Hi,

I have been in the community for around half a year now to handle the women part of my life, I'm 22.

I was really excited by the idea that game is learnable, routines and actions etc. So I started reading, watching videos, joined this forum, you name it. My long-term plan was get the information, plant it in me, start practicing eventually succeed. Sure practice as I learn. I've read the game, mystery method, sixty years of challenge, paul janka's method, pandoras box and now finishing off the attraction code by Vin DiCarlo.

Unfortunately, I had no idea how frustrating it will be trying to come out of my comfort zone to practice mystery method, even worse, get discovered, even though I didn't do it right maybe? either way I was never a person that does what he doesn't want to do. Sixty years of challenge just seemed creepy, what is the right way to do it, usually, when describing such routines, you will need video to support the teachings. It is also frustrating listening to everyone say "girls just want a confident guy". I was confident enough to start a football team, I was confident enough to meet girls, only to be friend-zoned by them, I was confident enough to be mr popular, the person who knows everyone and can access most things. So what is confidence? I also heard before that PUA is 90% inner game, and 10% routine. I opened my eyes, its true, my friend who is also 22, who doesn't believe in sex before marriage, is surrounded by girls who are clearly attracted to him when he's not even into game! I had to understand inner game, routine is natural. So in my search I came accross the book that will soon change my life, The Attraction Code by Vin DiCarlo.

The Attraction Code is a great book, I recommend it to everyone, even if they're good, even "naturals". The book shows, from a psychological point of view, how you can change yourself to be attractive, not just to women, but to men too, not in a gay way, but in a way where you will become loveable. There is not a single element of routine, just how to use your mind and actually is a healthy, attractive and happy lifestyle. No wonder how my friend gets all the girls, they love his character, he's an example of the teachings of that book.

I'm not advertising this book for Vin, he doesn't even know of my existence, but this is my contribution to the forum and community, a lot ask about the right book, I can't even stop to express how useful and life changing this book is to have a lifestyle where you're good with people, especially girls. He shows you how to become a natural, he specified himself that the term "natural" is mis-understood, people here think its someone who is "naturally good with women" but in reality its never something you're born with, you learn from practice, some learn from very young or have those characters mentioned in the book in them naturally. By becoming a natural, you're basically someone with the attractive character and personality so picking up women should be no problem.

I felt to write about this because really, I read a lot of posts of guys asking what should I do? and someone replies with "don't call her yet, talk about this, say this"...no one will remember all that. Take a Chemistry exam you worked hard revising for a month, try answer the exam paper again a month later, see how much you remember. Learn how to change yourself to be attractive, no one likes to change or be someone else, I agree, but you would want to be the person who is good with women so this is enough motivation for you that I know you're willing to change your inner game and successfully will if you read the book. I loved Mystery's push and pull technique because of its simplicity, its become part of my character, its no longer a routine, its natural part of my character I do without even noticing, this is the difference. Robots are limited, its boring, you get an output from the same input constantly, if you're competing to be top of the game and take pride in it, you're doing the most lazy, least attractive play like robots. Robots will think that they're only good with a certain type of women but being natural will attract all women to you because of their feminine character they ALL have in common. Just last week when I changed my meeting-women-venue for the first time I thought to myself "this is a new town, I don't know anyone here which is good, I don't care about my reputation here, I like the music, I will have a good time" and I swear to you, I had women approaching and smiles from around the room.

If you're a beginner, please avoid my mistake, learn about inner game first, how to change your character and make your personality more attractive. If you were chosen over night to become the prince of jordan, the government will show you how to behave like a prince, not what a prince does. Think about inner game and invent your own routines, see how much you will enjoy the routines this way. Are you a robot or a natural?

Lava

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Inner game is ALL you need, then create your own routine

The thing with me is, before I discovered game I was a natural, well maybe not as good as "there's a girl, her, my car, sex..." right, but at least I wasn't strange when talking to girls, I wasn't an asshole and I wasn't shaking when going up.
And then game fucked me up. Cause I thought that everything I got so far was just luck and I need to get better, so I started off with The Game, Mystery method, RSD, ... you name it I've read/watched it. And the more I did it the more I got sucked in.
Luckly I saw all this BS after a while and broke through to where I am today, a little bit better then I was before, but at least I'm not an asshole anymore
So yeah it took me like almost 6 months to come around this circle of bullshit and to start again, but you know what I went back I would have done it again, cause along the way I got experiences and that's a lot.

To answer your question, I'm both sometimes a robot and sometimes a natura (I guess it depends on the weather :D)

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How my life looks like right now: STUDY HARD, PARTY HARD

I am a fucking natural. Getting there is only really a matter of the amount of times you fall and get back up again. It's all experience. If you are on your way to becoming a natural, prepare for a world of hurt. You will put up with all sorts of shit. Your ego, confidence, and self esteem will all be reduced to shit. When I was going at it like a robot, I didn't really know what was happening to be honest.

I feel as if I don't give a fuck about anything. Everything that society has taught me which made me a pussy is now gone, I really feel like I just don't care about the reactions, outcomes, anything. Now of course, I'm not like a zombie or anything. I have my own flare.

The confidence that I have now is just unbelievable. It all comes from within. I can say things that are so crazy and they just work out. I was next to a girl and I literally said what was on my mind at the moment, "I love your outfit, I was just thinking about what I'd do to you." When I said that, not a single fuck was given.

All you have to do is be seductive and serious at the same time but serious in a genuine matter, you can't be all uptight-serious. I start with something so simple..so unoriginal..so lame, and then the rest is cheese. Example: "Hey what's your name?"

slightly like you Kupid..I've always been popular, freindly, funny etc but wasn't getting anything, so I changed to become a robot for a bit, surely I had a few results but it didn't feel right, for me it wasn't about getting women, its about getting women if they want to be with me, I wasnt willing to change my lifestyle just for women..I've always had a good balance in society in terms chasing and being chased and wasn't willing to change how I approach people, anyway then I realised I went out to search for something I already had, my confidence! It was just my intentions deep inside my character that needed fixing coz I've been a pussy! I'm still working on how to show sexual interest without being creepy, its all about intention is what I realised...
Sure there will always be routine to use which as I've mentioned, its all cool if it was planted in your character, so that you won't have to think about when to use it, you naturally do it without realising!

Chris, you clearly have a high level of confidence which is good...where you say what you wanna say, do what you want and only YOU dictate if its right or wrong or awkward, Im guessing thats where your success comes from, not giving a fuck, thats strong internal game. Fair enough we should be polite and keep our manners around girls we already know but if a girl has make up and dresses sexy (like come and fuck me), you don't know her, you go talk to her purely because of her sexual image, then we have no respect to her at all, the only reason we go over to her is because "she will be a good sex"...if this is how much respect we have for her why should we give a fuck what she thinks when we say whatever we wanna say...?

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It's very respectful going up to a girl purely based on her sex image. You are seeing her as a sexual being. Like I said, society taught us to be pussies. Avoiding to see a girl as a sexual being is an insult.