Now...us here in the forums are all about picking up women to make us feel better, and more important to people. But there is an even simpler, and much more satisfying way to feel better when times are tough.

To me, being in the Venusian Arts is more of a lifestyle change than it is finding out how to tactfully attract women. A true pick-up artist allows his appreciation for things beam from every aspect of life. So you may be asking yourself, "Where am I going with this?..."

Basically I'm trying to teach you how in a nanosecond you can make yourself feel better at all times, as apposed to only feeling good once you've gamed a girl successfully, cause we all know that feeling of not succeeding in a night where everything seemed to not go your way...you want to feel better fast, and this is the easiest way to go about it. And if you use this strategy throughout your day, you'll always feel good.

This strategy works so well and it’s so simple. You can do this at home, at work, with friends, family or even with anyone at all.You could even do it with a stranger. What the heck am I talking about?

I’m talking about feeling good. There is something you can do right now that will make you feel better almost instantly and here’s how to do it.

In order to feel better fast, you want to stop thinking about yourself and you want to turn your attention to others. You want to start thinking about someone else. And when you do this, you want to do something very specific… you want to tell that other person how much you appreciate them.

It’s sounds so simple, doesn’t it?

Well it works and here’s why. When you tell someone how much you appreciate them, you make them feel better; and when you make someone else feel better, you also feel better.

That’s the trick. Make others feel better and you’ll feel better – and what better way to make others feel better than by letting them know that you appreciate them.

Here are 3 ways to show your appreciate for others and feel better fast:

1. Appreciate your Boss.

I remember this one time when I was working full time as a construction worker. All the employees received a letter in the mail from the president. It was about Christmas time and the president of our company decided to give everyone an extra two days of paid holidays. ”Wow, is that ever nice of him!” I thought to myself. Then I drove over to the presidents office and personally shook his hand and thanked him. That put a smile on his face and it put one on mine too!

2. Appreciate your Parents.

Just the other day I was in the grocery store and saw two University students in line at the cash. It made me think of the time when I was in school and had very little money. It was at this time that I borrowed money from my parents so I could put food on the table and pay the bills. I felt such a deep appreciation for my parents that I decided to phone them up.

I got on the phone and dialed. My dad picked up:

Dad: “Hello”

Me: “Hey dad I just saw some students at the grocery store and it reminded me of that time when I had no money when I was in school. I just wanted to let you know that if I didn’t have money for groceries and living I wouldn’t have been able to finish my degree. I really appreciate what both you and mom did, working those extra hours to put me through college.”

I think my dad was stunned because there was silence on the phone. Then he suddenly spoke again,

Dad: “Well, it was the right thing for us to do and your welcome.”

That made me feel awesome, and I think it gave my dad some of that awesomeness too

3. Appreciate Your Neighbor.

My neighbor Dom is a very hard worker and a really handy guy. He knows his tools and always has great advice for making house repairs, doing landscaping, etc. Without Dom life would be much more difficult. He’s the type of guy that every neighborhood should have because he makes life easier.

Dom just loves beer. So one afternoon I was driving home and I thought, “I’m going to pick up Dom some beer,” and so I did.

I remember the look on his face when I gave him the beer. He was shocked and all I said was, “I really appreciate the extra effort you make to help us out with house repairs, letting us borrow your tools and that sort of thing so here’s a case of beer to show our appreciation. Thank you so much.”

He looked so happy and I felt happy too.

These are just a few examples of how I’ve shown appreciation for the people in my life, but there are many others. I feel we as pick-up artists need to be more in tune with our own emotions, and ways of thinking...especially while you're a beginner in the community because there is so much canned material that actually breaks you away from your own way of thinking. That's why there is so much talk and need for understanding about natural game. And really...when you get down to the root of what pick-up is...it's about connecting with people, and the best way to connect is to think of others first, and show love to them in a surprising manner.

So how do you show appreciation for the people in your life?

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You really got it. This is probably the best thread in this forum.
Congratulations!

Yeah If you make other people feel good then you feel good too!

