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PostPosted: Sat Jun 25, 2011 12:32 pm 
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hey guys so i havent been on in forever and i need some advice.

Anyways i am a very attractive girl. My only problem is that im often told that guys are scared to talk to me because i look defensive and dont smile. I dont mean to look like a bitch but i guess i just do. I have, however, been approached by guys before its just not often because i guess guys think i will reject them. How can i convey that im not a bitch? i am very shy so i need to work on that but i dont know exactly how to do that

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there is a misconception that hot woman get approached alot ... i've seen hot girls sitting unapproached in the club for the whole night because guys are just too initimidated to approach.

anyway i like the fact that a woman is trying to learn something...

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PostPosted: Sat Jun 25, 2011 11:42 pm 
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hey guys so i havent been on in forever and i need some advice.

Anyways i am a very attractive girl. My only problem is that im often told that guys are scared to talk to me because i look defensive and dont smile. I dont mean to look like a bitch but i guess i just do. I have, however, been approached by guys before its just not often because i guess guys think i will reject them. How can i convey that im not a bitch? i am very shy so i need to work on that but i dont know exactly how to do that

thanks for the help!
there is a misconception that hot woman get approached alot ... i've seen hot girls sitting unapproached in the club for the whole night because guys are just too initimidated to approach.

anyway i like the fact that a woman is trying to learn something...
agreed....

as well, it may seem weird for you, as a girl, to walk up to a guy and say he's hot... but switch it around, ill give you my POV.

If a decent looking girl comes up to me and says im hot.... holy shit, id be blown away ( not because im ugly) but because the girl shows interest and confidence, and if you are attractive than id be all over that, and not just in a sexual way.

Smile, even though it seems hard at times or weird, and just start talking to a guy you might like... be direct though, and i gurantee you, you will find what you are looking for


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go up to a guy and say take a pic of me and my friends and FOLLOW UP, if you do that i will let you dance with me or something like that, if he is a dick or a jerk, you save faced because everybody saw him taking the pic..Use your BODY LANGUAGE, BODY POSITIONING(so is easy for a guy to approach), face gesture, i do not know why such big emphasis on smiling, i do not remember me approaching a girl cause smiling, focus more on eye contact..

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Use your BODY LANGUAGE, BODY POSITIONING(so is easy for a guy to approach), face gesture, i do not know why such big emphasis on smiling, i do not remember me approaching a girl cause smiling, focus more on eye contact..
To look at it from that perspective, a smiling girl who makes eye contact would be worth talking to if she's at least an HB6. What I'm trying to say, Breex, is that making eye contact and showing that you're open to conversation would trigger a guy you like to at least initiate a talk.


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Q., thanks for all the pointers.

You're right yet again, I sorta do have baggage from a previous guy and I think he has put all these misconceptions in my mind. Im over it now, but I still cant get those misconceptions out of my head. And i am very young so ill admit to being naive about the situation.

About the whole shy thing, i feel like guys dont like shy girls because they think girls wont put in any effort when the guy finally does approach and tries to get something going. idk. I may be interested in the guy, but im taken so off guard i get nervous or clam up.

And to what some of the other poster wrote: there is definitiely a misconception about hot girls always getting hit on. Ive seen hot girls not get approached as well because i think guys are intimidated too.

I think im gonna try approaching a guy soon just so i can say i did it. i need to build up the confidence for it first. also, i feel like i couldnt use the same pick ups you guys use on girls. what would be some good ones to try on a guy?


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Please just approach a guy and start talking to him. All you have to lead off with is "hi, my name's ______" and go with it. Nothing would make me happier than for this trend to spread amongst women across the world and for at least this one part of life to become infinitely simpler.

You don't need a pick up line, you just need to say hello.


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PostPosted: Sun Jun 26, 2011 6:32 am 
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The fact is nobody really needs a line or a routine. They are there to help guys who are first starting out. Pickup routines basically take the root of male attractiveness and distill it down into a systematic method that newbs can digest and understand. Most guys starting out don't know how attraction works, and so if you told them the truth, it would break their feeble minds.

Attraction in men is very different. If you can turn a head, you've got some serious value. If you catch guys staring at you, or checking you out, then half the battle is won.

The thing is for Breex she may be too shy to approach a guy. Although many of us here believe you'll probably have like 90% success going up to any guy, talking to him and asking for his number, that may be a bit outside your comfort zone. And while there is nothing better than the rush you get after a successful close (and I do encourage you to try), you can always try a subtler approach.

A friend of mine once told me about what he thought to be really attractive. He would love it if a girl were to look him in the eyes, smile, look down (almost shyly or embarrassed), and then steal another glance at him and look away. Very alluring. Very unassuming. You've done two things - 1) you've sent a signal that you're interested and 2) if the guy doesn't approach, you've weeded out anyone who is either in a relationship or doesn't have the balls to approach. You of course may still get the guy who is IN a relationship AND has got the balls to approach, but there's not much you can do about that.

Use that shyness to your advantage. It's a great asset.

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PostPosted: Tue Jun 28, 2011 6:18 am 
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If you can turn a head, you've got some serious value. If you catch guys staring at you, or checking you out, then half the battle is won.
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I can quarantee this is true for men as well. (just in case you guys wanted to know lol)
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The thing is for Breex she may be too shy to approach a guy. Although many of us here believe you'll probably have like 90% success going up to any guy, talking to him and asking for his number, that may be a bit outside your comfort zone. And while there is nothing better than the rush you get after a successful close (and I do encourage you to try), you can always try a subtler approach.


Use that shyness to your advantage. It's a great asset.

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The suggestion your friend made seem like it could definitely work. I will hopefully try something like that because i dont have the guts to go up to a guy. even if he did respond well to my compliment i think i would still die from embarrassment lol


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be genuine and social, whether you're a guy or girl, and through time you will find someone for you there is no doubt. like i live in atlanta and i'm always driving down to athens with my friends just to go out and meet new people. that's what i mean by social


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This topic is so interesting to me.. I know this girl from years ago.. she's a knockout.. I was too afraid to talk to her, assuming she's a stuck up bitch.. I recently reconnected with her.. oh my god she's the sweetest girl in the world. Unfortunately she's now married but from a guy's perspective it shows me I need to just think of (hot) women as people too and not envision them as goddesses. Secondly with her, she always dressed to impress.. so I often felt I wasn't worthy or something.. so if I can offer any advice, if you always look like a 10, maybe you need to tone it down a little to make yourself appear more approachable. That and smiling/laughing. Just my 2 cents.


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