Been texting this girl back and forth for about 3 weeks now. Starting talking to her on Match. First time I asked her out she was busy. The second time she canceled on me 3 days before. How can I get her out without sounding desperate? I feel like if I dont make a move soon it will die. What you guys think?

Thanks,

Halfagangster

Come to her work and pick her up and drive wherever you want to. Don't tell her where you're driving and don't tell her you plan on doing it, make it a surprise.

Tyler Durden once said that his current gf of 3 years flaked him for 4 times before they met, now he's in a very loving and a meaningful relationship...don't throw it right away.

You met her on a dating sight so she understands up front that you are there with a purpose. Many people are on dating sites because they have busy lives. I have been very successful pulling from POF. The question is have you been running decent game on her while chatting? Are you flirting and making her laugh, making the conversations somewhat sexual? Is she flirting back?

Can you give a little more information because it could be she had legitimate reasons, but it could also be that she sees a great guy who she is not sexually interested in.

Chatting/texting is the best part of my game...

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I met a girl online who is the 'super busy' type. The key is to act unaffected when she says she can't hang out with you. As interesting and cool as this girl may seem, it's important to not invest more into the relationship than she is.

What's worked for me is sending her random texts every few days or so just to stay on her radar. Also, if you find that she's always too busy, then don't invite her out so often. Limit your invites to once every 3 calls or so. Be that cool guy that has a lot of options and isn't pressuring her for anything. If she's interested, she'll eventually come around. If not, maybe she has hot friends

Crypto, what you said was spot on. I'm more of texter than a caller, just wondering your thoughts on what works better in terms of pushing the relationship forward when you are unable to meet up so often.

I am currently dating a HB9 and when I started chatting with her I had solid IOI coming from her. She flaked out on me twice...I didnt get angry, I just slowly reduced the amount of attention I was giving her then completely stopped for a couple of weeks...then I sent her some random silliness "Pardon me, but do you have any gray Poupon?" she laughed and 3 days of random flirting later she was calling me at 10pm and begging me to come see her. "NEVER FALL FOR THIS SHIT TEST" just say "it would not be safe" or "I would like to but we dont know eachother like that yet". That type of answer takes her power away.

Wait a little while and ask her to meet you somewhere random (i.e. mall, coffee shop, book store, etc...) but ask it like this "Hey I need to grab something at Barns & Noble this week, you should tag along. What day would be better for you Tuesday or Wednesday?" By presenting it like this you are forcing her to commit, you dont give her "No" as an option. When she says "ok, Wed" then you say cool, Im gonna grab a coffee afterwards too.

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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

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The text messages I've been sending are light and funny. I even played the question game over text for one night. She definitely knows that I am interested. I usually am bad at making things sexual...just don't want to fall in the friend zone.

Making things sexual does not mean "Hey i like you and want to F%#k"....

This is a good example of a short exchange...

Example 1:
Her: "Blah blah blah, with attitude"
You: OMG you are such a brat!
Her: No I am not (usually always defend themselves)
You: I bet you are a troublemaker!
Her: No I am not
You: You definitely need a spanking...LOL

Example 2:
You: You are way too innocent for me
Her: No Im not (usually always defend themselves)
You: I bet you were the teachers pet...Haha
Her: Yes/No (dosent matter)
You: I would have so pulled your hair back then...

With little exchanges like this you causing her to qualify herself "No im not" and also making her laugh. Both conversations above are sexually charged...

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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

Thank Cryto,

Meeting her up for lunch next Thursday. Wish me luck...