Interesting situation and I would love advice l but I will have to summarize the developments. I can't tell if she is mind effing me or if she is just not interested...

I met kelsey through my best friends gf, she has been talking about hooking us up for awhile now and things have progressed but it seems like some mind fucking is going on.

A little over a month ago I went out to a concert and kelsey and my friends gf happened to be there. It was by no means a date but by the end of the night I had my arm around kelsey and I drove her home after the concert. Didn't give her a kiss but I could tell she wanted one...

About a week later I get back from a trip and I text her asking if she wants to hangout, I don't get a response for a few days but when I do she says she has had strep throat... My first red flag...

About a week later I call her up and ask if she wants to grab dinner and a movie the next night, she says she is down for that but when I call her back the next night she answers and says she is not feeling great but she proposes a followup date for the next night... Another red flag but she threw in the followup date so I figured I'd give it one more shot...

The next night I call her up... No answer. I deleted her number and thought "on to the next one". Next day she leaves a message on my phone and apologizes and explains she feel asleep after work and by the time she woke it was too late to call me. She also proposes doing something next tuesday... I tell her no worries, feel better... Number still deleted and I didn't follow up with her on tuesday.

A couple weeks later she texts me and says she is tagging along for a movie with my friend and his GF and that she would like me to come. I decide to go to the movie but don't make any moves because of the mutual friends around. I felt because she insinuated the date its worth a shot.

This past weekend her bestfriend hits my up via text and asks if I am coming out that night, she mentions kelsey is coming. I tell her im thinking about it even though I am sold because I want some action and she seems like a nice girl.

I wait in line at the club and kelsey texts me asking where I am, by the time I get in she is waiting for me at the door. She was all over me that night and wanted to hold my hand the whole time. We got good and drunk and I ended up taking her home and sleeping with her while I was drunk and also in the morning... Not too shabby, I felt like she had a high interest level in me, things are looking good.

Drop her off at her friends on sunday morning and I tried to play it cool, told her I had fun and that we should do it again... She is wearing my sweat pants and has my teeshirt on... That's that.. She's dropped off, I'm feeling confident.

So on Monday I get advice from my female friend, she knows I won't be in town this upcoming weekend. She says "If you like her you should follow up with her this week just to be a gentleman"...

So I send her a text "I had fun on the weekend...etc, are you free to do something this week"

Two days later... No response! Did she smash and dash? Should I send a follow up text? Should I just manup and call her? Should I forget about her and move on? Should I wait for her to reply?

There are lots of options, I feel like there is some mind games going on. I wish I had another girl on the go because it would make me feel better and I wouldn't have to dwell on this girl but that's not the case... What do you guys think?

I don't know why but this is killing me, had a good night with a girl and no response to the text... Never had this happen... Anyone want to take a stab it this?

Possibly a VAPOG (Vacuous party oriented girl) You're probably best leaving her alone as if you do get in a relationship with her you will have to deal with the same thing on a regular basis.

If you want to force her hand to communicate (for piece of mind) there are a number of ways.

1: Send her a blank text (she will wonder what you are doing)

2: Send a text beginning "Hey Kevin" and stick some random DHV's on the end (subtle ones) Then finish off "so I will be an hour late" She will assume you hit the name next to hers in the address book and will feel socially obliged to inform you in case you are "Late", check your messages to see if it went to "Kevin" and realise it went to her.

I feel it necessary to always gauge the level of Assholeness required to obtain maximum vagina tingles in a girl. For example, if a girl consistently shit tests me by cancelling dates, plays a lot of mind games, and is always late to responding to shit, I turn up the Ass hole game. In your scenario for example, I wouldn't have followed up after sleeping with her. I would have made a blatant move on one of your other friends and made sure it went back to Kelsey. Dread and competitive anxiety do a lot more for interest level than being a "gentlemen."

I also think you showed way to much interest. Despite the fact that your following dates may have been successful, the fact that she cancelled so many times previously and than you still complied EASILY with her later attempts means that she has established higher value than you.

At the club, I would've closed her the same way you did, but I also would've made sure I got caught red-handed flirting with other girls.

Also, never, ever, ever, take advice from a girl. Ever.

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