Hey,
My name is Jimmy. That's out of the way. I know I'm probably going to get a lot of backhand for this, but I'm a teenager. I got here, mainly from the book "The Game" by Neil Strauss. Enough about how I got here, I got a problem.

I'm really into this girl (Fink she's da one) and stuff that I'll probably get over later. Problem is, we've only ever talked over Facebook. I know she goes to an all girls high-school close to mine, and I have a lot of mutual friends that know her. I'm a bit late now, because I've made lots of mistakes. I know, I'm a schmuck and stuff like that, but I didn't find this (or the book) until recently.

Alright, here's the background info:
I've known her for maybe a month/month and a half. I've tried to meet up (just as friends) twice and failed. I tried to ask for her number and failed. I know that, for you guys, you'd probably just move on, but I would like to salvage as much as I can.

Can anybody help?

Thanks in advance!

Jimmy

Hey man, welcome to the forum!

I'm no expert on this stuff but I've had a very similar situation to you regarding a girl you like, you know her over facebook and wanna hook up but nothing ever happens. You say that you've tried gettin her number and want to try and meet up somewhere but it never goes anywhere or nothing manifests.

I've had that a few times, where you're putting all your effort into the girl and she's not giving anything in return which just in the end causes you pain and self doubt in yourself. I've been in that alley before. This one girl I knew was really nice, I never wanted to get with her in a sexual way I just wanted to goto a club with her/take her to a movie/hang out etc, be her good friend...but nothing ever happened and she kept on making excuses that she had other plans. Eventually I realized she's just not interested. Girls like that take work and if you're a beginner and just getting into the game, it might take even longer chasing one girl when there are plentiful amounts out there just waiting for you everywhere.

My advice is, don't settle for the first girl you see or fancy. Just move on dude, if your putting all the effort into her and non into yourself, your going to seem desperate and even if or when the day might come that she does reply to you, she'll be able to pussywhip and persuade you into things she wants and then she'll be the alpha over you and she'll know that you want her attention just like a puppy. Dont be the puppy.

Leave her be man there will always be others.

Hope that helps

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Hey O'Ryan,

Thanks for responding! I totally get where you're coming from, and my head is telling me exactly the same thing. There is a couple of things I would like to get right, though.

First, she's not the first girl I liked, I've gone out before, but not like a professional or anything. I understand that they come and go. Another is that there isn't really better choice around where I hang out (If you know what I mean!) so I would like to just give this a shot before I completely abandon ship, do you know what I mean?

Thanks,

Jimmy

Yeah I get you man, there alot of girls that are not really that great lookin either so ot exactly spoiled for choice, thats why you go out there to clubs and whatnot and see what available to you're not just stuck and content to one type of girl you know? Guys I know go out with ugly ass chicks because they cant do any better and just take what they can get. Thats not how I roll.

Whatever your decision be, go for the girl if you really wanna, but if it ends up badly or not the way you want it you'll have a pre-exisiting subconcious decision that all or most girls are like the one you're wanting from this one so you'll then associate all the things you want from this chick to all other girls later in life and that mess up things.

Thats just my opinion.

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I totally understand what you're saying! We're on the same wave length So if I completely understand the risks, and still wish to pursue this further, what would you suggest my next course of action be?

I'm going to be honest, I cant help you past that. Since I made the conscious decision that I don't want to chase girls that make me put more effort into them I stopped chasing them. But, what I can say is that if you can maybe get an idea of where she maybe likes to hang out, like at a club or mall per say, you can learn some techniques on how to come across as an Alpha Male (Alexander Technique) and have some good game on how to interact with her on a good social level you might be able to pull it off so when you finally approach and she starts talking with you, she'll invest in you and she might just end up chasing you getting you the affection you want instead of the other way round.

I'm still an AFC but I do know where you're coming from. For now, thats I can offer you

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Thank you so much, man! You've been a great introduction to this forum! I will no doubt use this a lot, and maybe contribute one day

No problem man, let me know how it turns out on this thread yeah?

“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it”

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