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How is not being able to return another human's feelings a perfectly normal human position? In medieval texts, a maiden (virgin) is a person that is "worth" more than other people just because they have an intact hymen. Chief seems to support this barbarian position by saying a girl isn't even worth his time if she's a virgin. Bluntly, as a PUA I enjoy the intimacy of sex. When you say that virgins deserve special SPAM, when you elevate them above "regular" women, you are sending a message that women should not be having sex.

Just to demonstrate how patently ridiculous the logic in this post is, you're saying that if a girl admits that she's a virgin, you'll turn her away like Style saying she deserves a man that will appreciate her more. Okay, so if she goes out and screws the first available man (quite possible if the object of her affections totally rejects her sexual advances) and is no longer a virgin, THEN you'd pursue her? You make virginity sound like an evil curse (which for some men and women, it is).

Pick up DOES teach you not to appreciate women. It teaches you abundance mindset, it teaches you to be "fickle" as Chief says. Mystery, the Jesus of Pick Up was a man child that could not have an adult relationship, who didn't think of women beyond the pleasure they provide. Do you think that's a coincidence? The "good role models" you're talking about are probably posers that haven't been with a lot of women. You have to realize a lot of "MPUA's" are better at seducing desperate men than women. The FACT of economics is, the more you have of something, the less you will value it.

Sorry if I'm hard to follow, I know I'm right I just can't put it concisely. But anyway, the people that understand where I'm coming from are the ones who've probably already quit or maybe my results with pick up were totally unusual, so I'll give it a rest. Thanks for your time anyway.
1. Who said she wasn't worth my or Chiefs time? It's very simple....

She fucks me, she wants relationship, I don't want relationship (and as is my right) I refuse to be forced into something I don't want, she gets hurt.

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She doesn't fuck me, if we get on, we stay friends, neither of us have to suffer any drama or hurt.

It's not about value, it's about one person wanting one thing and another person wanting another. So they agree to go their seperate ways and find what they want with someone who shares their desires. As opposed to try and force eachother to bend to one anothers will.

2. Depends whether she is more sexually mature now, compared to then. Virgins by definition have very little sexual emotional maturity, and haven't developed the schemas to deal with the kinds of emotions that can arise with sex.

To answer: I would consider fucking her, had she developed the maturity to handle sex without exlcusivity. It is unlikely however that just losing your virginity will give you that maturity. I lost my maturity outside of a relationship and even as a male, it REALLY fucked with my head for a good 8 months and I didn't really get over it until 4 months or so after that.

3. Since when does abundance of one trait make you devalue the other traits? This is your objectifying coming in The only thing that is in abudance is pretty girls, this doesn't make you value them as people less, ofcourse things change if like you your going to objectify them as just "pretty girls".

That doesn't mean that tri-lingual, guitar playing girl who has the sweetness to give you a good morning call, or that look on her face that makes you light up whatever the mood is a rare girl.


Human resource = Naz, the guy who runs breakneck comedy, he gets me gigs. He can be replaced when a new boss takes over breakneck.

Human Being = Ashleigh, girl from the north of england who is almost a mother and sister figure to me and who I have great interest in remaining friends with. She is not so expendable.

4. You're still referring to mystery as the jesus of PU? Really? You do realise the guys a fucking joke to nearly anyone with some skill?

Compare him to someone like say Adam Lyons, who like a couple of other members who were on this forum is happily married right now.

5. Compared to the people who are arguing against you, your view has been the cruellest and harshest towards "human beings", featuring themes of objectifying people into means to and ends and interpretations of conflicts of interest as rejecting girls becuase of their virginity.

Me thinks you don't like being this way, and that you're wanting to blame PU, to obsolve your conscience of responsibility.


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The fact that you edited it out
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The fact that you edited it out
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Okay Chief, you know exactly what I'm talking about. If you need to pretend you didn't go back and edit your post to save face because your internet persona is that important to you, so be it. But you know you did it and that's all that matters. I'll take pains to quote you in the future to avoid you taking cheap shots. I really expect more professionalism from a mod. I'd expect you'd try to disarm me, like you did with your last post so I'd actually listen to you instead of repeatedly provoking me. What's the point? Just to get a rise out of a stranger? We can make this whole thread about me, you guys know I'm arrogant enough that I don't mind the attention.

