I always hit it off well/decent when I meet a girl for the first time. I have attraction and comfort established. I get their number and then I always mess up. Seems like they magically lose interest in me the moment I text the, even for the first time. The conversations while texting are bland, even when I try to be playful. If we do have a decent conversation, I end up saying "hey you free this week?" the next time I text them to seal the deal.

The typical scenario: (this is based off my most recent experience, and I had a GREAT first conversation with her on facebook and she wanted me to play soccer with her friends and teach her guitar)

Me: Hey! You free this week?
Her: "yeah, why?" OR "Not sure, whats up?"
Me: lets chill if youre free
Her: sure, maybe soccer?
Me: If people are playing sure! I also restrung my other guitar so I can teach you some beginner stuff (:
Her: I have to get my oil changes and start packing tmmw
Me: Sucks for you lol
her: Indeeeddd:(

I didn't even respond back to her

Another scenario, with a girl I knew from my biology class last semester:
Me: hey! you free this week?
Her: yea! Why?
Me: lets go get lunch or starbucks at noon tomorrow
Her: I have to practice a kick boxing routine then\
me: oh ok then
her:after im done helping my friend move lets hang =)
me: when would that be lol
her:ill probably be done around 3ish?
me:Ok sounds good!

One day later...
me: yo you still down to chill today?

NO RESPONSE


I have also had something very similar happen to me above, but I didnt ask her if she was still 'down to chill' when she didnt text me. her last text was "Maybe Ill let you know (:"

What am i doing wrong?

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You're asking for a date. It makes you look needy, and like you have too much time on your hands that you're not doing anything with -- not an interesting person.

Instead, contact a girl and tell her "Hey, I'm going to fair tomorrow. Want to come along?" Or something similar. Be interesting. Do things. If she wants to come as well, so be it, if not, you can find someone else. Don't wrap an entire event around being with her, just having a good time, and tell her she can join you. =)

Is this why girls keep flaking me? I see a lot of people do this approach and it works. Would a woman really disregard a guy's plans just by the way I word it? Show me how you would have handled the conversation please (:

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Maybe you could try and be a little more edgy and daring. Just have fun with it when you are texting, I mean if you play it conservatively because you're worried you won't see her again if you screw up then you probably won't see her again.

If you probably won't see her again then you may as well go for broke.

Here is a recent example from my phone.

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Me: So what kind of mischief u getting up to tonite?

Her: Haha mischief... I spent the day getting (*lifted*) for the first time in years and baking cupcakes. Has completely destroyed my motivation, was meant to go out tonite but cbf. You?

Me: I think we just having drinks at the new place. Im waiting on a friend, if its cool with her we can pick you up on the way...

Her: I am so close to passing out ;p Got mates swinging by for dinner then will get an early night I think! If the weather is ok I might hit the gym tomorrow or go for a run to make the most of a non hangover sunday! New place?

Me: Lightweight lol. I might get (*lifted*) myself, damn shame I probly shouldnt hav invited u tonite then coz if you keep saying no I'll lose interest ;p I just saw something that reminded me of u heheh

Her: I already bailed on plans tonite. I am so silly. This is why I dont smoke! Im meant to be at the Scotto by now!! What did u see?

Me: Haha true it was kinda an impulse invite lol well if u really wanna know I saw a pornstar with an awesome fake rack so naturally I thought of u ;p

Her: Hahahaha of course. R said he and D were debating if they were real or not. I assumed it was common knowledge ;p

Me: Nope your body is a myster to many I should really give u a 'hands on' appraisal, collect some 'hard' evidence and solve this mystery. Its for the greater good.

Her: You Dork ;p

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So you see even though I got a no almost immediately I didn't quit and turned it into something fun and a little risque and even had her qualifying herself to me.

That was a couple of weeks ago and I've been too busy meeting other girls to have time to ask her out again plus thanks to facebook she's likely seen pictures of me having fun with different girls so I'm pretty confident that next time I do ask her out she'll be less likely to say no.

Try to push the boundaries a little more and have fun with txt game, even if you don't get a date you can still maintain or even increase her attraction to you.

So I went out with the girl from my example tonite and she was pretty keen. The point is that once again I didn't ask her out on a date, I just invited her to something I was already doing.
The guys here are right. If you make it a whole thing about 'you and her' there is going to be more pressure and perhaps uncertainty at each others expectations of outcome.

Have fun with your texting dude and take some risks and even more so have fun with your life in general and girls will want to be included in that.