I met this girl at a party about a month ago and we've been hanging out since. We've had moments where i feel like i should have kissed her, but didn't.

She is the type of girl that does hook up w alot of guys but sleeps w few and is definitely not looking for a boyfriend. (as she says)

Last night she came over to sleep over and we went and bought decorations for my room, hung out, had a good time. On the way into my house i put my arm around her and she puts hers around me but then quickly pulls it away. Then we're sitting on my bed and i get a hilarious text message and when i burst out laughing our conversation goes like this

HB: "WHAT IS IT!!"
Me: Its a secret
We go back and forth for a bit, then i say
Me: i'll tell you once i fix this light.
I fix the light
HB: TELL ME!!.
Me: i'll tell you if you kiss me on the cheek.
She kisses me on the cheek
HB: Alright tell me!!.
Me: i dont knowwwww. Do you really want to knowww?
HB: YES!!
Me: alright...... i'll tell you if you kiss me.
She kissed me once w no hesitation
Me: okay..
then i told her and she laughed.

My friend comes over, we're all hanging out for a good hour. She starts scratching my back and my friend leaves the room.

Me: "Do you wanna kiss me?"
HB: "Noooo.. Sorryyyy." super apologetically.
Me: "Okay haha you're fine" (no big deal)
She continues scratching my back however i was so surprised she said no that i forgot to say the next part on time
Me (twenty seconds later): "by the way when i asked you, i didn't say you couldd... you just seemed like you wanted to."
HB: "Nooo. I thought you didn't like that anyway!"
Me: "Like what?"
HB: "Just hooking up"
Me: "Oh no i do, it just depends"
HB: "On what?"
Me: "The person"

This came from a conversation we had the night before. We spoke for about two hours on the phone about random shit including dating and though i don't remember me saying that. She does.

We hang out for the rest of the night talking, her friend comes over for a bit, on and off she scratches my back, then slides her fingers up my arm very lovingly, she almost caresses my arm with her finger tips. So what gives?

Any ideas?

You need to hit on her. Show her that you like her in a sexual way and give her reasons why you like her. Talk about sex with her, so she knows you are a sexual person. It doesn't seem like she thinks your a very sexual person.
Then, man up and make a real move. Grab her and make out with. Stop pussy-footing around it and just do it.

Well I think when she said "I thought you didn't like just hooking up" and you said "i do it, it depends." Is when you tripped her ASD.

Thanks guys

TehNait, I find your exchange with her quite interesting. I think the guys are right in that this whole time you should have been more sexual and less "friendly." At any rate, I'm very curious to know what happens in the coming weeks as you do turn up sexual vibe.

The reason I say that is because in my opinion you are skirting very close to (if not already in) LJBF zone, and I am wondering if turning up the sexual energy will get things back on track for someone in your spot.

Let us know!

Again thanks for the feedback guys.

I started talking about sex openly, asking risque questions, she responded well then asked "Do you like me?"
I said "We should discuss this in the shower ;O I feel a connection between us but id like to get to know you better. How do you feel?"
She said "That would be much more fun Ohh nicee ! And i've told you my feelings! "
I said " Haha that you don't like any human on earth?"
She said " That's not truee! It just takes a lot "

I hung out with her last night and my friend who always pops in when she's over was at my house already. Anyway, we hang out and at one point I said "i have a present for you but you can't have it until nine." So ten rolls around and she says hey where's my present! and i say "Close your eyes, open your hand" then grabbed her hand and pecked her on the lips.

Fast forward to me dropping her off. She gets out of the car and i get out to hug/kiss her again and she turns her head and i get the cheek. She then texts me and says "Thanks for tonight!!! " then "And i told you i don't do thattt! I'm sorry if i hurt your feelings :\" (meaning i dont hook up Which is sort of a lie from what i've heard.)

I respond with Haha you didnt. I hope i didn't make you uncomfortable!

she says "You didn't"

Not sure what to say to her now.

Also she wasn't as touchy to me as before, and seemed to pay more attention to my friend. Also my friend said that when i wasn't around she kinda felt up his arm and also that when they were standing in the hallway she stopped and turned and stared at him for a minute. Maybe she has a thing for him rather than me.

Updates?

She is obviously the flirty type, sme girls will flirt with lots of different guys all the time, it make them feel better about themselves. But when it comes to taking it to the next level, they can seem reluctant. Maybe because of there insecurities?