I wasn't really sure which part of the forum to put this so I just settled on here. Okay, here's my problem. Where I live right now is a shit hole, to describe it nicely. I live in a two bedroom apartment only thing is I don't have my own room. Essentially my room is a converted living room with a big sheet as my door. It's cramped, dirty, roaches running rampant, just a place where I wouldn't even bring my worst enemies. Unfortunately I can't do anything about my situation until mid to late September. I'm going to start a good paying job at the beginning of August so I can get my shit together better. I wouldn't even have a friend over (apart from my closest ones who understand my situation) nonetheless a lady friend I'm trying to fclose. On top of that my vehicle is a real lemon. It runs alright but it's loud, obnoxious, squeaky and doesn't look too good on the eyes. My question is should I not even attempt to start PU until I have sorted these things out in my life, or should I just say fuck it and go for it anyways. And if the answer is to say fuck it and go for it anyways, can you give me any tips to avoid letting lady friends see these MASSIVE DLVs in my life?

You can go straight in for it, but you have to be ok with your situation yourself to get away with it.

A completely healthy person should never be embarrased about anything, if you can do that (I'm not saying I could) then you can go for it because if you are confident and explain that it is only temporary etc. a girl will very often be ok with it.

If not just practice K-closes and get numbers. That practice will be worthwhile until your situation gets better and you can move on to F-closes.

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Yeah, okay that's good advice, I have to learn to accept myself and the situation I'm in if I want her to be able to too. thank you... Would recommend letting her know before hand or just surprising her with it? lol