Well guys, the title says it all. Lately my girlfriend has been avoiding sex. We've been together 8 months and have a very strong relationship. But she said "It feels like sex is the main part of our relationship to you. You seem to want it 24/7." Of course this is an exaggeration, but I definitely get horny around a girl as sexy as her. I feel like I always have to push for it, because it's less important to her than it is to me.

Her exact words were "Sex seems like 80% of the relationship to you, and 20% to me."

I'm also the best lover she's ever had. So it's not like I can't satisfy her. I MORE than satisfy her, so I'm really stumped. Any suggestions/explanations? I need help guys.

Sex with her is more important to you than sex with you is to her.

This is the sign that your relationship is well into the decay state. Like everything in nature, relationships begin, thrive, plateau, decay, and die.

To keep this short, don't be the idiot who stays on a sinking ship trying to patch it up. Go for the lifeboat, and head to the port where there are more, nicer ships that you can work on boarding

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If your the best she's ever had, then she shouldn't mind the sex. She's just finding excuses to break up with you. If she is actually in love with you, then if you broke up with her, cut connections, then come back into her life, then she'll definitely show different reactions.

If you really were such a fantastic lover she would want to fuck your brains out 24/7. She's lying and looking for a reason to get out of your relationship. If she tells you you're great in bed she's lying

Have you actually listen to what your gf is telling you? Because if you did then you would see what she is saying let alone telling you. Which is she wants the relationship to be more than just sex. I doubt there is anything else going on. It sounds like to me that the "honeymoon" phase of the relationship is over and she looking at the long term.

That's not the case in this situation. She talks all the time about wanting to marry me. And every time I merely touch her down there, she gets GUSHING wet. You can't fake that... I definitely turn her on. But the problem is GETTING to the part where I put my hand down there. She's becoming reluctant because she thinks that's all I care about.

I don't see how it's dying really. Since she talks all the time about wanting to marry me. That shows that she's clearly in this for the long term. I just notice that her need for sex has been declining. As I already said, I've read every sex book and seduction guide out there. So this is weird.

I asked her if there were any OTHER problems with our relationship. She said no, and that it was only that I was "making sex the center of our relationship."

She's not trying to break up, I'm certain. But that strategy wouldn't work on her... she's too stubborn. If I dumped her, her pride would probably never let her get back with me again. On the other hand, though, simply ignoring her for one day made her sob her eyes out and write me nonstop in the past. Maybe something like that will get through to her.

I understand what you mean. But why is there a rule that says the honeymoon phase has to end? Is it impossible for a couple to live a "honeymoon lifestyle?"

Don't give her sex for a month, even if she wants it.

Then start seducing her but don't ever push for it again. She becomes slightly hesitant, and you move back.

I've considered that several times. But then I always end up thinking "How the hell am I gonna be able to go a month without it myself?!" Self control is extremely hard when you have a HB 10 for a gf.

You rather live the rest of your relationship in a situation like this, or sacrifice some time off that might help your current situation drastically?

It's up to you.

Making up excuses for not taking action is your own doing and not a physical hindrance.

Good point, thank you. You're right, and I'm gonna change my strategy. I'm not gonna be controlled by what's between her legs. So the problem here is that she thinks she doesn't have to work for sex because she can get it from me anytime she wants?

Its not a rule, its more how things work or play out. Its impossible for the honeymoon phrase/lifestyle to continue for ever it just can't. At some point reality has to kick in.

You may well be doing the physical ACT of sex really well, mechanically speaking (although her being wet really doesn't mean anything - what matters is if she's having vaginal orgasms from penetration alone!)

However, the female orgasm is 100% MENTAL. The physical act is only a small part - it helps her get there, but she can get there in many other ways, even by you just TALKING to her and not even touching her!

If you want her to initiate sex, then you have to be doing foreplay for a lot longer, all the time. Foreplay can be ANYTHING that comes before actual penetration. This is includes, but is not limited to:

• Sending her dirty texts / emails to build anticipation for the evening to come later
• Whispering in her ear how sexy she looks to you, and describing all the naughty things you want to do to her
• Giving her a massage - teasing her by touching ALL the places around and near where she really wants to be touched for aaaaages before you actually touch her there

The idea is to get her horny and thinking about sex and wanting it, before you even try to initiate it. Often times, she'll even initiate it herself!

However good you are at the physical act, learning to leverage the mental aspect of female sexuality is a whole new world that very few men know how to do. I recommend David Shade's work, which you can find here: http://bit.ly/iFdky0 I recommend "Give Women Wild Screaming Orgasms" and also any of his material on Advanced Sexual Hypnosis, also stuff by David Cunningham.

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