Hey I have this female friend, some hidden sexual tension occurs between us, but for the most part we are just close friends, and she has a boyfriend too.

The thing is sometimes she sets expectations for me as a friend that you should only set for a boyfriend and it causes some fights between us.

Recently I was busy doing some stuff and didn't return a 2 texts of hers because A) I didn't see them for a few hours later and B) they weren't texts you respond to, just her making random statements.

Didn't hear from her for 4 days and I was super busy myself so I wasn't able to get a hold of her. Then she texts me a question about getting together for an event in a few months. I wasn't sure because I had tentative plans to take a trip to Flordia to meet and HB10 that my buddy knows. I called my buddy, he didn't back to me until that night. I forgot about responding to her until the next day, so I decided to call her to let her know my answer and catch up.

I didn't get a response. I tried a few days later to contact her to see if she wanted to hang out, no response. She texts me back and accuses me of ignoring her. I basically said I wasn't and I was busy doing stuff, she didn't buy it and I said whatever and blew her off.

I know shes in the wrong and I am totally prepared to not speak with her again if need be. But in fights like this she won't apologize and starts talking to me again like nothing happened. I feel I deserve an apology but I don't know if it would be AFC of me to demand one. So if this situation comes up do I just go with the flow like normal or demand and apology?

If you get an apology from her, it will most likely be,
"oh, eh...sorry...so, what are you doing?"

I'm wondering, is there really a boyfriend?
What is their relationship like?

It's obvious, she wants more attention but if you are just friends, then if you are busy, you are busy and you will get back to her. If you are willing to...
not talk to her anymore, then you shouldn't need an apology... for all you know, she is telling her girlfriends how you are ignoring her and you don't even say sorry...dick! LOL

If she doesn't want to understand or believe that you had something going on, drop and go from there.

Oh...are you even interested in this girl?

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[quote]I'm wondering, is there really a boyfriend?[/quote]

Yes there really is, and their relationship has been on the rocks a few times. I think shes planning on moving in with him soon though. But I feel he has a tough time reading her and she has strong commitment issues.

[quote]Oh...are you even interested in this girl?[/quote]

Yeah I've told her before I have feelings for her and we've done some inappropriate groping before (when her and her boyfriend were on the rocks) but then she went back to him after and I said some AFC things and it caused a fight. But there's always been some flirting in our relationship, as there is with a lot of my female friends.

And I agree she needs to understand that I am just busy sometimes.