I have fucking had it

I opened a single target today with an opinion opener. Almost right away she was giving me IOI's. They weren't sexual IOI"s at that point, but the interaction could have headed in the right direction. She was giving me lots of cute smile's and offering input unsolicited. Along with that, there were many conversational topics I could have steered, with the information she gave.

I actually kind of felt scared and insecure with her giving me IOI's. I have had some self-esteem issues and never thought enough of myself for a woman to actually like me.

What do you guys suggest to get over this fear?

thanx

It's perfectly normal to feel like that. Remember, keep approaching and writing down or somehow record what you have learned. If you can, get a digital recorder. Listen to it. Don't let your emotions fuck with you.

We are designed evolutionary to have the anxiety of the unknown. It's a safety mechanism. Don't let it fuck with you.


Keep the sarge going,

Conan

Your problem is inner-game. Stop talking yourself down and start telling yourself your the shit. Do these 4 recommendations and it will change your life:

1. Make a list of 25 reasons why you're great and read it every morning before you start your day and every night before you go to sleep for atleast the next 21 days.
2. Stop having negative inner-dialogue with yourself. Any time you say some negative in your head about yourself, stop yourself and follow it up with two compliments about yourself.
3. Any time you see yourself in the mirror or in a reflection tell yourself you're the coolest and best-looking mother f'er on the planet.

Don't become an arrogant asshole, but this should help you get over your self loathing.

By starting pickup with the indirect guys then you are open to a lot of these problems. You essentially build from the top; you work from the outside inwards, ect.

It's much better than nothing, and will definitely get easier. Especially knowing that you can acknowledge problems that you are having.

Sounds like a combination of fear and lack of experience. You can work on your confidence but more important is that you keep doing even if you feel uncomfortable. Pushing your comfort zone is key.

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Thanks for the help guys

This has been happening to me ever since I started approaching. I open a set, get some conversational topics to explore from the target and then get nervous and leave. The other day, my target mentioned where she was from. At that point I froze up and couldn't think of a way to respond.

Another part of what gets me nervous is the feeling of awkwardness of switching topics. I feel like if I do that, I come off as disingenous.

Do you guys know a proper way to smoothly transition?

Thanks

This reminds me - whenever a HB that I have opened mentions where she is from I instantly try to show off as much knowledge as I can about the place which can impress her and DHV.

Of course this can not be pre-planned so I guess maybe sit and research as much as you can about random towns and cities in the world to prepare you in advance? Seriously.