Hi guys,

Lately I have been visiting this Dutch website which has a pretty cool concept.

There are 3 ways to get connected with women: Speeddates, battledates or matches.
The only way to communicate with these women is by chat or messages, there are no profiles involved.

The last week or so, I have been requested for battledates alot (mechanics: girl presses request for battledate, the website searches 2 random guys that are online at that time and puts all 3 of them in a chat. After 5 minutes the girl gets to choose 1 guy to keep as contact. The other won't be contactable anymore).

My question: Do I amog the other guy? Like putting him in a bad daylight, or do I just keep the conversation flowing, keep asking questions and give interesting awnsers...

Hope this is abit clear...

I've never really tested trying to put other guys down to make myself look better. But I wouldn't. Whenever I'm talking with an hb, whether it be online or elsewhere, I always say good things about people unless they're really blatant dorks.

I'd focus on making myself look good by coming off as cool ,fun, charming, and witty guy. My personal opinion is something like the juggler method would work better than mystery's style here. Go for the charismatic guy, not the rockstar.

But again, I'm just speculating. See what other forum members say. Some of the guys in here are really good; a lot better than I.

Good Luck! Oh, let us know how it goes, that does sound very interesting...

Ok, small update:

I've had a few other battledates which were pretty much te same:

I come in and start asking questions, making funny statements while the other guy does nothing except for awnsering her questions.
These were pretty easy wins for me.

However, this one guy:

He went in very high energy, while i'm more a laidback guy. He amogged the shit out of me, which I just plainly ignoared. (Might have been a mistake, but I'll see that when I'm in a similar situation). The guy did nothing but calling me dumb and making fun of me and won the battle. I guess assholes really get the girls.

I don't want to lower myself to the level of an asshole, I'm not really the nice guy, I like to portray myself as the good guy, which in my opinion is a great difference.

Question: How to handle assholes without becomming one?

"Wow this guy over here seems more interested in me than the pretty lady"


I think you should use the philosophy of "walk softly and carry a big stick".