Hi guys,
my first post here, and already asking for help

Here it is. I met this girl. I know her for a while, nothing interesting, but we are very good, quit strange friends. BUT she had a boyfriend, so I respected that. She is something like HB7-8. Yesterday I found out from her, that they broke up. And than somehow we hooked up. Nothing really serious, k-close.

I definitely want go out with her again. Problem is timing. She and her ex broke up just a few days back. Now, I kind of like her, but don't know what to do next. I want to know, if this all what happened isn't just because of her break up.

So what to do? Should I go directly to the point, or what? I think she is sad from her break up, but from what she said it was bad for a long time.

thank's for advice, help or anything.

Whatever you do, DO NOT get yourself in a situation where she is telling you all about how sad she is and her ex-bf - you don't give a fuck. Well, you don't if you wanna do anything sexual with her.

You could a) steam in and f-close it whilst she is all emotional and cockhungry or b) play it cool, keep the sexual playfulness up until her head clears a little bit, then calibrate your responses to fit. and escalate from there!

TO repeat: whatever approach you take DO NOT become her emotional tampon.

If she (inevitably) says something about her boyfriend, behave like that is a world away from you. You don't know his name, whatever he does is "cute and harmless". That's your "frame". And openly tell her you don't want to talk to her about her boyfriend problems. "Aww man, I don't want to talk about your boy issues" as if it's a LAME subject.

Assuming her boyfriend issues are a world away from you will suck her into feeling the same way when she is with you.

Also NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER bad mouth her ex. When she got with him it was a legitimate choice on her part, no matter what she says. If you insult her ex you insult her choices and you insult her. Crazy, but that's how they think. Plus you are telling her that she chooses shitty men and she has chosen you so you are shitty.

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"Damn girl, whatchoo want from me, I'll give you anything. You want any kind of subscription, to a magazine? Give you a potato? A mask of some sort?" -Rob Cantor

^^^THIS +1000000000000000000.