Well, I guess I saw it coming. There were things about her I couldn't handle at all, but after 3 years I really did love the good times we had. She prompted me to go back to school and work on an important degree, as well as help in other ways. She pursued me after a horrible marriage of 16 years (only guy she'd been with). She was energetic and very fun, loyal, the great in bed. Unfortunately, her mom and step-dad are complete narcissists and only care about money (her too though). They didn't like me from day one because I didn't earn 6 figures. My GF was very supportive though.

Things started to go downhill when her dog died, and the dog meant so much to her that it was beyond crazy. We talked about getting a new dog together, but her parents took her to get a new dog behind my back, on Valentines Day no less. The worst breed ever for someone living in a condo. Border Collie. The dog really tried my patience because it was so destructive. Like an episode of "Me or the Dog".

Anyhow, after a year of owning the dog she seemed to change. She was not open, always questioning my motives about what I'll spend my money on after school is over (second degree in nursing), and nitpicking like crazy. I was as helpful and supportive as anyone would be. She would wax and wane between loving me to death and needing sex to distant and cold. She added a password to her phone and I thought that was really odd. She showed me texts to prove she was innocent or whatever, but that was fishy as hell for her.

I guess being in our 30s, I was expecting things to work out better. The problem is, I saw her today (forced encounter, not looking for her) and she playing the whole friends routine. She later texted that I looked good but that she needs more and doesn't want to change me. She has her parents and boss in her ear about getting rid of me too. My question is, I know she is going to start trying to be friends with me and that is unacceptable. I'm pissed about how she has handled things with me. Asking for a break/space, then asking my mom about my birthday plans (not knowing what to get me, so forth), then turning around and basically ignoring me on my birthday. She refuses to let me come to her house and collect my stuff even though she has no idea where everything is. She'll text me during the week and ask how things are and shit. Sick of it. She is so cold and makes me hate women. How someone goes from so trusting and loving to shit is beyond me.

She's a money grubbing bitch.

And who in the hell would want those parents as in laws? You dont want to hear this, but you are much better off with the way things turned out. I felt so bad for you reading that, but it turned out to have a happy ending Your emotions are gonna hit you like a ton of bricks and that's expected...but go back read what YOU wrote. Burn that shit into your mind. Do you really want to go back to putting up with all of that?

And she was "supportive" because she was grooming her future cash cow. Girls like that jump ship for two reasons:

A) She got tired of waiting for you to make the big bucks she was planning on you making.

B) She found another good prospect to stick her fucking vampire fangs into. Hence the password on the phone. Any dumbass can delete texts, tell her to go onto her phone account online and let her show you the last few pics she's sent. The last calls she's made. I'll put a crisp 20 on the table that there's incriminating shit on there.

Women like that usually get into bullshit professions, because they expect a man to take care of them at some point in their life, so why not? What's her job? And a method as OLD as time itself, a way to find out how a woman will turn out, is to take a look at her mother. If her mother is all about the money, there is NO reason why your girl wouldn't pick up her mother's filthy habits and expectations.

EDIT: I JUST noticed the "step-dad" in the first quote. BAM BITCH!! Her bio dad got the fuck outta there lol. Oh, and you wanna know why she checks in once a week? She's banking on you breaking down eventually and doing whatever it take to get her back. That's why she's hot and cold, she doesn't wanna totally lose stock in an investment that maybe in the future can start turning out some real profits. Fuck with her and tell her that you landed a 100k job somewhere, she'll come running after you so fast she'll leave a dust trail. That's when you fuck her and tell her you never wanna see her ass again.

You know, I could even write this whole thing off if she were young. Younger girls aren't usually as cynical about this sort of thing but you said she's in her 30?s......oh yeah, she's looking for "hubby".It's not the dog...it's never the dog.

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Funny thing is, her parents have no friends. They're so narcissistic and judge everyone that no one is good enough. Her step dad left a message on their answering machine when she was married and said "You get rid of that loser yet?" Thing is, her husband was an asshole from what I can tell, but he brought in the money. She had a great house, spent money like crazy, did all the things you'd do with money, but he payed no attention to her at all. So she left him and searched for someone who would treat her good emotionally...me. Now, she's decide that isn't good enough either for whatever reason. Upgrading my career for her (me too, but she motivated me), doing more than most guys would to keep her happy.

Bottom line for her, she drinks way too much IMO. Always ends up asleep 1 or 2 hours after dinner. Can't even go out to a club or event without wanting to go to bed by 930 or 1000. Has the most controlling parents ever, including a boss who tells her what to do outside of work way too much. Is a total dependent personality (e.g., won't wash her car, walk the dog, clean the house) without help. She doesn't and can't cook. She really brings nothing to the table except a lack of PMS, great body, and willingness to have sex more than most.

She's great in the beginning, and one, like me, overlooks her lack of cooking ability, needy dependencies on others for trivial chores, and desire to spend way too much on shit she doesn't need. Once you figure it out, you're emotionally connected, or at least I was, so it sucks when it turns to shit. Her and her mom have delusions about how relationships work though. Her mom is married to her 3rd husband and he is a perverted bottom feeder. He actually touches girls in the most inappropriate way that happen to be 30 years younger or more. He'll even make sexual advances on 21 year olds (he's in his 50s), but it's not normal stuff, even for a perv.

Thing is, her mom doesn't know and thinks he's great because he loves to piss away money like her. My ex-GF is in for a surprise when she starts dating and realizes that most men won't put up with her gold-digging, heavy dependencies, excessive drinking, and sleeping all evening. How fun is it dating someone who can't even stay away at night?

arent you a special snowflake?

It's life, it happens, move on and find other girls. Complaining will not solve anything.

Not about being special. Just wanting to know how to handle her BS checking-in texts or e-mails. I want my stuff back from her damn house but don't wanna be friends with her.

If you dont have anything to contribute, dont get on here and act all hard at the expense of someone else.

Anyway, I know exactly what you mean. She doesn't sound at all worth your time or money. I dont even have to say shit, you yourself listed a mouthful of reasons to let that bitch go. And isn't it funny how your not good enough for her? You probably never will be unless you swap your dick for one made out of gold and piss 100's.

I know how easy it is to become jaded about women after relationships with just atrocious women. Keep doing your thing and working on your career, it's some Disney movie shit but you'll find a good girl out there if you keep trying. now you know the warning signs. You know when you see those ugly qualities emerge in another girl, you get the FUCK OUT

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Yeah, I hear ya. Thanks for the input.