Its like one time Me and my friend was at the gym working out, then a guy pretty big come and said "hey you two are working out in a great tempo! Keep up the good work!"
Me and my friend really got a confident boost! so now every now and then when i see people at the gym that are working hard i always say that to them.

Appreciation and gratitude are the strongest emotions that totally raise your energy! I always try to feel gratitude for the things in my life most people just take for granted, but showing your appreciation for somebody is even better, I'll definitely do it more often

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I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

Apreciation feels to me like a coin: it also has a flipside. It is mostly effective when deserved.This is my experience:

In january, there was a girl who's birthday was coming up. It was just a friend of mine, a girl from my work group at university. She had a kind of arrogant attitude, but PU teached me to not judge girls by that way. Altruistic and idealistic as I was, I just thought: "hey, let me give her a very original, personal birthday present. Not some shit that just everyone gives. I don't want anything in return from her but the feeling you get when you just made someone a slightly happier". I repeat, I did not want anything of her.

As I was a starting dj then, I was quite bussy with exploring it. I came with the idea of making some very cool music mixes: when chill out, and an other with the hottest party songs at the time. I spent hours making the mixes, perfectionistic as I am. My CDs crashed, so I had to buy new cds to burn the mixes on it. I created a professional made like cover with the foto of all her friends with her included. It looked like a Hed Kandi or Ministry of Sound album. I realy enjoyed making it. When it was finished I slept with it on the table next to my bed because I was so proud of it.

But because my computer and printer didn't work very well, I said on her birthday party that I would bring it later because it wasn't realy finished yet. Her face looked like she didnt care.
A few days laters, I went with some friend including her to someone house just to chill there. When she came there, I was chilling with some other people. I just gave her the cd, didnt speak to her all that night until the end. Then she said superficialy thanks to me, adding that she hopes she wont forget the cd at that house. A minute latter, her posh parents came pick her up (like she wasnt old enough (19) to go home by herself).
A few days later, I asked her if she liked the cd. She told with a slightly regret that she forgot it at that place, but she "realy appreciated it". She never asked the guy at whose house the cd lies to take it with him someday so she could get it back. When she told me she forgot, I was so dissapointed that I couldnt barely bring up a look at her: she disgusted me and she saw that I was disgusted by her.

It kind of opened my eyes: people are way too busy with themselfs that they actualy don't care about the rest anymore. They only want attention from others to feel good about themselfs.
It is like you can't give to or appreciate people without them thinking that you want something of them. Many people are worrying so much about themselfs that they try so hard to be like the rest: they all addopt the same accent, blackberry or iPhone, style, humour and view on life, in such a way that they can't have an own personality anymore, or that they can't appreciate things that are different or new. They don't want to meet new people, don't want to try out new things and they just stay in their boring life.

After that, more events brought me to the same conclusions. I've spent the next month after that deleting all superficial friends and contact and stoped giving a shit about those people, and kept a few social friends with whom I have great times and laugh loudly, can have conversations in depht, who are not affraid to have an other opinion and who dare to say what they think in an assertive way. Those people are the people who realy show their appreciation and are not scared to give appreciation and compliments and get in return. I realy appreciate those people, and it makes me happy that I can freely show it to them because they deserve it.

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You CAN make a change.
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i like it! and it so fucking simple lol. i'm going to start doing that as soon as i open my eyes in the morning

Reminds me of my AFC times when I bought a flowering plant for this certain girl on valentines day. She took it, immediately forgot about it, and one week later it was dead.
That was the point when I learned to not spend any time anymore with people that clearly don't deserve my time. I still meet her every now and then when clubbing, and she still hates herself and her live

another quick feel good technique....Do pranayama for 30 min (controlled breathing) then cycles the increased energy through your chakras...after you get to kether, let it rain down on you....after this you will instantly feel relaxed, energized, and experience incredible bliss. You will become perfectly contented, and ready for anything; accepting reality and loving every minute.

Nice post.

#3 doesn't apply to me though. My neighbor killed my cat. : (