Hey guys. Recently started reading this forum, today developed a problem.

FWB with a friend of mine (Infact an ex from a while back but been friends ever since) Came about when i came back from sea (i work at sea 4weeks on 4 off etc bla bla) So i came back and was looking for some, I kinda just used our friendship as a foot in the door to get some sex. Like Chief says on his blog, keep your intentions up front. I told her at the beginning that i was just looking for FWB not a FB.

So where i am at now, been shagging twice a week, the sex is good, she never lied about that she thought i was the best she had, which was a nice boost to my confidence. But recently i let my "game" slip, and she said she wants to be exclusive(Totally pretended to not hear it and subject changed), she saw me at a club chatting to a 3 set, HB8, and was jealus. And now im fucked :/
Not sure where I went wrong, Did discuss once that I was really enjoying our relationship (fucked up there) and said "Gla i deg" (norwegian means, im happy in you, kinda thing you say when you dont love some one but you like them+.

But yeah, Thats kinda how it is. Where i would like it to go is back to FWB, flat and simple without leaving her worse than how i found her.
Any advice would be much appreciated. Please ask for more info on any thing specific if you do read this and dont understand.
all help and critisism needed so i dont go in and fuck it all up

thanks!

Personally I feel as though you did little wrong.

I had an ex that was jealous when I spoke to other women, but I always turned that around by reminding her that at the end of the night I was in bed with her (usually true, but we didn't live together), and that would lead to sex.

In your scenario, I think your best bet would have been to #close ASAP, and then follow the ex out of the club and speak to her.

The main mistake you made was ignoring that conversation as soon as she said she wanted to be exclusive. You said so yourself, you have to be upfront. When she said that, you should have said that you were just looking for a FWB relationship (not that bluntly), by referencing the fact that she is your ex, and that is for a reason... Assuming that she broke it off with you way back when...

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Yeah, did close. Did talk to her, said hey, am just chattin to her like any other human being (Not lying, was talking to her as any other human, female human that is) She agreed it wasnt really a big deal. Etc. But I talked briefly a moment ago with her when she phoned me, Fished abit whilst talking to her. Pretty sure she wants to take things to serious.

What i am asking of you guru's and PUA's and every one else is, How do i go from where i am. (FWB going onto something serious) Back to either just friends or FWB, without crushing her as according to her best friend(my lesbian wingman) she is in love with me.......+.+)

So you guys preach and teach how to get girls to go to friends to FB's and FWB, how do i go backwards softly, very softly!

Much appreciated TheMagicalHindu for your post. =D