Hi guys!

I am not a pick-up artist by any means, but I'm naturally quite good at getting woman. That is, the drunk woman out on saturday nights looking for one night stands. And I've been fine with this, cause that is just what I am after... -Until now.

So I need your help, here's the story:

I am a bartender, and about a month ago I started working in a new bar in my hometown for the summer months. First day at work, this really hot waitress/bartender is at work. We greet, she asks me for a Pepsi, I say: "Sure you don't mean a Pepsi Max?!". She is a 9, easily, and not quite used to this comment, so we had a flirty tone right from this moment. Although, I have to say, I tought she was way too hot for me. She is amazing.

But as time went by, we got a really good connection. Flirted alot, to the point where people started joking about us at work, and we talked a lot both at work and off. Since we both worked almost every night, we never had the chance to go out together, but one day at work, when we were both kind a drunk, I asked her if I could stay at her place. She agreed, and we spooned and made out. Nothing more.

This happened again for the following 2 days, then I was out, she worked, and the day after that, she was out, I was at work, but followed her home to her place. So, 4 times in 5 days I slept at her place, and we made out. The first two she had pants and top on, the last two, only panties and bra (which came of after a while).

Now, she has told me all along that we won't sleep together. At least not for a while. Like we need to spoon at least 10 times. I later found out that she, in an age of 22, has had only 1 or 2 sex partners, never had a boyfriend. So, I started liking this girl even more, she seems like a really good girl. And it can explain why we haven't had sex yet.

So my question and my problem is this:

How do I move on. We both work every day this week, but going out together on monday. Should I ask her to stay over after work again? Should I wait for monday?

The problem really is, she is moving to another city in 2 weeks. So I need things to escalate fast!! I want to be in a relationship with this girl. She is gorgeous, fun and smart.


Thanks for your time and advice.


---alex

If she leaves in two weeks, why would you want a relationship...

Whatever. If you have her number, try getting a meetup out of a work setting. It might break the mold, so to speak. Then escalate.

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Don't hate, just dominate.

The guy above is right. Why do you want a relationship, which is so temporary?

Anyway, that's not our problem to think of.

So, here's what you will do .. you will talk to her, go back to her place and then REMIND her of the finite nature of your time together and how it is running out and that you cannot control yourself around her, you want her blah blah blah

And she will submit.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

she is only going to be away for 3-4 months, and coming home every other weekend for visits or so. And I have seriously not met a girl I wanted a relationship with in about 2 years and 50 or so girls...

ant thoughts from you guys on why she doesn't wanna have sex? she is eager to make out, interlock hands in bed, snuggling up to me real tight and all. But four times we slept together, no sex.

Like i said, she has had very few sex partners, is that the reason? Is she shy? Or is there not enough attraction going?

im with don on this one, but if you just want the lay, the problem is, your logically engageing her through her token resistance, WE ARE NOT HAVING SEX = she is thinking about having sex with you, the answer to this is ok then continue with seduction,
take off her top 1st, once that is off, put your hands on her ass, play with it for a bit, spread her cheeks, then start rubbing her puss from the back (harder for her to stop you with her hands if you go from back), next if she verbalizes no, stop, or don't, then just freeze her out, don't get angry, that is not the right way, set the sweet guy vibe, say its ok we don't have to do anything you're not comfortable with, lets just (insert non sexual activity here) i just want to spend time with you,
when she trys to re-initiate make out again, get her to pass the point your stuck at for you,
she says comon lets just make out
you say ok take off your bra 1st, if it is panties, ok take off panties 1st, if panties are off, say ok let me inside you then,

use this always, sometimes you will require several freeze outs, but if it takes more then four i would just save it for another day and try again,

Stop thinking so much about it.

We gave you a way to go do something about it. Try that and if it fails, come back to us and we will talk about it.

And TRY HARD. No pussy footing around, tell her in a firm and calm voice about what I told you to say in my last post.

Good Luck.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for freeÉ

It`s exactly if you slept with a girl, then made her you`re fb and she never brought up a relationship. If you cuddle with her four days a week, she`s emotionally fulfilled.

Cut her OFF! Establish some rules for yourself (ie - I give out one cuddle card, meaning the second time I sleep over, we`re fucking, or she`s at the very least giving me head)

At work, are you still gaming girls infront of her, giving her the cold shoulder on days where you`re tired (ie - brooding behavior)

As for the relationship, don`t establish that thought until you have slept with her. You sound like you`re in the danger zone, and unless you reclaim your balls, she`ll meet someone who`ll fuck her instead of cuddle her (because that has a higher emotional release)

I`m not using scare tactics, just a call to action. Bring your A game to work, show her who`s boss, and get the relationship frame out of your head!

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