Sexual tension is an uncomfortable feeling for many guys including myself. When I start to feel sexual tension, I'll do things to make this uncomfortable feeling go away. I'll do things like move the conversation in a more platonic/nonsexual direction, act nonsexual, or eject myself from the situation completely. Vin DiCarlo explains that guys who are uncomfortable with the feeling of sexual tension do things like this automatically, because the feeling is so uncomfortable that we can't handle it. He says what we need to do is raise our threshold for sexual tension so that we can not only become comfortable with it, but actually enjoy the feeling of sexual tension.

DiCarlo explained this very well in his Dominant Sexual Power product and it made a lot of sense to me. Unfortunately, his solution to this problem (replacing your limiting beliefs with empowering new ones) was only briefly explained and it hasn't worked very well for me.

Does anyone have any other advice for how to raise your threshold for sexual tension?

I think once you've experienced it enough, you learn to appreciate it - after all, the charm in picking up a girl isn't the sex, it's the buildup! Next time you feel it, just try to relax and enjoy it - feelings like these are what life is all about.

I totally aggree foolish

I mean I don't get it at all how you could not like sexual tension, I produce it all the time!

But to quote DJ Fuji; you only grow when you get out of you comfort zone
DISCOMFORT=GROWTH

Or to quote Nike; JUST DO IT!

haha totally my underlying problem, all smooth untill esclation, i call it EA (escalation anxiety)

okay seriously guys, just think about how far NOT escalating has taken you in the past! NOWHERE!!!
and since you have 'EA' you maybe never experienced anything bad when escalating too much, so what the hell are you afraid of?

Okay I'm totally physical with all the girls I know, it's my nature and it helps me game. Because if you game a girl and then hug 10 others she might get jealous and sees that you're a cool guy.


If you're in college, or maybe even school, and you don't hug every girl you see, there is something wrong with you!

next time you feel sexual tension just stick it out and try to say somthing and ull get usto it maybe shell leave mayve youll leave with her better than leaving alone

I'll give you an exercise to help you with this.

Ok, so go out one day... Night or day, doesn't matter.
Instead of your goal being "I'm gonna pick up girls today.", it should be "I'm gonna be a sexual beast today."
Yup, go out with no intention of getting any girls. Y'know what, when you're out, don't even ask for a number or try for a date. That whole day should be about sexual escalation. So, for every attractive girl you pass, do the standard pick up intro you usually do. Then go straight into sexual escalation.

Ex:
You: Hi. I'm blahblah.
Her: Hi. I'm blahblahblah.
(Then as you shake her hand, don't let go. Maybe give her a kiss on the backside of her hand. Y'know, touch her a bit.)

Now don't grab a chick's ass... Unless you really want to. I suggest doing this somewhat far away from your home because you really don't want to run into these chicks again. These chicks should be leaving you feeling different: This could be horny, weird, angry, flirty, whatever. If she walks away like nothing happened, then you didn't escalate far enough.

So... after a couple days or doing this to 50 or so girls, you'll have no problem with sexual tension.

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