First off I am new to this site I am a complete noob when it comes to picking up women. I'm pretty much a former geek. I am 22 and I have only been with 13 girls mostly 7's and 8's. Honestly though I really don't know how I was able to get with the girls I've been with. I don't know what I did or said but apparently I did something right. I thought it was luck but I am coming to realize that there is no such thing as luck when it comes to girls. You have to do something right.

A little background - I read some David Deangelo stuff a couple years back and that was the only decent advice I had ever gotten until a few weeks ago a friend of mine introduced me to the book The Game by Neil Strauss. I just finished reading that book yesterday and it has got to be the best book I have ever read. Last week I was about half way finished reading The Game and I decided that I wanted to go out and try to number-close some girls. I went to a club with a friend and I number-closed two girls. I was like wow, two numbers in one night - I did that? I had never gotten a girls number from a bar or a club before that. I didn't call them though because I didn't know what to do or say after I had their number.

Anyways, there's this girl at work and she is a genuine HB10 in my book. Honestly she is the hottest girl I have ever even talked to. I was too shy before and didn't have enough confidence to talk to HB9 or 10's. So anyways I finally worked up the confidence to talk to her and I have been talking to her at work here and there for about a week and every time I saw her I was throwing negs at her left and right and got her laughing too. Today I number closed her and asked her if she wants go go dancing tonight. She said yes and I was amazed. This stuff I've been learning really works!

I have a few questions though. When we go out tonight how do I kiss close and where can I find a list of IOI's that I should I look for? The only way I know how to kiss close is the one I read in The Game. Mystery's kiss close: "Do you want to kiss me?" if yes then kiss her, if maybe then "lets find out." and kiss her, and if no then "well I didn't say you could, it just looked like you had something on your mind." Should I use that kiss close or is there a better way? Should I keep using negs on her tonight? How much attention should I give her? I just need advice where to take it from here.

Thanks in advance.

I think it'll help if you're honest with yourself at first -- are you looking to hook-up or do you want a relationship? Just something to keep in mind. Knowing where you're going gives you a greater sense of confidence.

Signs That She May Not See You as Lame:

• extended eye contact (just a bit longer than necessary)
  playing with hair
  *asking questions about you*
  play fighting (physical or verbal)

If she's giving a lot of these, it probably means she's interested in you. The asking questions is particularly big IOI. When you ask a question, you are admitting to the ask-ee that you want something. Information. But if ur lady is asking a lot of questions, she is wants something beyond what your answers are giving her. And if she's curious, she'll want to keep you around to satisfy that curiousity. . . .At least.

Enjoy,

-H!j!nx

One master once said that there are no "number closes" or "kiss closes", they are just steps on the way to "F-closing".

Said that, I have recently been very surprised by getting quite a few numbers in a bar. One was very funny, because the girl whispered it pretty fast because her boyfriend was coming.

Now, my only advice here would be the standard: find 5 more HB10s and have fun, this way you won't be worried/obsessed with this particular beauty. She'll become "one of many", rather than being "the one".

I think this makes sense. I don't know much about all this and I'm curious to read your field report in a while. Good luck!

Max

Well I called HB10 tonight and no answer. Shot her a text and no answer. What did I do wrong?

I don't think you have done anything "wrong" except maybe excessive negging, though she did give you her #. I don't think her #is a big deal to her.
During your interaction with her I think maybe you weren't clued into whether or not she was giving you IOI's. She may just be flaking on you and here is a possible reason why. Going out with co workers is a whole different dynamic, as the girl might have fears of developing stereotypical labels associated with dating guys in the office after talking to them for 1 week. She may have fears about how an inter-office relationship could effect her professional goals with your company. Did she feel a good rapport with you? Did she feel comfort and trust in you? Does she know if you can be discreet? I think she is putting a lot on the line by agreeing to and actually going out with you. This is why so many people I have known in my life say, "Never date anyone in your office." It's just to much f**kin work, man.

Anyway, these are things we can't control, but we can control our reaction to them. Maintain your frame when you see her again. Jokingly tell her she's a bad girl for not replying to your call (this trying to elicit a reason for her flake) and just keep building rapport and trust.

Best of luck

I think when I see her again I'm just going to be like:

"Hey did you get your phone fixed?"

HB: "Huh?"

"Well you didn't answer my call on Friday so I thought your phone was broken."

no way dude, don't say that