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well this was the conversation...
Me: Hey (girl's name)
her: whos this?
(allways wait this one out a good 30 minutes before responding, gives girls a chance to double text and guess who you are if they can't handle the tension, try to make sure when you get a number to give her your number so you know if they do this when you call it means they either deleted your number or are testing you)
me: Alex?? the guy u met at ismael's party
her: ohh hey ( :
me: haha i know i havent talk to u since forever but damn
her: my badddd (:
me: How u been btw?
her: ivee been good and youuu?
me: ive been really chill traveling and partying
her: thats nice. where you been traveling at?
me: ive been to Florida, Puerto Rico and Dominican Republic now im in houston again
her: damnnn lucky ass
me: yea ive been straight out partying i hope i can find sum fun here too
her: sound like a great ass summer ha
me: yes it has been crazy.. what about you??have you had any fun?
her: yaee just been partying and just hanging out like pool or whatever
me: Lol did you notice any noise where you live? (blah blah blah we had a party) around were u live in my friends house that lives in front of u
her: whoss you friend?? and naw im not home till monday
me: juan... hes mexican and short.. oh forreal why?
after that she described the kid and told me she was staying over her moms house and then i said
me: oh he told me u lived in front of him and ohh.. well to be honest i hope i can see your cute face this summer again
her: juan who?
me: idk his last name
her: oh ok
me: well cutie i'll talk to you later
and that was it... it was kinda a normal conversation but i wanna know your opinion and what u guys think i should do
my opinion was she had frame control the entire convo, not only that but she was less reactive then you, and you basicly qualified for her during the whole interaction (comming from position of lower value), make sure your the one asking the questions, not the one answering them, or else you end up with a boaring convo like this, and she will blame you for that, even though she was controling the convo, also don't brag, you are qualifieing when you do, DHV's are meant to either actually be demonstrated, or subtly dropped through story telling, don't just straight come out and brag, only a wing man can do that for you, avoid talking about yourself as much as possible, be very vague, unless you have an opportunity to ground or establish commonalities, and it is allways better when answering direct questions about yourself to be humble, almost to humble to the point of being modest, as previously mentioned, the DHV's are to be dropped subtly in storys,
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