MY VIEW
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I. Never say ‘I Love You’ first
Women want to feel like they have to overcome obstacles to win a man’s heart. They crave the challenge of capturing the interest of a man who has other women competing for his attention, and eventually prevailing over his grudging reluctance to award his committed exclusivity. The man who gives his emotional world away too easily robs women of the satisfaction of earning his love. Though you may be in love with her, don’t say it before she has said it. Show compassionate restraint for her need to struggle toward yin fulfillment. Inspire her to take the leap for you, and she’ll return the favor a thousandfold.
I do think, that fresh love is overrated a lot of times, when someone is rushing into a relationship and knows his/her partner for a short period of time and sees only perfection in him/her that often leads to destruction of that relationship, because "it was too soon", however, I do belive that there is nothing wrong with saying I love you first, if you REALLY mean it.
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II. Make her jealous
Flirt with other women in front of her. Do not dissuade other women from flirting with you. Women will never admit this but jealousy excites them. The thought of you turning on another woman will arouse her sexually. No girl wants a man that no other woman wants. The partner who harnesses the gale storm of jealousy controls the direction of the relationship.
True. Jealousy has always been one of the factors, that drives woman crazy, flirting with other women spices up things a little bit, but it can blow in your face if you are in relationship, so if you like the girl... rather if you have some connection with her AND she has a connection with you, you don't need to make her jealous, to "higher" your value. Do it when she push/pulls you.
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III. You shall make your mission, not your woman, your priority
Forget all those romantic cliches of the leading man proclaiming his undying love for the woman who completes him. Despite whatever protestations to the contrary, women do not want to be “The One” or the center of a man’s existence. They in fact want to subordinate themselves to a worthy man’s life purpose, to help him achieve that purpose with their feminine support, and to follow the path he lays out. You must respect a woman’s integrity and not lie to her that she is “your everything”. She is not your everything, and if she is, she will soon not be anymore.
This is more a question of you, a few days ago I heard a quote saying: "Have your heart out there for a women you love, but always reserve a part of your heart for yourself.", cause guess what, you make a person to be your 'whole life' and as we all know SHIT HAPPENS, poof she's gone and you're down.
Women does complete you, but not as something you cannot replace (she's not like air, if you took her away you won't suffocate)
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IV. Don’t play by her rules
If you allow a woman to make the rules she will resent you with a seething contempt even a rapist cannot inspire. The strongest woman and the most strident feminist wants to be led by, and to submit to, a more powerful man. Polarity is the core of a healthy loving relationship. She does not want the prerogative to walk all over you with her capricious demands and mercurial moods. Her emotions are a hurricane, her soul a saboteur. Think of yourself as a bulwark against her tempest. When she grasps for a pillar to steady herself against the whipping winds or yearns for an authority figure to foil her worst instincts, it is you who has to be there… strong, solid, unshakeable and immovable.
Woman will try to manipulate you all the time (don't believe, read
Mode One), I'm not saying that there'll be a big motherfucking manipulation of brainwashing, but little things that you don't even pay attention to, those little things that they make drama for most of the time. How manipulative womam is it depends on her, but every women has some of it.
Don't play by her rules hmm... just don't let your rules to be over run and you'll be alright.
BUT you gotta admit woman are overcomplicating with their emotions sometimes
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V. Adhere to the golden ratio
Give your woman 2/3 of everything she gives you. For every three calls or texts, give her two back. Three declarations of love earn two in return. Three gifts; two nights out. Give her two displays of affection and stop until she has answered with three more. When she speaks, you reply with fewer words. When she emotes, you emote less. The idea behind the golden ratio is twofold — it establishes your greater value by making her chase you, and it demonstrates that you have the self-restraint to avoid getting swept up in her personal dramas. Refraining from reciprocating everything she does for you in equal measure instills in her the proper attitude of belief in your higher status. In her deepest loins it is what she truly wants.
Nobody has proven, that if she calls you 3 times and you give her 2 calls back or whatever... you'll have 100% sucess. Sometimes you need to do more than that, be creative.