Fin, I appreciate you taking the time here, but if you look at the posts I posted after what was quoted, you'll see I back pedaled on most of the points you take exception to. I'm sorry if it sounds like I'm not listening to you, I just don't want to retread old ground. You're a reasonable guy that doesn't need to make personal attacks to get his point across and I respect that. In regards to "objectifying human beings", it is really hard to make an analogy when talking about humans where you don't "objectify" them. "Her eyes were like sapphires". Making analogies is just another way of understanding something, it is hard to better understand something when your ONLY frame of reference is that object or PERSON in this case, if you want to be exacting. What I did is no different than stating that cat string theory works because like a cat, a female will lose interest when you simply give her what she wants instead of enticing her. That doesn't mean I think women are simple animals. It's a literary device, not LITERAL.

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Fin, I appreciate you taking the time here, but if you look at the posts I posted after what was quoted, you'll see I back pedaled on most of the points you take exception to. I'm sorry if it sounds like I'm not listening to you, I just don't want to retread old ground. You're a reasonable guy that doesn't need to make personal attacks to get his point across and I respect that. In regards to "objectifying human beings", it is really hard to make an analogy when talking about humans where you don't "objectify" them. "Her eyes were like sapphires". Making analogies is just another way of understanding something, it is hard to better understand something when your ONLY frame of reference is that object or PERSON in this case, if you want to be exacting. What I did is no different than stating that cat string theory works because like a cat, a female will lose interest when you simply give her what she wants instead of enticing her. That doesn't mean I think women are simple animals. It's a literary device, not LITERAL.
Well I suppose in many ways we objectify humans all the time, a girl might size up a guys cute ass and that's it, bang! She has objectified that guy as eye-candy and possibly a flirt/fuck. Your bank-manager. He may be Steven Alanson from Vancouver, but while you're in his office as far as your concerned he's the guy you need to smooth talk for your over-draft, and he does the same thing back when he views you as a credit history to asses before lunch at 12.

What we often mean in a negative sense when we say "don't objectify" is "don't forget the other persons emotions or individuality".


I guess what I am expressing is that having an abudance mentality towards women is tottaly compatible as long as you are willing to view exceptional pretty women as MORE than just pretty women.

Sidenote: Granted this is a hard idea for people who have been rejected to understand. Those guys the main focus when many people on this forum meet a girl is "OMG she might have a working vagina", similarly alot of guys here becuase of their past experiences have a fear of women and will use an abudance theory to try and rationalise away rejection by making degrading comments of "bah! who is she but a woman".

Truth is when those guys are accepted suddenly their abudance mentality dis-appears as this woman becomes the only woman in the past month to give their bitter essence of a human being a genuine smile.

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I'd have to point out though that cat-string theory doesn't work they way people think it does.

People value objects they INVEST in, that's a psychological principle, not economical. (I'd suggest reading the book "nudge" it talks extensively about the problems of using mathamatical economics theories to explain human beings; simply put Econs are rational, Humans are merely rationalising and frequently behave in un-economic ways. It's a really fascinating book)

"Hard to get" similarly is a mis application of investment, when cat string theory works it's becuase it causes people to invest through curiosity and before you know it, you have inertia combined with a backwards rationalisation to avoid cognitive dissonance. Two very influential factors in human behaviour.

^^ Have been planning a post on that for weeks :P


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Huh, that does sound like an interesting book, I'm always open to reading suggestions. Plus, I was under the understanding that socio-economics does apply in micro interactions, but that's not based on anything really.

I appreciate your responses Fin, Vaj, and Roz, etc, because you're obviously genuinely concerned about my mindset and not just having a rage flare up because I said something in a dick way. But rest at ease, the way I talk on here doesn't represent me very well and I like to come here to unwind and not have to carefully consider everything I say like, you know, the real working world. The onus is on me for thinking a message board didn't have the same social nuance and people wouldn't tune you out if you're combative and leap down your throat for thoughtlessly wording a concept.

