I'll try and keep this as short as I can. Don't want to bore you all ha. This isn't really for pu but if I cant hold conversation between 3 people in my social circle Ive not really got a hope with other groups.

So last night I went out with my oneitis and her friend and then met up with some of their friends there. I have accepted the fact that nothing is going to happen between us and I am firmly in the friend zone. I haven't tried anything with her really apart from slight kino but yeah anyway Ive accepted the fact. I know why I have oneitis for her. She has plenty of flaws. She is a 10 in my eyes but when I really aasess the situation she is only a 6. It's just because she is there and it is someone I am comfortable talking to which is why I have oneitis for her. I mean there are plenty of other woman way nicer but it means I have to work for them. She is available to me.

My problem is even though I am able to happily have a conversation with her and her friend I felt like I was being shut out constantly when there was just us 3. My oneitis and her friend would be talking about their work experience that they both went to at the same place. And normally I would be able to just butt in and add my view etc but they were talking really quiet to each other plus we were in a club watching a band so the only way I could hear them would be if I went right up to them with my ear tilting my head right in.

I just felt like a chump all night. It totally fucked up my game. I was meant to go back to her friends flat with them all at the end of the night. 7 girls and me the only guy. I just didnt feel up to it after being the odd one out all night. Can't belive I turned something like that down. Nothing would have happened between me and my oneitis but her friends...who knows.

At the end of the night I said Im getting off. hugged my oneitis, shook her friends hand and just waved bye at her other friend. I mean a wave. fucking hell I feel like such a douche. To add insult to injury I had to witness my oneitis kissing a guy she knew there. Brilliant!

Should I have just called them out on it about including me in their conversations?

Also I left my shirt at the oneitis's friends flat and I asked her to bring it home and Id pick it up today. How should I approach the situation becuase she probably thinks I was being boring all night & I went home early. I dont want to say sorry for being boring. Im not apolagising. Anyone know the best way to word it? Or should I just turn up in a completely different mind set all happy and enthusiastic etc and not mention last night?

Any advice?

Really appreciated!

Anybody?

1. Read the announcements in the forum boards, especially if one says "READ BEFORE POSTING"

2. You have oneitis. That's a problem you must address first. GFTOW. No "buts" about it.

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God..... whats the problem?

You should have just open sets around them, make them see you talking with other HBs, within 30 seconds they would be all over you. Fuck them, really. You were in a club? There are other girls there? Just open other girls... you are there with two girls yourself, so you had some social proof, nearby sets should have opened easily.

As harsh as it may sound, I gotta agree with the above. Because you have oneitis, you probably felt like not opening or whatever. But you gotta get over that.
That may have been a harsh sight, but how would your oneitis have taken it if she saw you make out with 3 or 4 different girls that night? Get over your oneitis as soon as you can. Listen to Chief. GFTOW.