| Here’s a tough situation. If you want to share your ethical opinion, please do, but I rather want and need advice.
I am interested in this girl from work (I will reference to her as HB). Known her for 2 years now and was always flirting with her via the phone (we work in different locations and have to call a lot). I work with her maybe once every two months, but lately I have been working in the other location more often, so I saw her more frequently. I quit this job due to things I have to go on exchange for school and my last day at the job is in two weeks.
She has a boyfriend since about two months and after I heard that, I wanted her. I don’t know, it just this feeling that if I don’t at least k-close her I failed (one-it is?). I don’t have to bother about other women, I’ve had plenty of them the last few months (so please don’t comment with “go fuck 10 other girls”).
I have asked her out once (when she already had a relation) and she agreed to go out with me (as co-workers). We’re both rather busy and did not find the time for the date yet. However, this Sunday there is a sort of fashion day in the city, starting with a show and after that a party. I’m going there with HB and two other female co-workers.
These co-workers are two obstacles. Of course her boyfriend is also a big obstacle.
Co-worker1: works with and is a good friend of HB. Is a very friendly person, but I think if I would make a move at HB, she will jump in between us. I have known Co-worker1 for 3 years or so.
Co-worker2: has worked with HB a couple of times. Is not a good friend of HB and I believe co-worker1 doesn’t like her a lot. Co-worker2 is, despite the fact that she also has a boyfriend, interested in me and I think she will follow me the whole day as bee’s on honey.
Boyfriend: I have learned enough and already used some of the straw man technique, I think I can handle the boyfriend issue (still advice is always welcome).
I think the following things will happen: We are having a good time at the show, enjoying ourselves etc. But when we go to the party I think Co-worker2 will ask to much of my attention and since she cannot get along very well with Co-worker1, she will be on my ass the whole time resulting in me not able to spend enough time with HB.
How can I get and how would you guys get around these obstacles?
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