I'm more considerate of people's feeling and limitations than most people, period. This is why I can handle breaking in a virgin. If I go that far, it's because I'm in it for the long haul anyway. What I've been saying is other women ALSO release oxytocin, other women also crave lasting relationships and I treat all my women with that in mind. In that way, I treat them with the consideration, tenderness, and commitment I'd show a virgin. Except when I don't. I'm not perfect.

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Fuck, guys! Re-read this page an among all these sentences try to find one that relates to actual topic.

If I cared about emotions of other people I wouldn't have a possibility to care about mine. I mean "Will I hurt her? Let's stop".

Let's face the truth: show me a marriage where a woman lost her virginity to her actual husband. I have never seen such a thing. So... If a girl will never marry a man who she lost her virginity to, why bother? PUAs have all the knowledge and experience that can actually help that girl. "If you want me to be your first, I have to tell you...".

If a girl is in love with you and tells you she is a virgin, will you leave her because of that? You are the one that has all the skills to leave her better, I know the best way out of this situation is to explain her the way she will feel and don't do big thing of it. Who is better than the expert to deflorate her? I believe this way you protect her.

And finally, if it's SHE who is a virgin, why am I the one who cares?

And please, don't argue with people, argue with arguments.

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HAHAHA...... I own 6 V-cards....
Congratulations. You have either screwed 6 dumb sluts or you have used their ignorance. I don't see a challenge in doing that but hey.. Whatever makes you happy

I am going to become a porn actor some day. At least they don't have to lie to women or play mind games to have sex


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If I cared about emotions of other people I wouldn't have a possibility to care about mine.
:shock: ... what a sad and unfortunate place our world would be, if everyone took on this view.
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I know the best way out of this situation is to explain her the way she will feel and don't do big thing of it [...] And finally, if it's SHE who is a virgin, why am I the one who cares?
Because nothing can really prepare her for what's coming. If someone would have told me: "listen! you're going to be an emotional mess for the next couple months! you're going to be insecure, and paranoid, and needy!" I would have laughed in their face. But there I was... insecure, paranoid, and needy; so out of my character, and yet...

Anyway, my point is that most virgins don't expect to feel half the things they end up feeling. Many don't expect to feel attached, or abandoned, or lost in any way. And many really do suffer these things in silence... I know I did for the most part.

Remember ^this, and be honest with yourself, who you are at this stage in your life, and what you want out of the relationship.



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Having sex with a virgin:

1. She's going to be awful
2. Clinging afterwards(just about everyone clings psychologically to the person who takes their V.
3. I've always felt awkward.

If you are legitimately looking to pick up... Im not saying to locate yourself some whores. What I am saying is be sure that you are ready for the emotional battle a girl has with herself after.

There are reprocussions to actions. Mentally, physically, or emotionally.

Have sex with who you want but understand what you're getting into when you are there. If that makes sense.


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@Roz

So what am I supposed to do? Leave her because she is a virgin?

@the rest

Listen, these girls got mothers. And girlfriends. This is her body and her emotions, do I have to assume that every single virgin I meet is not prepared to start her sexual adventure?

Let's go further. If I am the second guy she's with, she will surely be attached to me even if I say I want an open relationship. And there are plenty "good girls" who will always treat her boyfriend as the one. No sex with them because I will hurt them?

I can say it that way. All this "leave her better" dogma is fulfilled by the fact you have had sex with a virgin.

Oh, I came up with the perfect solution! Have sex with virgin and then become a nice guy! Visit her everyday, spend extra money on gifts, don't let her meet her friends, be jealous... She will leave you, win-win situation!

Just to conclude: there are surely more than one type of woman. And if she tells me she's ready who am I to doubt that? If she doesn't know what exactly it will do to her emotional soul, she should at least expect that (remember? mother, friends...).

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The fact that you edited it out
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Okay Chief, you know exactly what I'm talking about. If you need to pretend you didn't go back and edit your post to save face because your internet persona is that important to you, so be it. But you know you did it and that's all that matters. I'll take pains to quote you in the future to avoid you taking cheap shots.
Calm down, you're just mistaken. When anyone edits their posts, mod or not, and if there are already posts from other people after that post, the edited post will say "edited at such and such time and date" plus the number of times the post has been edited, as you can see in my Outer Game stickied thread.


