there's this older woman that emailed me. she was wanting to sleep with me but i told her about my problems after she didnt believe i was a virgin. she didnt want to sleep with me because i was a virgin, she is nine years older than me. i just recently emailed her and asked her if she had any D since i last talked to her. she hasnt and said she has too many things going on and has car problems..........so what do i do to get her to change her mind. do i need to talk dirty with her?

then there's this other girl, off of one of fb's dating sites who sent me a message one night and then revealed her y!messenger im screenname. she accepted my request, and we chatted a couple days later about meeting up. but the problem was i didnt have any money and needed something to buy to wear(that's decent and more in-my mother had been spending up the money long story) and then i decided on coffee and planned to meet her that saturday but didnt set a date but i froze up. i then told her i would wait until my phone gets minutes again(1st of the month) and she agreed that i could call her when that happened. but then it appeared i was moving back towards daytona so i told her that and got no response. now it appears i'm here for the foreseeable future and the other day emailed her about i'm still here and if still interested, reply back. her response was that we could meet together as friends but she "already has a steady boyfriend out in tx" and that it would have to be august because she's financially strapped. i asked her if she was with this person when i first chatted with her. her response was that they were broken up but as fate would have it they ended up back together. i really believe she could be lying and wonder if i should just forcefully plan a meet-up anyways and scope her out.

There's a common theme in both of your 'problems'.

The keywords are 'shot', 'yourself','own','leg'.

Sorry, but I don't think these situations can be salvaged. The first time you acted like a coward when you didn't welcome her advances and instead confessed that you're a virgin. She'd have that image for a while. Meaning a long, long time.

In the second situation, you were again cowardly and that whole boyfriend in Texas story is just an attempt to throw you off her track.

Move on.

Be bold.

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yeah you're right, i did mess up. i guess online dating is not for me especially since i have no game at how to talk with them online. or at least until i have experience out there first. i guess i should go to clubs and scope girls out.