When I wasnt dating my girlfriend and we were just friends with benefits i was cocky/funny, little arrogant and desirable i guess you could say. We were hanging out and with each other almost everyday and she was crazy about me it was obvious. She was calling all the time and wanting to see me .However after awhile we started officially dating But now that we have been dating for 2 years i can see myself losing myself more and more each day. My confidence is gone, my cocky/funny behavior is gone. She calls less and doesnt care as much. It seems like i am just trying to please her and make her happy, to keep it simple i am acting like a little bitch. I have lost my backbone because its a normal human reaction when you love someone you want to please them. Its sad are conversations are dull and i feel as if she doesnt care about me because she never does anything for me. Often when we get done talking on the phone i am then in an instant bad mood because i feel she didnt express enough how much she misses me. Sad i know. When i have an opinion and she thinks it is dumb i get pissed right away instead of doing the confident thing of caring on the conversation. Mostly because i resent her and that is probably due to the fact i show her in every way i can i love her and she does nothing. We argue often because of me which is stemed from the problem of i believe she is just taking me more granted. Argue's start easy all she has to do is say one wrong word and i get mad. Can you say Lack of confidence lol I know are relationship will get back on track if i can just get my cocky/funny arrogant way back, you know play hard to get like i use to but i have lost sight of it. Someone please give me a kick in the ass and help me out. What would you do? What do i need to do?

That used to happen to me 2, you need to snap out of that mindset you are in right now cause its going to destroy your relationship...

thanks for the reply Yeah Thats kind of why i am asking the question. How did you stop doing it? or any advice you can give?

HELLO!

LTR are not natural and "love" (chemically) fades within TWO years [ http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/artic ... years.html ] (your case is a classic example), monogamy is a lie, this is normal and you and your GF should break up and move on.

Have a nice day.

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Yep, that's the catch 22 of a relationship. In order to try to make her happy you end up losing your balls, then she dumps you. I know exactly what you're going through, I've been through it first hand.

"Mostly because i resent her and that is probably due to the fact i show her in every way i can i love her and she does nothing."

This is the classic "nice guy" trap. In your mind you've made a deal with her that if you treat her a certain way, she'll appreciate it and do the same. You can't understand why she isn't holding up her end of the deal! Problem is she never signed that deal (she doesn't even know it exists) and you have no right to get upset when she doesn't live up to it.

Bottom line is you've got to start standing up for yourself and doing what makes you happy again. Even at the risk of pissing her off. It sounds strange but you have to be a little more selfish in order to make her happy. A guy who gives up his own needs to try to please a woman is not attractive.

It's all a big test. She needs to trust who you are as a man. If you'll bend and give up your needs for her, she can't trust you. It's not really about being cocky and funny again, it's about being a strong man she can trust and respect.

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Hi mate.

It is indeed quite normal. But if you wonder, it can be fixed for a large part. start seduction again. Explore new area's of it.

I am in a relationship for almost 2 years now. I still approach other women and i still flirt. But it does end there, no french kissing, no sex. For me, the problem was not really that i lost confidence, I just felt that i was being locked away. Besides, i am quite a social dude, i told my gf that i was going to meet other women, go out with other women. I told her that when we were getting to know each oter. She can either agree and continue with me, or not agree and bugger off.

it gives me enough excitement and when i look back at my gf, i can see how lucky i am to have her.

cheers

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yeah i agree i need to talk to more people and not feel so locked down. she also has a son which we get along great. So im thinking around two lines here. Should i hang out with her 8 year old son more and neglect her in away basically dont give her as much attention. And second im thinking about calling her up and telling her me and a friend of mine "a girl" will be hanging out tonight. We wont be but my girlfriend donest know that. I did that before we started going out. Im more a home kind of guy. So id just tell her yea im hanging out with the guys tonight even though i wasnt. I think i need to back track and stop caring so much, be more a man. Like when we go out to eat before we were dating id just say hey were going here to eat and if she had a problem i thought to myself she would say it. But now i ask her where do you want to go? i give her alot of the decisions now probably because i want to please her and i need to be more the man.

Get david danelo double your dating and read it, you will see the answer right there, if you want to regain her.. Do that trust me, exactly what you are saying happened to me, when i was dating my current girl, 4 years, double your dating, make me change and now 4 years later she is whipped...But apply the concept to your relationship, the problem you may have is that is too late, she after 2 years with you has push boundaries... Remember it happen to me during dating, and after being a player for so many years, i just got whipped, it also happened to mystery and style, it happens to all of us maybe once or twice in about 30 year period... Just refocus..

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