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VI. Keep her guessing
True to their inscrutable natures, women ask questions they don’t really want direct answers to. Woe be the man who plays it straight — his fate is the suffering of the beta. Evade, tease, obfuscate. She thrives when she has to imagine what you’re thinking about her, and withers when she knows exactly how you feel. A woman may want financial and family security, but she does not want passion security. In the same manner, when she has displeased you, punish swiftly, but when she has done you right, reward slowly. Reward her good behavior intermittently and unpredictably and she will never tire of working hard to please you.
Women love secrets, why is it then called The Gossip Girl and not The Gossip Man
Now am I not saying that keep woman in complete dark about your life. No, but little mystery that doesn't hurt anyone is cool. Reward/punishment system +1.
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VII. Always keep two in the kitty
Never allow yourself to be a “kept man”. A man with options is a man without need. It builds confidence and encourages boldness with women if there is another woman, a safety net, to catch you in case you slip and risk a breakup, divorce, or a lost prospect, leading to loneliness and a grinding dry spell. A woman knows once she has slept with a man she has abdicated a measure of her power; when she has fallen in love with him she has surrendered nearly all of it. But love is ephemeral and with time she may rediscover her power and threaten to leave you. It is her final trump card. Withdrawing all her love and all her body in an instant will rend your soul if you are faced with contemplating the empty abyss alone. Knowing there is another you can turn to for affection will fortify your will and satisfy your manhood.
Very very true, especially the part about woman discovering their power over man, I've seen many cases of this in our little town.
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VIII. Say you’re sorry only when absolutely necessary
Do not say you’re sorry for every wrong thing you do. It is a posture of submission that no man should reflexively adopt, no matter how alpha he is. Apologizing increases the demand for more apologies. She will come to expect your contrition, like a cat expects its meal at a set time each day. And then your value will lower in her eyes. Instead, if you have done something wrong, you should acknowledge your guilt in a glancing way without resorting to the actual words “I’m sorry.” Pull the Bill Clinton maneuver and say “Mistakes were made” or tell her you “feel bad” about what you did. You are granted two freebie “I’m sorry”s for the life of your relationship; use them wisely.
By saying I'm sorry too often two things happen she knows, that for every thing you did wrong in her opinion, you'll be sorry and they can start using that AND if you do that for every little thing, it won't seem sincere anymore, she gets used to it, so she knows "Shit if it's not legit for those little things, how can I know that it's legit for more serious things."
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IX. Connect with her emotions
Set yourself apart from other men and connect with a woman’s emotional landscape. Her mind is an alien world that requires deft navigation to reach your rendevous. Frolic in the surf of emotions rather than the arid desert of logic. Be playful. Employ all your senses. Describe in lush detail scenarios to set her heart afire. Give your feelings freedom to roam. ROAM. Yes, that is a good word. You’re not on a linear path with her. You are ROAMING all over, taking her on an adventure. In this world, there is no need to finish thoughts or draw conclusions. There is only need to EXPERIENCE. You’re grabbing her hand and running with her down an infinite, labyrinthine alleyway with no end, laughing and letting your fingers glide on the cobblestone walls along the way.
Aw YES the good stuff, why doing it, if you don't connect (to the person that is worthy of it of course) and ultimately building a relationship.
Now yes her mind might seem as an alien world sometimes, but if you use logic on that (not emotions, but logic), you'll know what buttons to push. Emotions can mean one thing for one person and something entirely different for other person. But at the same time, don't cut emotions away, just do yourself a favor, don't fake it.
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X. Ignore her beauty
The man who trains his mind to subdue the reward centers of his brain when reflecting upon a beautiful female face will magically transform his interactions with women. His apprehension and self-consciousness will melt away, paving the path for more honest and self-possessed interactions with the objects of his desire. This is one reason why the greatest lotharios drown in more love than they can handle — through positive experiences with so many beautiful women they lose their awe of beauty and, in turn, their powerlessness under its spell. It will help you acquire the right frame of mind to stop using the words hot, cute, gorgeous, or beautiful to describe girls who turn you on. Instead, say to yourself “she’s interesting” or “she might be worth getting to know”. Never compliment a girl on her looks, especially not a girl you aren’t fucking. Turn off that part of your brain that wants to put them on pedestals. Further advanced training to reach this state of unawed Zen transcendence is to sleep with many MANY attractive women (try to avoid sleeping with a lot of ugly women if you don’t want to regress). Soon, a Jedi lover you will be.
