is everything allright with her?
she- she told me that she appreciates you (this was the actually anwser she gave, very weird selection of words)
she-You know she has a boyfriend right?
me- I didnt know.
she- she told me she had told you.
me- Trust me, i would have remember that.

So that basically my problem. I mean for starts i dont know if i believe this other girl or not but she doesnt really get anything by lying me again asides from me making her life a living hell (the other hostess i mean, not my target) but if she is telling the truth why she didnt tell me before she has a boyfriend? i mean when we were having coffe the subject kinda came out when she told me the other hostess girl was crazy jealous (this girl is seriously crazy, thats why i doubt her) about her dating this other guy at work, to wich i reply "So, are you really dating him?" to wich she reply "no" and not "no, i have a BF". Asides from that why she keeps complaining about gossip after she makes situations for it, like leaving together while accepting my claw (arm arround the shoulder) or having dinner together.

What should i do?

Personally home wrecking is not my style and i prefer to steer away. I have home wrecked in the past and it usually leads to nothing but 1 fun night and a bunch of angry people, angry calls, angry texts, and in the end isn't worth it.

If you really feel that you like her, tell her dump her boyfriend cuz you're better. If she doesn't her lost. If she does, good for you.

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Yeah thing is she hasnt told me she has a BF, i mean i was expecting that to counter it with a BF destroyer or the LJBF to counter with

"i just desire you too much to just be friends"

So i dont know why hasnt she told me or where i stand

Thanks for the reply though, is a solid advice

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Np, and that will work. I didn't mention it but a lot of the girls i home wrecked on, told me they were single as well. So the cards are in your hands, totally up to you.

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NP?

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No Problem?

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jajajajaja sorry man, with soo many pua acronyms i was like "what does this NP means?" thats Occam's razor for me

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I cannot believe nobody here paid attention to this conversation.

She knew that you'd see her talk to the other girl and that you being you would come up and ask her about her, so how to get her message across? Easy. Tell the other girl to tell you she had a boyfriend.

Now, I could be wrong but maybe she didn't have the heart to let you down by herself directly, so she asked her buddy to. If you confront her, she will confirm the fact that she is indeed committed.

Move on. Punish this girl. Freeze her out.

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yeah you right, i started talking to her little sister (shes 15 so im not gonna do anything to her, even i have limits) but i truly hurt her when she find out

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All's fair in love and war. Besides, so many girls lie about having a boyfriend, or not having one. Look at it this way, when you tried to kiss her the first time, she didn't BS you with "i have a boyfriend" instead she just blew it off.

That sounds to me like she is not convinced, but still considering. besides, it sounds like this girls is definately game for at least a hook up.

As for the other hostess. She could have tons of reasons for fucking with you. It could be a lie, or it could be the truth. It was a mistake to ask her in the first place because she will definately tell the other girl you asked, and what you said.

If you are going to give a girl space, do it. And make her wonder where you are at in your head. Don't seem possessive or insecure by avoiding her but chatting up the people she knows.

I don't think a freeze out will work here either because she will expect it after knowing you were told she was taken. My best advice would be to give her space for a day or two, then go back to exactly how it was before you knew. Pretend like it never happend and just push forward regardless. If she really does have a boyfriend, she will eventually come out with it, or she doesn't and she will be forced to either friend you or fuck you.

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.... really, that is one hell of an advice. Seriously man, you convince me that is a very nice way of handle it. Sorry i only give +1 of rep but i dont have more. I didnt though of that situation in that way

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Sorry to inquire but this is a doubt that has been nagging me since i read your answer what do you say if she throws the LJBF, im not asking the tipical "how do i get out" but i read in some pua theory that the first response you give is of massive importance

What would you say to this?

It really a two extremmes scenario isnt it? Either people tell you to sent her to fuck off or to accept her friendship in order to get more social networks. Personally i dont know what is best, social networking is important sure, but seeing the one you want like it was the candy on the other side of a vitrine from a dickensian story must be pretty harsh to tolerate

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Actually, that whole thing is based on your comfort level. If you're comfortable with seeing her with other people and all you want from her is social proof, then you can accept her 'let's be friends' offer. That way, you won't care about her and still get your kicks in the circle.

BUT, if there are residual feelings and you feel that you have been cheated by her suggestion of friendship and you do not think you can maintain that with her, then you can do nothing else but to erase her existence from your mind.

Which road you want to take? That's upon you.

Personally, I've always taken the second one, because social proof can always be gathered on your own, but I just don't want to face the same woman again, if I can help it.

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For you two who help me with my problem i wanted to tell how it went.
After a pseudo flaking last night (we kinda agree to maybe see each other in a big party in a bar), she was sick that day, didnt came to work even. So today i said hello to her and she seem trouble and when i was leaving i told her


me- Whats the matter?
she- I have a problem, i cant tell you.
me- ok
i got stuck there for while for work reasons, she came to me a tell me
she- all men suck, i hate men
me- we are even, i hate women
she- the guy im dating asked if we are being exclusive, i said yes to him and he didnt believe me and went partyng. I HATE MEN!
me- ok, good for you. Why are telling me this? im not your girlfriend
she- Now im gonna fuck the greasy police dude with a big dick who i know so he can fuck me really good (yup, she said that. Yup, it hurt like hell. yup im a pussy for felling this way)
she- oh he send me a message "dont wear anything other than those sexy lengirie" (i almost punch her in the face)
me- (laughting) OH MY GOD, i cant take this anymore. You are a emotional retard
i already told you im not your girlfriend and you keep telling me this shit. you are too much XD
them i came close to her and whispered
me- trust me girl, im way more fun than a 30 year something old man. That i can asure you
she- better the devil you know, right?
me- But the devil you dont know is more fun

and i left, well since i have 2 functional braincells i got to the conclusion she doesnt see me sexually at all.
My plan game other girls (20 success) and then came back to her in lets say a year or 6 months.

Question if you can, what would be the most usefull:
What do you think is the best way to next her?
1. Just stop talking to her.
2. Talk to her very very sporadicaly and if she ask me whats wrong tell her "you seem like a very good person and all but i just desire you too much to keep seeying you, i get an erection just thinking about you" (60s years of challenge)
3. Go, see her and tell her. Look you seem nice and all but dont ever tell me again about whom fill your holes again, i just dont wanna know about that. (not in an angry or sad way, more in a neutral face and tone)

Thanks anyway for the help

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Why would you EVER want to come back to this girl, is beyond my comprehension?

If that is your version of 'revenge', it's juvenile. At best.

Forget her, live your life, change yourself and show her what she missed. Don't talk to her, don't text her or even recognize her. Just let your actions and your body language do all that for you.

Visit that restaurant after a while, exchange a smile but THAT is the length to which it should go. Ignore this girl from now to forever.

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