| First of us: Don't freak out that this is too long, its worth the read. I have seen few psychologists come very close to this but not pointed this straight. Here we go:
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Sick and tired of approach anxiety?
Sick and tired of not being able to keep a happy relation?
Sick and tired of watching David D in geeky pink shirts?
Sick and tired of your boss?
Your family?
Everyone?
Fellows;
English is not my first language please excuse me if this is not well written, this is not a litreture note, this is a note that if you understand and don't underestimate,,apply it and it make your life much better.
I have been in the community for about a year. After a few months of going through different material (Mystery. David D, Gambler....) I began to notice the importance of inner game. Not only in pick up or relationshsips, but in life. I have been reading A LOT about inner game, there are some great resources out there which teach you the techniques to be cool n easy, confident and di-attached from results and.... At the same time many fellows say you should smile and have good positive body language and great energy, talk about this and not that, there is no short time cure of approach anxiety and becoming good with women and all these facts that make sense. Well, doing all that can be overwealming and sometimes hard to remember it all.
You are told to be "Great positive energy, smile but serious, confident but not cocky, not needy but at the same time show a litlle bit of intrest..."
You have to practice A LOT to be able to deliver all that and still look natural.
I am going to tell you some technique I came up with, a technique that changes your life, its new for me too but EVRYTIME I apply it things go exactly the way I want them.
Like many others I do believe it is ALL in your head, thats correct with the right mind set you get to get almost anyone. But how can you apply all these little tips and tricks without trying too hard? Mystery says you dont have much time, so hurry, get out practice, learn,....as right as he is and all these people are, you are automatically stressed on how to input all these material and master them. Not imposuble but its very hard.
Well I have seen few psychologists come very close to this but not pointed this exact. Also not seen this anywhere else in any resource but this does magic everytime I apply it, this is something to tatoo cause seriously guys, this is life changer.
The thing:
Look around you, whoever you see, your boss, your hot secretary, your mum or dad, your best friend, yourself or the perfect 10 HB who makes you nervous everytime you see her,,stare at them for 20 seconds, without them noticing you,,,,NOW think of them as little children, children in grown up bodies. Think of that HB as 8 year old child who thinks has got it all sorted but she is so arogant and agressive to you, exteremly insecure. Think of yourself as the only adult there.
I dont know how to show you the power of this comment but: All people ARE little children, even Obama or Bin Ladin. They have different toys but still the same. If you think of yourself as the only adult in ANY conversation you have, an adult who is surrounded by arrogant children (who have different issues), you can have super successful relationship with ANYONE. You will have power over anyone. Try it right now, walk to your boss, your college or your friend, think of them as an 8 year old child in a grown up body and have a chat to them. Keep looking at their eyes, DO NOT UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER OF THIS, MAKE SURE YOU KNOW THE STICKY EYES RULE, IF NOT GO READ ABOUT IT, ITS CRITICAL TO KNOW IT AND DO IT WELL(another thing to tattoo).
Why it works?
This is powerful cause it automaltically looks after almost all psychological issues you have, EVRYTHING david D says, you trick your mind into thousands of things that stop you from being fun, easy and comfident, in a good way. It generates patience in you.
You turn out to be exteremly mature and understanding, people trust you so much cause if you apply this right, you will have to listen to them and respond.
There is a beautiful saying by Vandicarlo: People have very few options how to respond to you, all they can do is the respond to the signals you send them. Can you guys relate these together? If you cant go back read again, this is mind blowing
The power of this is that it also fixes ALL your relationship issues. I repeat, it generates patience in you. With your girlfriend, in laws, teachers,... I have been trying to understand my past girlfriends all the time, logic with them, reason with them, explain things. Same with people, my previous boss was a cocky arogant son of a bitch who thinks he is Bill Gates. Everyone at the office aruges with him all the time and they are let go sooner or later. I learned to listen to him and look at him as a kid, dude, lifes easier, fun you rule people, and they LOVE YOU.
What makes children cute is their charisma. We all have that in us still but the fuckin society teaches us to hide that under the unreal fake bullshit character they want us to become, and we surprisngly become a product of our enviroment. Well, change dudes, change. You are dealing with a 10 year old insecure babe who still fantasises about prince charming and white horse and a castle. Be that for her be prince charming with the white horse (eventually you will be the horse dick), she will love you. You cant trick her into this UNLESS you picture her as that little kid and go to her level talk to her in that level, bring charisma to your character, to your character.
Of course you need to practice to "see" people like that, but the beauty is that it if you are serious about it, it can take you only days to become a Jedi Master. Trust me, you can get there in a week or in a minute depending how bad you want to take control, once you learn to look at people like this, your new life begins.
This fixes all the lmr issues, payrise request issues, family issues,...
The keys:
1 - Be rediculously honest, you dont lie to children, so dont lie
2 - Accept and welcome the patience this approach generates in you
3 - Practice it, write it on a pieace of paper and have it in front of you ALL THE TIME. There is no fatser solution to fix your social life, trust me. You want to put your cock in anothers body, come on you cant fake anything but the way you think.
One more time the beauty of this is that it takes care of so many things automatically without you noticing, this is powerful you wont believe it unless you try it, get up right now give it a try. That WILL save your failing relationship or your fear of approach.
Please understand that the positive mind set and great energy is always needed for any interaction, even with children. If anyone can write this better please go ahead, this attitude makes it a batter world, less fight more love.
Cheers to you all and may lord stop all the LMRs
Ben
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