There is totally nothing wrong with telling a girl that she is cute/beautiful/gorgeous/sexy ass-boobs, you express yourself, what you really feel, up to the point that this controls who you really are and makes you do things, that you normally wouldn't. Respect the girl, but more importantly RESPECT YOURSELF and what makes you 'the person'.
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XI. Be irrationally self-confident
No matter what your station in life, stride through the world without apology or excuse. It does not matter if objectively you are not the best man a woman can get; what matters is that you think and act like you are. Women have a dog’s instinct for uncovering weakness in men; don’t make it easy for them. Self-confidence, warranted or not, triggers submissive emotional responses in women. Irrational self-confidence will get you more pussy than rational defeatism.
Be self-confident, not for the girl, but again FOR YOURSELF
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XII. Maximize your strengths, minimize your weaknesses
In the betterment of ourselves as men we attract women into our orbit. To accomplish this gravitational pull as painlessly and efficiently as possible, you must identify your natural talents and shortcomings and parcel your efforts accordingly. If you are a gifted jokester, don’t waste time and energy trying to raise your status in philosophical debate. If you write well but dance poorly, don’t kill yourself trying to expand your manly influence on the dancefloor. Your goal should be to attract women effortlessly, so play to your strengths no matter what they are; there is a groupie for every male endeavor. Except World of Warcraft.
Self-improvement, big part of our lives, I think that everybody who are on this forum'll agree that they are into this. Improving yourself as a person has always been the highest value thing for me personally, cause it makes me feel good and I do things that I love and care about. Enjoying the process.
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XIII. Err on the side of too much boldness, rather than too little
Touching a woman inappropriately on the first date will get you further with her than not touching her at all. Don’t let a woman’s faux indignation at your boldness sway you; they secretly love it when a man aggressively pursues what he wants and makes his sexual intentions known. You don’t have to be an asshole, but if you have no choice, being an inconsiderate asshole beats being a polite beta, every time.
Expressing yourself, making your intent and plus you're being honest when doing that, extra points of you. Do what you feel like, but don't be a creepy guy that grabs her and drags her in to the first bush and rapes her.
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XIV. Fuck her good
Fuck her like it’s your last fuck. And hers. Fuck her so good, so hard, so wantonly, so profligately that she is left a quivering, sparking mass of shaking flesh and sex fluids. Drain her of everything, then drain her some more. Kiss her all over, make love to her all night, and hold her close in the morning. Own her body, own her gratitude, own her love. If you don’t know how, learn to give her squirting orgasms.
Yeah you're fulfilling her fantasies, good stuff
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XV. Maintain your state control
You are an oak tree. You will not be manipulated by crying, yelling, lying, head games, sexual withdrawal, jealousy ploys, pity plays, shit tests, hot/cold/hot/cold, disappearing acts, or guilt trips. She will rain and thunder all around you and you will shelter her until her storm passes. She will not drag you into her chaos or uproot you. When you have mastery over yourself, you will have mastery over her.
Like I said manipulation is in every woman naturally (they won't admit it is). If you have respect for yourself and you don't let others to take advantage of you, that shit shouldn't happen to you (unless she's doing NLP patterens on you
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XVI. Never be afraid to lose her
You must not fear. Fear is the love-killer. Fear is the ego-triumph that brings abject loneliness. You will face your fear. You will permit it to pass over and through you. And when your ego-fear is gone you will turn and face your lover, and only your heart will remain. You will walk away from her when she has violated your integrity, and you will let her walk when her heart is closed to you. She who can destroy you, controls you. Don’t give her that power over yourself. Love yourself before you love her.
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Imo this stuff as a general guidelines are gold, very good stuff, however game is a very fluid concept and so are this guidelines, how you use them (in details) depends on the situation/type of girl/YOURSELF.
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