Ok. So got a girls number on friday. She texted me on saturday to hangout but i couldn't. Then on Sunday i texted her and was talking to her and then when i asked her to chill she just stopped responding. So i didnt text her monday or tuesday. Should i give it one more shot? or is she just looking for attention?

Go for it. She wanted to hang out on saturday so she wants to spend time with you, they just go cold like that sometimes for no reason. Next time you text her though, get straight to the point without getting all chatty first. You'll have plenty of time for that when you see her. And if she stays cold, just leave it. There could be a good reason for her not replying, and even if that's not the case you don't wanna be messaging her any more than necessary.

yeah thats probably a good point about not getting to chatty. But when you say get straight to the point you dont mean just have the first text asking her to hangout right? more like the second or third text? Im pretty new to the texting game

Depends on your age honestly. If you are the college/high school student age (which I suspect), she's living with her parents, and the lack of response on sunday may have been that she just was unable to leave her place...

If I'm completely off the mark, then you want to use a text message opener such as "made you look " or "I saw something that reminded me of you" then say it was a TV commercial for "x" and ask if she wants to go with you (could be a movie, restaurant, whatever). Theres plenty of text messaging guides on this site, with a good amount of openers as well. Good luck

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Less is definitely more... if you text too much you end up doing the flirty text and never meet up dance, which is lame and time consuming. You can just send a text outta the blue asking if she's free that night, doesn't really matter. If she isn't free she'll let you know and you can make plans for some other time.

If you don't wanna do that, you can just send a flirty text to say hi first, whatever way you wanna word it... then when she replies you can ask her if she's free or whatever. Keep it short and sweet though, don't put too much thought into it or get trailed into a BS conversation. The only conversation you wanna be having is about your plans, don't get side tracked. You've got plenty of time to talk when you meet her, remember.

yeah im a 21 year old college student and yeah she lives with her parents so i guess its possible she couldnt leave. Ill give your suggestions a shot.

Thanks for the help

OK so i texted her and she answered and i talked to her for a little. Couple flirty texts back and forth. Then i said i had to go which was a lie but i know your suppose leave her wanting more. Her last text was a.

:/ alrighhtttt bye

which im obviously taking as a good thing. My question is should i of asked her to hangout during this conversation or should i just wait to the next one? and should i wait for her to text me or should i start the conversation again?

Hi mate.

Geesh! What is it you want with this one? Hang out? then stop the text jibberish! Text her: hi, i wanna hang out with you this (i dont know what day, but i was goign to say thursday). Are you available?

You need to understand, she was the first one to ask you to hang out with her. So be more direct! Also, get it out of your head if she doesnt text back immediatly. Its like you expect her to be always 'text available'. That is why cell phones are for? My ass! i somethimes just leave the damn thing somewhere so i have some peace and can fully concentrate on what i am doing!.

So in short: leave the texting shit, real life is better. If you do need to text (and sometimes you do, like to meet up), be more direct in what it is you want.

Should you have asked her in the last 'conversation'? HELL YEAH!!!

good luck mate

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I would have to basically agree with LD.

Just shoot her a text saying "So when do you get to see me? " or something, if you think you can pull off the cocky/funny. If not, go with the standad "do you want to do 'x' on 'y'-day?"

When it comes to setting up a place to hang out, it doesn't really matter. A woman has already decided if she wants to hang out with you or not before you text her, so just text her and see what she says.

If she says she can't, just ask her what she suggests then. If she doesn't come up with anything, shes not interested.

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Yeah i actually did that before i read these two posts. I was being a bitch and over thinking it. So i said screw it and just manned up and told her to meet me for drinks tonight. Which she said yes to.

Thanks for the help on this one