Am I right in saying then that a higher perceived intelligence does not really make you more attractive to a girl ?

From what most of you are saying, your PERCEIVED intelligence can actually be a turn off if it doesn't resemble hers. Although ofcourse, I understand that a clever guy can use his intellect to learn this stuff, read a situation, and callibrate appropriately.

'Attraction isn't a choice' (David DeAngelo)

Being intelligent is actually a curse and a blessing. Or something like that.

The basic premise is that intelligent people can wade through a lot of bullshit being thrown their way and look at only the things which matter. I am a fairly intelligent guy and well, it helps with women. Maybe because I dont find a need to qualify myself or compliment them at all times. Being intelligent translates to being aware to some extent. Awareness is always a quality in demand. You can shut a lot of mouths, impress a lot of people and create a reputation just on the basis of flaunting your intelligence ''in the right way''.

Now, the flipside is that a lot of intelligent people are braggarts. Nobody likes that person in the room who keeps talking about how he got the invite from MENSA. You did? Good for you. Keep it to yourself. I guess the moral science teachers had weight in their speeches when they said Humility is the foremost trait to learn.

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Another thing... you need to be able to talk fluff / junk that wouldn't normally interest you.. I hate sports, I don't watch garbage TV, I want to vomit from the obsession with celebrities. ... probably like many of you. This is not good... I'm thinking about starting to read cosmo just to know WTF to talk with party girls about... you need to be able to talk about anything.

It helps to be able to talk about a lot of different things but it isn't necessary... and counter-productive, if you can't keep it on a leash. The more pop cultture stuff, or stuff in general that you can talk about, the more you're able to avoid why you're actually talking to her in the first place. And that's not good. The longer you talk, the more the attraction dies, the more awkward it is to get to the point... and the more opportunities for something to come between you.

I don't care about celebrities, I care about the girl. Why talk about BS when I can talk about her? Or more accurately, what we can do together if we're getting a good vibe from each other. Talking about that kinda crap makes you the cool guy she wants to hang out with and introduce to all her friends, not the guy she wants to get bent over and pumped by. Talking about BS in general is bad, but when it comes to stuff you don't even have a remote interest in... there is zero upside to that. You're not doing that for your benefit, you're doing it for hers. Playing by their rules means game over, cos they're better at that game than we are. Play your own game. Just my 2 cents.

I'm an intelligent guy; I was basically a straight B student. The reason I didn't get A's is because I have other things to do with my time than study every hour available.

Which is a good thing. I read a lot, and I read everything. Last week I had a dental appointment and while waiting rather than pick up the National Geographic (which I do read normally) I read Heat magazine. I really have little interest in what 99% of celebrities are doing but it does help in conversations to know these things. I enjoy football but I'm not massively into it but I can hold a conversation about it even so.

If you meet a girl from some strange country it is good to know where it is. It's a talking point. Likewise, if a girl has an unusual interest it is good to know what it is (even if you pretend you don't know) so you can ask the right questions (even if you know the answers already).

But don't overdo it...that's definitely a major issue for me.