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PostPosted: Fri Jul 15, 2011 1:59 pm 
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I have sorta been obsessed with this girl for a few years.
I once hooked up with her but thats it!
I proper would do anything for her!
Please help me.

I have tried getting over her with a few other girls but still can't get her off my mind!

She is the only thing in my mind.

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PostPosted: Fri Jul 15, 2011 2:16 pm 
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You sound desperate to the point of being like a stalker.

I am not sure people here can do much for you.

The basic premise of pick up is that there are always more and more new women to meet and connect with.

Your unhealthy fixation on the same woman is frightening even.

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PostPosted: Fri Jul 15, 2011 2:33 pm 
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dude listen to Don Draper closely. when you let go of this fixation and recognize all the other hotties out there, it will be an amazing feeling.


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Dude.. Game her already..

if you get anywhere then great..

if not then move on..

"beauty is common"

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MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A “Nice Guy”

Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted "nice" guys? Of course you have. Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.

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Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them. And guess what? Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION. And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you. I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT. Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.

MISTAKE #2: Trying To “Convince Her To Like You"

What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just notinterested? Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.

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If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her? But we all do it. When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind. Bad idea. One that will never work.

MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission

In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission". Another HORRIBLE idea. Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.

Don't get me wrong here. You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you. But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again. You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.

Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...

MISTAKE #4: Trying To “Buy” Her Affection With Food And Gifts

How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did? If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.

Well guess what? It's only NATURAL when this happens... That's right, I said NATURAL. When you do these things, you send a clear message: "I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".

Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.

MISTAKE #5: Sharing “How You Feel” Too Early In The Relationship With Her

Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on. Attractive women are rare. And they get a LOT of attention from men. Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME.

An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.

And guess what? Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men. That's right. They have EXPERIENCE. They know what to expect. And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.

This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.

Don't do it. Lean back. Relax. There's a much better way...

MISTAKE #6: Not “Getting” How Attraction Works For Women

Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it. When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.

But does the same apply for women? Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on? Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.

Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around? Think about it.

Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone. If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman. But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.

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MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks

One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age. And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.

But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks. There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet... And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.

YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.

Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

MISTAKE #8: SPAM All Of Your Power To Women

Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission. Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is SPAM THEIR POWER to women. Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants. Another bad idea...

Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!

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I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it. And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!

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PostPosted: Fri Jul 15, 2011 5:49 pm 
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so much of this can be summed up by the old saying, "give a man a fish, you feed him for a day. Teach hime to fish and he can feed himself for life."

I think many of these oneitis cases are because people feel they hooked up some gal or had some kind of special moment because of chance or fate and this is their one chance at true love so when she bolts they feel that their chance is gone.

Oneitis is becoming completely emotionally "invested" into one person and putting all your eggs in one basket.

the key is learning how to fish and learning how to feed yourself for life.

You can get yourself out of this mess by learning what traits and characteristics in a man that women find desirable and developing those traits and learning how to approach, attract and engage the female species as a whole so you do not need to invest in and depend on any one female.


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PostPosted: Tue Jul 19, 2011 9:00 am 
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Thanks for the help.
Nothing really happened yet, bot..

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Clear case of oneitis. GFTOW.

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PostPosted: Tue Jul 19, 2011 10:21 am 
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I have bo idea what that means Bloodninja

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you have the main choice that eventually everyone figures out, isolate, escalate, close, if one of those 3 things can not be achieved (BTW YOU NEVER FUCKING FIND OUT IF YOU DON'T TRY AND HOLDING ON TO NOTHING GETS YOU NOTHING) then you need to freeze out and move on, srry budd better luck next time or you get the lay either way IT DOESN'T MATTER, WHO CARES


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PostPosted: Tue Jul 19, 2011 11:45 am 
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many good replies in here ...

do the counterintuitive ... think and do the counter intuitive everytime you think about her or any other weak thoughts ...

she is in your mind .. not in your soul .. you just programmed yourself into believing you need her.

how did you program yourself ? just read what skill360 wrote...

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I had a severe case of oneitis. This little chica is easily a solid 9 and some may say 9.5. But once I peeled that shit back, the onion was exposed and it sadly it took a long time for me to figure this out.

How did I get over it? Hit the town constantly with my trusty wing. It is true, there are TONs of gorgeous girls out there and the more I went out and met them, the easier it was to let go, because I learned that she is NOT the only game in town and really all said and done, she isnt even in the top half after all.

Get out, crash, burn, meet as many as you can and you will start to hit.

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I think I am just going to come out and tell her how I feel.
And if she doesn't feel the some...

There plenty more fish in the sea.

Do u guys think I shud?

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I think I am just going to come out and tell her how I feel.
And if she doesn't feel the some...

There plenty more fish in the sea.

Do u guys think I shud?
NOOOO! Did you read anything skills wrote? You telling her will drive her AWAY from you. Girls respond to emotions so rather than telling her that you really like her act not interested and escalate physically. Use a lot of kino and SHOW her by kissing her!


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thanks you torn, i thought i was losing my mind, i hate when people ask advise, do i jump from the bridge?????


50 puas answer: no you will die...


3 days later: everybody is invited to the funeral

my point is some people can not take advise...

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result or some shit like that...

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