first time is a different situation im not going to go into, but the second time i was so pissed off about what happened.

basically, i could not get an erection what so ever, she was doing everything she could and it just wouldn't go up, WHY?! someone give me an answer to this? I usually have one like a few times a day, sometimes out of the blue ,

This can have many reasons

-Nervous
-Alcohol
-Drugs
-Tired
-Disease
-And many more

I really don't think anyone can help you on this one.

If it's recurring, go see a doctor.

oh that answers it, does alcohol often stop you from getting an erection? I was also tired too

It does to some people.

Alcohol usually fucks up your chances of getting laid. You'll forget your game, talk giberish, bump into people, stink of alcohol and when it finally comes down to the "moment suprême", you won't get it up.

Then on the other hand it's supposed to boost your confidence. But this can also be achieved by imroving your inner-game.

So my advice: less alcohol when sarging, more alcohol when with mates!

Shakespeare himself once wrote (I believe it was Othello but I may be mistaken) "Drink increases the desire, but lessens the ability"

In otherwise young healthy males, alcohol is probably the single greatest cause of not being able to get it up.

The second cause is probably just being nervous and not truly being mentally and emotionally ready to have sex.

It one thing to want to lose your V-card, but it is a whole other thing to actually be "ready" to have sex with any one particular person and to be sufficiently aroused.

Much is said about female arousal and foreplay and such but the reality is men need foreplay just as much, they just may not need it for as long of a time.

The key is steady, progressive escalation (look up Vin DeCarlo's Escalation Ladder) You can't just be sitting around talking about stupid stuff and then say lets stick my dick in you. You have to escalate to build physical comfort and arousal.

Escalation is just as important for the male sexual response as it is for the female response.

You somehow reminded me of Extramask (am i right?) from The Game lol.

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The pressure and stress is probably what did it. That can change your heart rate and blood pressure and prevent you from getting an erection. Not to mention that the brain is a major component to obtaining an erection, and if your mind was racing and unfocused, you probably weren't turned on because of how worried you felt. A lot of guys describe their first time, as if they were an observer, rather than from their point of view, as if they leave their body and its like a dream.

Also is their any other reason that losing your virginity may cause you stress? Like religious guilt? or performance anxiety? extreme fear of impregnation or stds? All these things could play out in your subconscious and prevent erections.

I have this problem quite frequently when I'm not attracted to the girl. Did you actually want to have sex with her, or just have sex to lose you're virginity. Almost every time this happens to me it's because I'm ready to drop the girl and just can't seem to come up with any way to make my "wee" man willing.

Also, if you smoke it will make it much more difficult to achieve and sustain an erection. However, if you get them a few times a day without sexual stimulation I would say it is nerves or lack of attraction.

all above posts are right, if your nervous, your dick can actually get smaller, i believe its called "penis panic", it happens when your nervous or really pumped up, shit like that...

just try to remember next time your about to bang a girl, that you ARE BANGING A GIRL, dont think about anything, turn into an animal that just wants that pussy.

my penis actually did get smaller rather than bigger, but i didnt feel nervous what so ever, i was just pissed off. I actually said to her 'i want to fuck your brains out, for fuck sake' because i was angry i couldnt get hard lol.
i am kind of conscious about my penis size, i dont feel its small yet i dont have the biggest which makes me kind of worried in a way, i actually thought to myself when she put her hands down my trousers and grabbed it i thought 'fuck'. what can i do to get over this anxiety?