so like most of u i am new here. been reading The Game. Love this book. I want to become a PUA. not just to get girls but to become a more confindent happy outgoing person. Wel to start off I am not terrible with the ladies. Girls find me attractive I do flirt alot but the thing is sometimes I am just to shy. Being shy has held me back in life so much. I am working on this now. Just sometimes its hard for me to open up to people. I am in college now going summer school and in the Army getting ready to deploy very soon at the end of the summer. any tips? What should I begin doing slowly to become less shy? What should I do to help me become a better PUA? any tips and stories well help thanks and ttyl real soon!

Im new like you bloke, and I may not know all the tricks, but being shy is a self-concious factor of not being accepted. Like Nervousness and Anxiety, being shy is just a disbelief in yourself. When you Open that window of Oppotunity and Learn to Accept yourself, this 'Barrier' will be broken.

Good pointers I have always used against Women when im feeling shy or nervous is to constantly say to yourself in your head;

'This is just game, I am who I am'.

Being shy will not be a factor to you anymore becuase at the end of the day, we are ourselves and we don't change for anyone but ourselves. When you have succesfully mastered this, no girl/women can make you shy or nervous, or make you stress out.

Cheers.

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Hey, i also am fairly new to the whole pick up community. What i would suggest to get over shyness which is what im walking on now also is to push yourself out of comfort zone as much as possible. Do thing's like sing karaoke in a packed bar or join a club and learn something new and try to socialize with everyone there. These are things that i am doing and trust me at first i hated doing it because for me this was pushing my boundaries compared to what i used to do with my life, but once you keep pushing you're boundaries more and more the things that used to make you shy seem like nothing.
Good Luck

thanks n yea i understand sometimes i do feel insecure but working on it. im sure all of use can over come this.. i havebeen pushing myself lately too! hopefully this PUA thing will do me good in life and with women. Well got to do the deployment first lol then pick up where i left off..

Agree with what Lykos said, but I think it's also important to understand and then confront what makes you shy. Probably, it's concern for the opinions and judgment of other people.

Maybe it's a control thing. By not allowing them to form opinions of you, then you're in control, right? Conversely, if you lead everyone in the room to form the same opinion of you, then you're also in control. So maybe you know -- before ever leaving the house -- that the people you encounter in the bar or coffee shop are going to know that you're on the pull. Just like they know you're a soldier when you're wearing the Army gear. You know it, they know it. And who gives a shit if they do? By having that cavalier attitude, you'll attract the curiosity of the women in the venue.

I know that's a big newbie mission, so I'd suggest you practice in small ways, with unattractive strangers. So a clerk blithely asks, "How are you?" and you smile big and say in a loud voice. "I'm TERRIFIC. Thanks for asking! And how are YOU?" Other people will turn to see this chipper guy with the booming voice, and what do you care?