Hi.

I meet a girl at a dance. Her friend comes and she hands me her friend to dance with and leaves. The friend is very flirty and says I should come to a dance she is going the next day. I go there. She comes up to me and gives me a hug and a kiss on the cheeck. We talk and dance for a few minutes and I say I catch you before I leave. The dance is over and I am standing in the middle by myself waiting for her to come into my field of view. I did not wanna run around looking for her - if she wants me to approach her she'll make herself seen. I feel awkward, inadequeate, embarassed, all that but cool too because I am charming and I love dancing. She yells out my name and I come and talk to her friend. The friend direct the conversation back to the flirty girl motioning me to talk to her. I was shy about talking to the flirty girl who invited me right away so I ignored her and talked to her friend first (also to win approval of the other women in the three set so that they won't cockblock). In my own head I decide that I will work up the nerve to hug her and give her a kiss on the cheek before I leave and I do that. I invite her to another dance (she can only go there in two weeks though due to our schedules) and she says "let me get your cell phone number and i will call you". Thing is she called me right away so I had her number as well. I figure I would be an idiot to make her call me. I will definitely call her. I am going to wait a day or two so I don't seem desperate. I told her my cell phone does not have texting cause I blocked it and she said its fine. I know you guys said it's stupid that I blocked texting on my phone, but it is still blocked and the world seems to go on. When I stood giving her my number, she stood close and she did not move away. She also let me put my hand on her back and elbow and did not withdraw.

Talking and flirting with her is awkward for me because I feel I cannot keep up. But I wanna do it because that is the perfect way to get comfortable with this. I wanna call her. What should I say? Where should I invite her? Also when I see her if I don't match her level of flirting (like if she gives me a kiss on the cheek and I don't give her a kiss on the cheek back) she will feel rejected and give up and I don't want that.

It's VERY GOOD that you can't keep up to her level of flirting. YOU are the prize here, and when she's doing most of the flirting she is chasing you. This is the mindset both of you should have. As long as you flirt some, she will give you a chance sometime to escalate and you need to take it, otherwise she will probably next you/friendzone you. Escalate when you get your chance and things will fall into place. Best of luck!

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Every girl is different. But not TOO different.

In the end, It's not about girls.

Slow down.

Don't over analyze it.

Call her the night you get her number. You don't want to wait till the iron becomes cold, as to say.

Also, just have a normal conversation. Planning things will never lead them to go that way, in reality. Go with the flow. Test her comfort and then invite her to a public place for a first meeting. Lunch or something.

And a kiss on the cheek is NO big deal. You have a weird sense of making things out to be greater than they are. Now, if the girl came up to you and threw her tongue in your mouth, that is something. But, a kiss on the cheek? It's informal but not personal. That's all there is to it.

Also, there is no rule which dictates you have to reciprocate her actions otherwise she will go running in the opposite direction. Do whatever you are comfortable doing. Hug, kiss, hand on the small of her back, touch her forearm. You know your comfort zone, work within it.

Good luck.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

thanks! the laid back approach worked. i did not even call her. she called me first and we went out. she kept throwing herself at me. but would not go to my place. also she flirts with EVERY guy she sees.