started seeing a girl from Feb of this year but we only had a few dates. We spoke on the phone as boyfriend and girlfriend for 2 months, then she kinda stopped calling and told me that she didn't want a boyfriend. I only see her at work so when we got the train I would put my arm around her and she seemed that she liked it. She was really into me and we were acting like a couple. I'm 27 and she is 22.

Yesterday she told me that she doesn't want me to act like her boyfriend(putting my arm around her) when I am not yet and that I'm giving it easy and on the plate and she thinks it is killing it before its begun and it's getting boring. I felt that because we like eachother it was only natural to do that.

Before she said it I was kissing her on the cheek and head at the same time which made her feel this way. The girl also tells me that after 4 months she doesn't know how she feels about me and is seeing other guys and says to me I shouldn't pressure her because if it is meant to be it will be. We got into a bit of argument but she never says out loud what she thinks. I mentioned about how she acts act work,she randomly says "nobodys knows what we have got" but it didn't really seem relevent to what I was saying. I think because I'm a big guy (6 feet 5) it looks odd when I show alot of affection. She is talking to me at work nice like I'm a friend or whatever but flirts with other guys and most guys are jealous of me because we are close. I'm back in the LJBF zone and don't know how long I should wait or if there is even any point at this moment. Should I continue with her?

hey man, sounds like a shitty situation. in which the kind that usually never end up happy in the long run in my experiences. Most people would recommend just cutting all ties with her. and moving on. It does seem like giving up in a way, but how far are you willing to go? when all your dignity goes down the drain?

tell her to fuck off, 6 months later talk to her on FB. then be an ass.

Ok, Zookmaster. What you should do is what most PUA's do. Flirt with other women.Simple. Don't spend too much time with this one chick who apparently is making an effort to move on. Clearly, she is unconfortable with the semi-dating idea. You should invest your time on more than one girl. Most guys fall into the "Oneitis" problem in your situation. I pray it didn't happen. Should you continue with her? No. Talk to her if she contacts you, but be busy. Donn't say you are busy, but actually keep yourselff unavailable; Other dates, hangouts with friends, job, etc.

If she doesn't come back, don't give a fuck. Move on. If she was going to treat you like that, you are better off without her holding you back from hanging around other women. Let me tell you a story:

Same thing happened to me in a way. I liked this girl...alot. Problem was I showed too much interest too quickly. I didn't back down. I hugged her, held hands..etc...but she still didn't want "A boyfriend". It took me 2 months to realize that I wasted my damn time. I discoverd she was interested in this jerk guy who didn't give a fuck about her. After months of calling, buying presents and texting, shit happens. So pick yurself up dust the shit off and forget about it.

Flirt with other chicks, and as I said above, keep yourself busy. life is more important than a single chick. But live life the fullest and invest..invest..INVEST in other women.

I hope that helps. Maybe..just maybe if you do this correctly, she will see you as a challenge and not a average frustrated chump. Best of luck.

~Anti-Lover.

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Also try to back off with the hand holding hugs etc.

When i date woman, i never hold hands, hug them, call them or text them.

Sound weird right? Let me explain my style a bit.

When i go on a date, i just be funny and intresting, with a strong alpha frame. I only kiss the girl when the moment is there actually, like on a bench or on the beach!

I only text when they text me. But when i send a text they are intresting and funny text messages.
And dates i usually arange on IM. Not the best way to do it, but it works for me!

Girls usually grab my hands or seek psychical(?) attention.

So actually im just saying with this is not to overdo things. If u like a girl its better to date with her and ask her to be ur boyfriend, when u feel the time is right.

Ok...NEXT her. Go find a bunch of other girls. Have you fucked this girl? You talk about holding hands n shit I just want to make sure u have smashed, n now she's just not into it anymore. She is hooking up with other guys, or making the effort to. Go find some girls already!

The one dude hit the nail on the head. At what point do you take ur balls out of the vice n say fuck her?! Drop her immediately! There really are just way to many hbs to worry about one who's not worried about you. Its a gift n a curse once you really realize it, but in the best way possible.

Anyways, you work together right?? Don't let it get weird. The best revenge is living well, so do that. Also, do you really want to be in a relationship w/her, or do u want to be in a relationship period? I personally don't try to hold hands or cuddle or whatever when im out with a girl. I just try to create a moment n capitalize. Also...what is acting like a couple? I think she has made it clear she's not into u. That's fine...go find a fuckload more who are. They are out there. Happy hunting. Hope this helps.

she was right you were giving everything up TOO easy. You know why women love the "bad boy"? because they feel they have to work to change/understand them. They love challenges and you giving everything away for free is no challenge. She is right that once all that is given even before you actually start dating there is nothing new to discover.

If she is seeing other guys, talk to other girls get your mind off her. Don't do it to spite her do it to expand YOU as a person. She will come back when she sees that you aren't ALL about her. trust me.

Could be a test you know.

It happens on two levels. On the first one people seek approval. On the second level, they get rejected. So she went onto the second level assuming you are seeking approval to test you. If you fell for the trap, you were seeking approval, if not she gets pulled into you.

That's the perfect time the neg her. Can't think of any out of the top of my head but like "Look at you trying to win my affection." This is lame, just think of something that disapproves her.

It can be similar to the situation in which a chick says "You ain't getting any tonight." That's a test too.