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Wow, I read through all of these posts and it's really hard to say with whom I agree due to all of the nested quotes and some edits. I think I agree with whoever said that the sex that a virgin has is special and different from the rest of their sexual encounters simply by the virtue of it being the first time, man or woman.

My current girlfriend took my v-card (which I also gave to her written on an index card) and even with the fact that there's no social stigma against me for giving it up, I can definitely agree that I would not have wanted my first time to be with a ONS. The reason there's the "all virgins are clingy" trope is because a new experience is something you want to talk about with your partner, and I hope that men are no exception.

Imagine if you, as a guy, got seduced by a woman who was collecting v-cards and you didn't know anything about sex except academically. Then it's wham-bam-thank you sir and she's out while you're laying there wondering what happened. Sure it felt good, but it was also new and maybe even scary if you didn't feel like you were in control. Virgin women are not likely to feel in control, so on top of the first time being awkward and often painful, they've given up control and become totally vulnerable. I'm betting more women are better prepared than they were decades ago, but still, is it worth making sex emotionally less pleasant or unpleasant?

Incidentally, after being with my girlfriend, I don't think I'd like to bang a virgin. Her experience made all the difference in the world. In that light, a woman losing her virginity to a PUA with good sexual skills would actually be a boon for her as long as he were emotionally available.

Bottom line: If she regrets giving it up, something went wrong. If it was the PUA's fault, then it's reflects very poorly.

@PIST0L - I hope those 6 v-cards don't regret losing them to you.


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by the time you are my age, it is virtually impossible to "take a girl's virginity". most chicks i bang are in their 30s and 40s.


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Kinda ironic you did it bruh.

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What is a PUA? Rather, what do PUAs do and what ethics do they (should they) follow?

What a PUA does: Seduce women
Ethics to follow: Leave her better than you found her

A PUA is experienced. He has been with multiple women. A virgin is inexperienced. She has been with no one else before. If a PUA has sex with a virgin, the PUA is her "first." He is very special and dear to her, but the PUA cannot possibly return the same sentiments. He can never see her in the same way she sees him. Does this sound fair?

Those who don't give a fuck about anyone but themselves would pay no heed to any concept of fairness in this matter, but the fact of the matter is that "Leave her better than you found her" is the PUA community's number 1 moral mantra. The saying can be interpreted in many ways, that's true, but seducing a virgin leaves too much room to do more harm than good as a PUA.

Admit it - we're fickle. Sooner or later, we're going to want to move onto the next woman. As pickup artists we're not going to be satisfied with enjoying just one work of art. Moving on is not going to be so easy for the girl who gave her virginity to you. And it's not just a matter of you being her first lover; it's also a matter of the fact that you're the first man who may have made her orgasm and released all that oxytocin in her system. She's never experienced that with anyone else before, and you have no idea what that feels like because we men don't get an oxytocin rush in response to orgasm. I can only assume from past experience that women experience a very deep level of attachment to their first lovers. Sure, some women may want to get rid of their virginities just for the sake of losing their virginities, and may have no initial desire to become attached to the first man they fuck, but their bodies always tell them something different from their conscious intentions. As PUAs we already know this.

It's a lot more trouble than it's worth.

What is a normal person? Well, that can really vary, but generally speaking I would say that a normal person is a serial monogamist, as in, they have LTRs... and they generally aren't too picky about their girlfriends. They "settle" a lot.

I would say that a "normal person" would more often be better qualified for taking a girl's virginity because they do not possess the conscious intention of seducing a plethora of women just to gain exp and level up.

PUAs are players. We play for fun. More often than not, this shit isn't just a game for virgin girls. It's some serious shit. I don't want to take someone else's serious shit and trivialize it for my own selfish physical desires. That's fucked up.

There are plenty of sexually experienced women who view sex as something you can have with no strings attached, or whatever the hell you're looking for as a PUA. Virgins have no idea what the fuck they're doing. Leave the children alone and play on your level.






Great post chief! lots of great advices and makes men realize about everything that they are doing.. for me most men just don't give a fuck if they bang a virgin and their mind is saying "what am i going to lose? i am a man i'm not gonna lose anything if i bang this virgin" but the point is you are just gonna destroy the girl .. Leave her better than you found her

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