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PostPosted: Mon Jun 20, 2011 10:12 pm 
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Hi I know its childish but im a bit annoyed my personal trainer wont add me to facebook I did ask her and she said say yes but when I women says yes that can mean anything i think.

Its not like the 940 other "friends of hers" can really be friends like what's one more going to do!

I just wanted to keep in contact with her as she might be able to get me 2012 Olympic Mountain bike tickets now i think she thinks im a stalker or something!

I pay her for personal trainer lessons maybe she does not even class me as a friend any more just a provider. Maybe i need to convince her but shes very popular she talks to everyone in the gym she even high fived me before i high fived her haha that makes her more alpha than me dam.


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PostPosted: Mon Jun 20, 2011 10:37 pm 
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Maybe she just want's to keep the relationship professional. What do you mean by "won't add"?

Did she reject you when you added her or just didn't add you yet?

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PostPosted: Mon Jun 20, 2011 10:41 pm 
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Seriously you have a severe case of oneitis. Ask yourself this, if you stopped paying for your classes, would you still see her?

In my honest opinion, you have two choices:

1 - Forget about her and actually go out and meet other women.
You can still train with her, just go there for "business"
2 - Actually come out to her and ask her out, don't do facebook stuff, numclose or w/e be blunt (ie, in the middle of the training while recuperating : "Hey, I'm going for a [coffee/beer/walk/whatever else that's casual] after this session, want to tag along?" If she can't, say something like this: "Too bad, well keep [next class day] open, you can come then."
Two things can happen... She'll accept and you've got yourself a "date" or she'll frankly tell you that this is strictly a business relation.

If you don't do this, you'll keep being annoyed, it'll screw your inner game up and you'll just keep on being worse.

Cheers!


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One sign that your thinking of someone too much is when you analyze your high fives. Seriously.

An important step in being able to have mutiple sexual relationships with women is having the capability to not give a shit most of the time.

It is literally impossible to be good with women if you stick to one and expect everythin to go smoothly. You need multiple at one time and contnuously sarge to prevent dwelling on the minute details of one interaction.

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PostPosted: Tue Jun 21, 2011 9:48 am 
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Ok thanks guys i know you are right im just out of work now so got too much time on my hands ill try to blank her out.


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PostPosted: Tue Jun 21, 2011 10:28 am 
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Seriously, what the hell!

1) Its facebook for goodness sake, SO WHAT if she doesn't add you!
2) She is your personal trainer, you PAY her to provide a service. You are NOT friends, you do NOT know eachother for any reason other than a professional relationship.
3) Assuming she is attractive, do you have ANY idea how many guys probably use personal training as an excuse to try and hit on her? She has no idea your any different.
4) Even if your not trying to hit on her, and just want to friend her as she might get your tickets - talk about using her much. Its taking something from her without giving anything back, its like being a gold digger.

All in all, are there so few women in your life that your unable to have any interactions with an attractive girl without you trying to make it sexual? You have a professional relationship, respect it.


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PostPosted: Tue Jun 21, 2011 3:41 pm 
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Seriously, what the hell!

1) Its facebook for goodness sake, SO WHAT if she doesn't add you!
2) She is your personal trainer, you PAY her to provide a service. You are NOT friends, you do NOT know eachother for any reason other than a professional relationship.
3) Assuming she is attractive, do you have ANY idea how many guys probably use personal training as an excuse to try and hit on her? She has no idea your any different.
4) Even if your not trying to hit on her, and just want to friend her as she might get your tickets - talk about using her much. Its taking something from her without giving anything back, its like being a gold digger.

All in all, are there so few women in your life that your unable to have any interactions with an attractive girl without you trying to make it sexual? You have a professional relationship, respect it.
No I agree with you completely but its only human to be attracted to a girl that beautiful yes I know shes is a hired gun and anyone with a cock will be hitting on her. I have made the effort now to see her as a professional and nothing more.

Last weekend I went out and chatted up two stunning HB9s seriously they were stunning. But my mates gave me stick as they felt uncomfortable with me talking to them like that. Im going to go out with some other PUA's from the uk PUA forum I know i can meet single women!


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PostPosted: Tue Jun 21, 2011 6:07 pm 
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Realize that people have their close familiese, relatives or friends on FB. I personally wouldn't add anyone I just met on mine until I get to know that person better, and definitely I wouldn't add my one night stand or fling.


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Yep just like how Madals wont reply to my pms, women of high demand get uncomfortable when someone they dont feel close to try to escalate their relationship.

Nonetheless goodjob on the pull lastweekend keep sarging.

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PostPosted: Tue Jun 28, 2011 9:56 pm 
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I nearly pulled again last weekend this girl was drunk but she said she liked balled men and was kissing my head lol she even asked me for my name to add me to facebook my only regret is that I should of added her there and then to facebook.

To be honest I really really regret signing up to a 3 month contract with this Personal Trainner. I had a session with her today and ok she was trying to let me down nicely (she said that the gym does not allow staff to add clients to facebook and they monitor it which is BS ) but omg how patronising and what a loss of face I need to save face or get some respect back somehow I think she thinks im a f**** stalker or something i feel a right tit.

Im going out with another new PUA on Saturday maybe will get lucky. Im also in a long distance realatinship with a thai girl im a right sucker for punishment lol

I feel like telling her next time it was a mistake adding you to facebook as it was unprofessional of me but lets move on.

I might tell her that her twitter account is set to public also and if she dont want me to follow it then dont make it public but i guess she will think im bitter.


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PostPosted: Tue Jun 28, 2011 10:01 pm 
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\I feel like telling her next time it was a mistake adding you to facebook as it was unprofessional of me but lets move on.
AFC alert! Tell her something like "It was a mistake adding you to facebook, you don't seem that interesting after all" and smile!


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