I am in a very weird and difficult situation. A few months back, a HB8 joined my company. Its a family business and we hired her as assistant. I thought she was cute however she was married so I didnt bother. However I started get IOIs from her all the time. I started flirting with her as well however I didnt think it woulf go anywhere as she was married. afew days later she gave me her number and told me to text her however I started playing hard to get and unavailable all the time and that really attracted her and wanted me more. Soon she told me her husband cheated on her. Soon she started asking me to come to the local bar and other places but I always said no and that made her want me more. after afew days of her asking, I finally went. she was pretty drunk and she started making out wiht me immediately. she was all over me and kept telling me how she wants me really bad. After that i took her to a club the next day and we had a lot of fun and we started hanging out everyday. We did everything a couple would do but I did not want to get serious with her as i knew i may get hurt so i always kept her a distance. Mistake i made was that i told her that we were just friends and she played along with that until 3 weeks later her husband came back to her. she started ignoring me. This is when i found out that i was FUCKED. I had fallen for her. She went back with her husband and I accepted it.. she told me how i always told her we were just friends so she had to lookout for herself . I tried to get her back but it was too late until she got in a fight with her husband again and then she started talking to me again. she would still tell me how we cant be togethe rbut she would always be flirting and texting. I started falling for her again. She would make plans to hangout and then bail out. I ignored all rules and was jsut completly after her. We have a 4 year age difference and i understand where she is coming from. Now she is BACK with her husband again and Its really hard for me to see her 8 hours everyday. I know she likes me but she loves her husband as well. she is always complaining when she is with him and all.

Sorry about the long post but idk what to do!

You have to accept its only ever going to be a casual thing, don't expect anything more, its not really her fault for making you fall for her, you need to get out there and accept that things are never going to be serious between the both of you.

I know i have to accept it but its just really hard. I dont blame her. She is older and at a stage where she needs to settle down while im not. Its just very hard, especially seeing her everyday. Should i just keep my distance as to where only hi and bye kinda thing because she texts me after work . she finds excuses to text me like " thanks for the lunch today..what are you upto" and other useless stuff...so should i ignore her or keep talking?

if you want to fuck her again. you have to completely ignore her and every attempt she trys to gain contact with you. A simple hi and handshake when you see her at work and thats it. You have to revert back to your old ways to get her to act how she used to with you.. she's come crawling back. ignore her until she's deperate. should take a week

however i feel you should stay out of all this. she's married and your fucking her up worse by being in her life.

I agree with you but she is on and off with her husband...she almost divorced him but i want the best for her. Its just hard...I want to be with her but at the same I know it better to let it go!! Very true though...every time i start ignoring her..she keeps coming back. Why are women like that..the more you ignore them the more they chase but when you treat the way they want to be treated...they change colors.
Thanks for the help guys!

I only read half of that rambling bullshit so all I'll say is that you better stop falling for bitches unless you like digging yourself metaphorical holes

Yea i know...I had stopped falling for girls easily...I would always keep a distance and not get attached but this one just to me...and that too after she was gone!

Lol I guess things just became a little easier in the long term but more painful in the short term...she quit her job and told me that she will not be talking to me anymore